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RE: how to punish a slave - 8/1/2007 10:01:22 PM

OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: chey

And humiliation may not have been proper word. If receiving some off color comments on a message board are going to do you harm then perhaps this is not the best path for you for many reasons. I'll be more careful with my words next time!

I said the venue was mild. And as far as off color comments: I believe the reaction wanted was not the reaction received. The wanted reaction was everyone telling her how horrible she is for lying and receiving a list of awful punishments. Which could be quite humiliating for some people.

Many people are submissive simply because they lack self esteem. So, yes, they could very well be damaged by even mild humiliation as punishment and I would also state that, yes, they shouldn't be in the lifestyle.....but they are.

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RE: how to punish a slave - 8/2/2007 11:25:42 AM

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Bobbi I honestly think that happens a lot though. Which is why posting can be scary, it was for me. I often do not come across the way I meant to be taken.

And I agree with you that some lack self-esteem. It scares me at times when I see it happening. I have my insecurities and I have had to make a conscious effort to evaluate how something made me feel, good or bad in order to relate it to my partner so that we could address it if it needed to be addressed.

When you think about it, it can be dangerous water to tread if you are not equipped and for as often as we see posts on the importance of knowing yourself, you needs, wants, insecurities,...being mentally stable etc...we can't make people take care of themselves.

In the original posters case I have no idea what his motivation was. For me it could have been one of two scenarios (maybe more however this what I saw): He really did not know what to do with her so he sent her here. Or finding those 15 ways to punish was a way for her to be able to hear the opinions of others as yes maybe even feel bad about what she did. Punishment over, they could talk about it but this way she possibly learns something about herself and he did not have to yell or whatever he would normally do to punish......I don't know.

I typically do not learn from being yelled at!
I do however learn from sitting back and taking in the good and the bad that have been said or done to me and trying to see if possibly I have projected something I was not aware of. And how can I change that or do I want to? And after thinking about it I may also determine that it was not me and in that case I won't get myself all upset over it.

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