RE: May Not Be Cut Out For This, After All...Jealousy

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ownedgirlie -> RE: May Not Be Cut Out For This, After All...Jealousy (7/29/2007 11:03:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SexyRed quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie quote: ORIGINAL: SexyRed What on earth are you talking about? My opinion, is MY opinion on this topic, therefore it is the right subject. How fucking stupid of you to question that. You spoke about a dom shoving every detail of his past down his submissive's throat, which is a different subject than what happened here. Hi owned. No, actually I was addressing the things the OP said and then globalizing it to make a point. Sorry to not clarify that. It was confusing, and likely where the other poster came to such a conclusion. There are either a lot of people NOT getting that the OP never said such a thing, or a lot of people addressing something having nothing to do with this thread. This happens occasionally, where the subject being discussed becomes skewed for whatever reason, and the next thing you know, everyone's drawing incorrect conclusions about whatever dom, master, sub, slave, pet, etc., is being asked about in the first place. Next thing you know, we've got a whole mob of people wanting to bring that evil person down, the rat bastard! I'm seeing conclusions about the dom in question here, which were never alluded to. Makes for an interesting Sunday morning :)

SexyRed -> RE: May Not Be Cut Out For This, After All...Jealousy (7/29/2007 11:06:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie quote: ORIGINAL: SexyRed quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie quote: ORIGINAL: SexyRed What on earth are you talking about? My opinion, is MY opinion on this topic, therefore it is the right subject. How fucking stupid of you to question that. You spoke about a dom shoving every detail of his past down his submissive's throat, which is a different subject than what happened here. Hi owned. No, actually I was addressing the things the OP said and then globalizing it to make a point. Sorry to not clarify that. It was confusing, and likely where the other poster came to such a conclusion. There are either a lot of people NOT getting that the OP never said such a thing, or a lot of people addressing something having nothing to do with this thread. This happens occasionally, where the subject being discussed becomes skewed for whatever reason, and the next thing you know, everyone's drawing incorrect conclusions about whatever dom, master, sub, slave, pet, etc., is being asked about in the first place. Next thing you know, we've got a whole mob of people wanting to bring that evil person down, the rat bastard! I'm seeing conclusions about the dom in question here, which were never alluded to. Makes for an interesting Sunday morning :) You are so right, owned. I think we should all just listen to LA, she always makes the most sense, Sunday morning and every other time. :)

caught4u -> RE: May Not Be Cut Out For This, After All...Jealousy (7/29/2007 11:09:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie quote: ORIGINAL: caught4u how can she leave it in the past, when he keeps bringing it up? she wants him to stop bringing it up so that she can be in the present with him. She has said several times that he does not keep bringing it up - that there was only this one instance, and that he actually has brought very little up. because she said in her first post that she was ready to leave him. its hard to believe that one indiscretion would make onself to want to leave someone she loves so deeply. if that is the case, there are bigger problems here i care not to dip into. Why does this conclusion continue to be where everyone goes?

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: May Not Be Cut Out For This, After All...Jealousy (7/29/2007 11:10:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: domiguy LA is level headed and ninety some percent of the time is dead on....The only person who consistently gives better advice...Well, it's me......LA...Great post. Yeah but you still always get the girls. Thanks! Highly appreciated quote: ORIGINAL: mistoferin It's about time you freaking admitted it! Thank God because I was feeling like I could never live up to your example.[:D][:D][:D] Hey I'm the one who slept until 1 pm on Sunday, so you guys kick my ass when it comes to not being a lazy betch.

ownedgirlie -> RE: May Not Be Cut Out For This, After All...Jealousy (7/29/2007 11:11:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: caught4u because she said in her first post that she was ready to leave him. its hard to believe that one indiscretion would make onself to want to leave someone she loves so deeply. if that is the case, there are bigger problems here i care not to dip into. That's pretty much what most everyone has trying to tell her (the part I highlighted). She's made it clear that it only happened once.

EatMeDrinkMe -> RE: May Not Be Cut Out For This, After All...Jealousy (7/29/2007 11:11:13 AM)
Sorry ownedgirlie that was meant for ugly red

caught4u -> RE: May Not Be Cut Out For This, After All...Jealousy (7/29/2007 11:12:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie quote: ORIGINAL: caught4u how can she leave it in the past, when he keeps bringing it up? she wants him to stop bringing it up so that she can be in the present with him. She has said several times that he does not keep bringing it up - that there was only this one instance, and that he actually has brought very little up. Why does this conclusion continue to be where everyone goes? Because she was ready to leave him in her original post. its hard to believe that one indiscretion would make her leave someone she loves deeply. if thats is true then there are problems her i care not to dip into.

ownedgirlie -> RE: May Not Be Cut Out For This, After All...Jealousy (7/29/2007 11:12:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: EatMeDrinkMe Sorry ownedgirlie that was meant for ugly red If you're gonna fire that pistol, be sure to aim it correctly. Or holster it. [;)]

mistoferin -> RE: May Not Be Cut Out For This, After All...Jealousy (7/29/2007 11:12:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross Hey I'm the one who slept until 1 pm on Sunday, so you guys kick my ass when it comes to not being a lazy betch. Oh, I bet that means Saturday night was gooooood!!!!!

EatMeDrinkMe -> RE: May Not Be Cut Out For This, After All...Jealousy (7/29/2007 11:13:38 AM)
I am the sister of Eat Me and I think this is all really stupid. If she has a problem with this guy's past and can't get over it then she shouldn't even try to be with him. All it will do is cause problems later.

BitaTruble -> RE: May Not Be Cut Out For This, After All...Jealousy (7/29/2007 11:41:55 AM)
~FR~ Quite a thread here. I've read most of the replies but haven't seen anyone address your actual dilema which I read as.. "How do I suspend my belief and forget what I know so I can enjoy my fantasy with my dom?" (If I've got that wrong, ignore what's to follow.) Maybe it's just me, but the answer seems so simple. You need to incorporate more detail into your fantasy with your dom so it becomes something that 'is' new for him as well as you. Maybe that means incorporating role-play so instead of the guy who did the same thing with that other woman that one time, it becomes The Evil Doctor who is taking the coma patient into his lair (car) or The Kidnapper who drags the wealthy socialite to his caddie then gets overwhelmed with desire for her and can't help that he needs to take her.. take her now! I don't know if you need professional help.. the issue doesn't seem to be that terrible to me.. but I do think you need to expand your creative muscle (and his, too!) if you want to be able to experience something that you have fantasized about for any period of time. Himself and I do this a lot, partly because both of us have pretty much tried it all both apart and together and we, as much as anyone else, also like to experience new things together. It doesn't have to be scripted.. pretty much anything will work. Details, details.. half the fun of the cooperative effort can be in working those things out. True, it's not as spontanious as it could be.. but then, you can work out details, then actual engage several weeks or months later (ok, so not during the winter [;)]) and still enjoy yourself a great deal. Good luck to you. Celeste

mistoferin -> RE: May Not Be Cut Out For This, After All...Jealousy (7/29/2007 11:42:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: caught4u Because she was ready to leave him in her original post. its hard to believe that one indiscretion would make her leave someone she loves deeply. if thats is true then there are problems her i care not to dip into. On page two she indicated that she may at some level wish she had never gotten into this relationship because he has past experience. quote: he told me before we before we became romantic that he has no fantasies because he's already lived them! Oh, God, why didn't I see that as a sign and walk away?

caught4u -> RE: May Not Be Cut Out For This, After All...Jealousy (7/29/2007 12:11:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mistoferin quote: ORIGINAL: caught4u Because she was ready to leave him in her original post. its hard to believe that one indiscretion would make her leave someone she loves deeply. if thats is true then there are problems her i care not to dip into. On page two she indicated that she may at some level wish she had never gotten into this relationship because he has past experience. quote: he told me before we before we became romantic that he has no fantasies because he's already lived them! Oh, God, why didn't I see that as a sign and walk away? maybe she didn't walk away because she seeks mental pain? so in other words its her own mind that keeps replaying these "scenes" with other subs and not the fault of her master. she is creating her own environment to feed her jealousy. like i said above, she has problems i care not to get into.

chellekitty -> RE: May Not Be Cut Out For This, After All...Jealousy (7/29/2007 12:50:41 PM)
omg, ya'll have way too much time on your hands...then again i read this whole thread and when i went to bed last night there were only 5 replies...of course i was talking to a friend, watching a movie and made chicken soup while i was doing it so maybe i am not so bad...oh well, enough of my insecurities... see i figured it all out a couple of nights ago...logic only works if you can agree what is true and false...and if whats true is constantly changing or cannot be agreed upon, logic has no place in a conversation...so...no matter how rational and logical i may want to be...i would be just hitting my head on a brick wall to try and convince the OP of any of the very valid points posted throughout the (at this time) 192 replies.... take care chelle

slaveluci -> RE: May Not Be Cut Out For This, After All...Jealousy (7/29/2007 12:57:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: julietsierra Normally I'd agree with you luci. What you say makes a whole lot of sense Thank you. I'm glad it made some sense anyway. quote: However, with all the comments from the OP regarding the things she's doing to hide herself from herself, I'd have to say, just from the information given here tonight, that this has less to do with "catching up" and much more to do with "measuring up." And the "measuring up" has to do with how she measures up to herself I see your point. Big difference there for sure[;)]...........luci

BitaTruble -> RE: May Not Be Cut Out For This, After All...Jealousy (7/29/2007 12:57:06 PM)
I was just thinking.. Himself and I have played around in a car.. but never while wearing flippers and a snorkle.. I am a Pisces.. so I can't believe I haven't thought of it before. [8D] Celeste

slaveluci -> RE: May Not Be Cut Out For This, After All...Jealousy (7/29/2007 1:00:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: domiguy Now it would piss me off if someone was always comparing me to someone else....I would be gone like a fart in the wind. I will mention past relationships or events only if it has context to the conversation....Not to try to make someone feel like they are not living up to some previous standard. If the guy is rubbing your face in it then leave....If he is just simply recounting a story, well then you have to decide is it done in a tactful manner. If it is simply a matter of jealously then it comes down to you dealing with your own demons and insecurities. [sm=applause.gif]........preach it, Tupac!!!! Well said, DG...........luci

mistoferin -> RE: May Not Be Cut Out For This, After All...Jealousy (7/29/2007 1:09:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BitaTruble I was just thinking.. Himself and I have played around in a car.. but never while wearing flippers and a snorkle.. OK...but of course you have played around wearing flippers and a snorkle right? Flippers make a pretty wicked paddle in a pinch and a snorkel works as a great gag.

slaveish -> RE: May Not Be Cut Out For This, After All...Jealousy (7/29/2007 2:55:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mistoferin quote: ORIGINAL: BitaTruble I was just thinking.. Himself and I have played around in a car.. but never while wearing flippers and a snorkle.. OK...but of course you have played around wearing flippers and a snorkle right? Flippers make a pretty wicked paddle in a pinch and a snorkel works as a great gag. I'll see your flippers and snorkle and raise you a life vest and a mounted (on top of the car) canoe.

SusanofO -> RE: May Not Be Cut Out For This, After All...Jealousy (7/29/2007 4:24:09 PM)
I think I am maybe the person who tended to "read into" the OP's original post when she said her partner had mentioned a BDSM encounter with an ex, in reference to something they themselves were planning on doing. I think maybe that could be due to my INFJ personality (based on the Myers-Briggs personality test) - I can, I think, tend to usually believe there is more going on than "meets the eye" and that ______ could be a symptom of someone doing _____ all the time, and in this case, her just not mentioning it, maybe partly due to wanting to seem "submissive enough", etc. Maybe that is what is happening, and maybe not. If he has really only done this once (brought up "fond BDSM encounters with his ex-partners", which I happen to think is in poor taste) then, I was probably way too hard on this guy re: Most of what I had to say. In any case, they need to have a talk about all of this, I think, because it seems to be hindering their relationship. Good luck to the OP. - Susan

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