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RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experi... - 7/31/2007 6:16:54 PM   
robertolapiedra


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Status: offline 		Hello BIllCT. Yup! one for 17 years, and the present one for seven. Nope, the kink ain't the longterm glue, love and communication is, same as all successful relationships. RL.

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RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experi... - 7/31/2007 9:13:07 PM   
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RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experi... - 7/31/2007 11:32:05 PM   
FelinePersuasion


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Status: offline 		See, you can't say that bdsm for every one isn't about play, or the sex, What bdsm is, is differnt for every one. Play is a huge part of my relationship, relationship maintence isn't neglected, and it's not all fun and games, But, yeah on a scale of one to 10 play time and lots of it, is a 6.
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ORIGINAL: BIllCT

How many have actually been in a BDSM or D/s Relationship in real life and understand that it is not all about the play, or sex, it is all about the actual relationship and making it last?.

How many realize the all that is included in a vanilla relationship also applies to a BDSM or D/s Relationship in full with the additional responsibilities of the kinks, needs,desires, wants, of said relationship?




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RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experi... - 8/1/2007 12:34:20 AM   
brightspot


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Status: offline 		Yes, almost 6 years since I found what I was
missing in D/s, 2 of those years in r/l relationship.
 
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RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experi... - 8/1/2007 1:35:08 AM   
lateralist1


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Status: offline 		All my relationships are D/s. It's who I am.
I just don't physically discipline anyone who hasn't agreed to it unless they really treat me badly. I have been known to slap someone without consent.
And no I'm not a control freak I'm just dominant.
As soon as I heard about BDSM I knew that it was what I needed. It's the honesty that floats my boat as well as the physical acts. Vanilla people aren't really that open about what they need/want.
I occasionally play with someone while I am looking for the right BDSM partner or partners.
I thought it would be easy. It isn't. I made assumptions that everyone was looking for a long term D/s partner it isn't true. Some people are happy not to have a partner in life. And some people want the 'play' so much that they will do it with anyone. Not much difference than in vanilla life really.The 'lifestyle' also reflects vanilla life in that it is usually women who want relationships more than men and men want 'play' more than women. Until they get older of course then lots of men realise that they don't want to grow old alone.

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RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experi... - 8/1/2007 2:08:50 AM   
RPutnamJr


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Status: offline 		Yes...looks not for the hanging chads but if the voting machine actually applied the vote properly...damn no printout...how can you tell?

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RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experi... - 8/1/2007 3:08:52 AM   
ColdIron


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Status: offline 		I have been doing this since 1985. I make my living within the lifestyle building equipment.
I have taught novices for years and helped novice Doms/Masters learn how to correct naughty subs/slaves without perminant physical injury. The lifestyle is no fun when someon becomes crippled. My wife was in the lifestyle until cancer took her. I have experience.

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RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experi... - 8/1/2007 8:50:14 AM   
GhitaAmati


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Status: offline 		Nope, never had any realife experiance, this is all just online roleplay right? I mean I thouht everyone here was just talking about fantasies...you mean yall really do this? gads.

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RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experi... - 8/1/2007 8:53:27 AM   
michaelOfGeorgia


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RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experi... - 8/1/2007 9:01:48 AM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		In other words: "How many of you big talkers have an opinion that matters, which means you agree with me?"

People's relationships are about whatever they want to make them about.  You do what's best for you, and let other people do what's best for them.

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ORIGINAL: BIllCT

How many have actually been in a BDSM or D/s Relationship in real life and understand that it is not all about the play, or sex, it is all about the actual relationship and making it last?.

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RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experi... - 8/1/2007 9:07:46 AM   
Kiltboy


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Status: offline 		Mhhh going on 12 years now.
And yes people do tend to forget at the end of the day it is actually all about normal human interaction.
Differance being we have a differant view on what others define as normal.

But then again my normal is another persons weird.

*smiles*

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RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experi... - 8/1/2007 10:02:31 AM   
imthatacheyouhav


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Status: offline 		To the O.P. yep realize it...am living it...and agree with you 200%

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RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experi... - 8/1/2007 10:04:10 AM   
imthatacheyouhav


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

In other words: "How many of you big talkers have an opinion that matters, which means you agree with me?"

People's relationships are about whatever they want to make them about.  You do what's best for you, and let other people do what's best for them.

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ORIGINAL: BIllCT

How many have actually been in a BDSM or D/s Relationship in real life and understand that it is not all about the play, or sex, it is all about the actual relationship and making it last?.


I must have missed the part where the O.P. insulted and judged anyone.....hmmm  

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RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experi... - 8/1/2007 10:24:09 AM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		He said that whoever agrees with him "understands" what BDSM relationships are about.

People determine what their own relationships are about.  We need some stranger on Collarme to tell us what our relationships are supposed to be about?

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RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experi... - 8/1/2007 12:34:01 PM   
solitudesmiles


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Status: offline 		proud to say yes. there are way too many on here that are looking for only the play side that they dont even begin to understand what they are missing....what comes out of making a realtionship last or try to. in this lifestyle the rewards are great
you get a deeper understanding of each other, theres deeper trust found in one another, theres the knowing that your nees will be easliy meet and theres deeper communication that you dont find in another lifestyle, beacuse this lifestyle is based in trust and trusting another.... but unfortainty the break up hits you far harder than it would in the typical vannila realtionship, but if you are lucky enough to keep it going and not let it fall to the wayside then i truly admire you 

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RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experi... - 8/1/2007 12:56:07 PM   
fadedlace


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Status: offline 		Yes, 2 longterm M/s relationships, one longterm D/s one, had quite a bit of BDSM experience over the years (never did understand how you could get BDSM experience online, but I guess some find a way.)  I tried an online thing for a month after I was widowed, and tried using the computer to meet real-life people around this area many years ago...dismal failure, both of those.  I don't use the internet for anything now except reading interesting items/sites, general chat, playing online games at a free game site, and keeping up with friends.  

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RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experi... - 8/1/2007 4:53:58 PM   
thornhappy


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quote:

ORIGINAL: BIllCT

How many have actually been in a BDSM or D/s Relationship in real life and understand that it is not all about the play, or sex, it is all about the actual relationship and making it last?.

How many realize the all that is included in a vanilla relationship also applies to a BDSM or D/s Relationship in full with the additional responsibilities of the kinks, needs,desires, wants, of said relationship?


yup on both counts...

thornhappy

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RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experi... - 8/1/2007 6:44:14 PM   
HydroMaster


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Status: offline 		Ooh ooh me me!  Why don't we get a voty box at the top though


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RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experi... - 8/3/2007 6:07:34 AM   
favesclava


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Status: offline 		real life for 6 months. no prior experience being a slave. this is what i was missing in my life. my joy is boundless, although still adjusting.

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RE: Poll, How many have actually had D/s Or BDSM experi... - 8/3/2007 6:37:09 AM   
SubinMaine


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Status: offline 		heh...i agree with LA...not ALL BDSM relationships are anything more than "play" so you cannot reasonably state how a BDSM relationship is "supposed" to work, only what works for YOUR relationships.

That being said, Sir and i have a r/t 24/7 relationship that includes the vanilla (family, bills, work, friends) and the D/s.  While O/our relationship is focused on the D/s aspect, W/we both realize that there will always be the additional responsibilities of the Vanilla life.


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