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LuckyAlbatross -> Doms are people, too. Wise up already subs. (7/31/2007 9:33:50 AM)
I dunno, just seems we got ourselves an influx of clueless newbies who happily leap into relationships with doms, clueless, idealistic- and then when it all crashes down to earth and reality, instead of saying "Wow I was stupid, shouldn't do that again" they say "Why do doms suck when us subs are so beautiful and wonderful?" I know, I know, nothing new, nothing different- clueless newbies are everywhere all the time. But felt like I should do something bold to hopefully help them out. Doms are people- you are an adult. Act like an adult who knows how to get involved with other adults using good sense. Getting into Ds relationships is NOT different from getting into vanilla relationships. Same issues need to be dealt with. If you get burned, take responsibility for what YOU did, face reality, and move on.

Aine -> RE: Doms are people, too. Wise up already subs. (7/31/2007 9:35:53 AM)
Amen

Missokyst -> RE: Doms are people, too. Wise up already subs. (7/31/2007 9:38:00 AM)
Gawd I love ya Em. Sometimes it seems like people use Ds to get out of taking personal responsibility. People are people, dom or sub. Thanks Kyst

MamaDomme -> RE: Doms are people, too. Wise up already subs. (7/31/2007 9:39:19 AM)
Standing applause to LA

earthycouple -> RE: Doms are people, too. Wise up already subs. (7/31/2007 9:42:44 AM)
I'm adding to the standing O! Nicely said.

LATEXBABY64 -> RE: Dom's are people, too. Wise up already subs. (7/31/2007 9:43:48 AM)
the reason that happens is Dom's are suppose to be leaders, educators, and guides and to help a submissive on their life journey. media hypes a lot of this so you have the balloon effect of a idealism of what they are. do they also step up to the plate no not always.. but they do need to do what they say and a sub needs to do this to a ying and yang balance it has to be only then will they find righteous good things..

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Dom's are people, too. Wise up already subs. (7/31/2007 9:47:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LATEXBABY64 the reason that happens is Dom's are suppose to be leaders, educators, and guides and to help a submissive on their life journey. media hypes a lot of this so you have the balloon effect of a idealism of what they are. do they also step up to the plate no not always.. but they do need to do what they say and a sub needs to do this to a ying and yang balance it has to be only then will they find righteous good things.. Thank you for supporting the baseless dogmatic drivel that keeps the false dream alive. Doms aren't SUPPOSED to be anything other than what they say they will be. And most of the clueless subs admit they knew very well what the dom was and ignored it, or they rushed in before they could make anything close to an informed choice.

chathamvahere -> RE: Doms are people, too. Wise up already subs. (7/31/2007 9:50:20 AM)
Could have not said it better myself!!!!!!

RCdc -> RE: Dom's are people, too. Wise up already subs. (7/31/2007 9:53:38 AM)
It's a post like this that perpetuates the lies. Geesh. Submissives can't educate then? And have no responsibility on their 'life journey'? Dominants aren't 'suppose' to be anything but themselves and what has been negocitated in the relationship they are entering... Peace the.dark.

LATEXBABY64 -> RE: Doms are people, too. Wise up already subs. (7/31/2007 9:54:21 AM)
your most welcome

chathamvahere -> RE: Doms are people, too. Wise up already subs. (7/31/2007 9:56:16 AM)
Hello, everyone, we see Vanilla there, don't think that fits, haha anyway lifestyle doms 10 years give or take, we just haven't posted anything on here as far as forums, this topic struck a chord with us.

LATEXBABY64 -> RE: Doms are people, too. Wise up already subs. (7/31/2007 10:04:12 AM)
everyone has a freaking phd in mental health to me it is what each person makes it. you can fallow the sheep baa baa or you can be unique or be stupid choice is yours after years in the lifestyle Realtime One lesson i have learned not matter what you say or do people will do what ever. wither it be a control freak. or someone who has mental issues. or some other reason they are here or maybe they are real who knows but It is up to everyone to find out on their own not for the world to dictate policy to them. try walking sone elses shoes oh wait i forget your shoes are to tight to get off.. maybe instead being so one sided maybe you need get out more and way from the pc namaste

umisprite -> RE: Doms are people, too. Wise up already subs. (7/31/2007 10:08:59 AM)
Agreed, LA. On both sides of the fence we are human first. Everyone needs to take responsibility for their own actions and their own journey.

MrDiscipline44 -> RE: Doms are people, too. Wise up already subs. (7/31/2007 10:14:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: chathamvahere Hello, everyone, we see Vanilla there, don't think that fits, haha anyway lifestyle doms 10 years give or take, we just haven't posted anything on here as far as forums, this topic struck a chord with us. Post more and the cone changes to something else.

Aine -> RE: Doms are people, too. Wise up already subs. (7/31/2007 10:14:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LATEXBABY64 everyone has a freaking phd in mental health to me it is what each person makes it. you can fallow the sheep baa baa or you can be unique or be stupid choice is yours after years in the lifestyle Realtime One lesson i have learned not matter what you say or do people will do what ever. wither it be a control freak. or someone who has mental issues. or some other reason they are here or maybe they are real who knows but It is up to everyone to find out on their own not for the world to dictate policy to them. try walking sone elses shoes oh wait i forget your shoes are to tight to get off.. maybe instead being so one sided maybe you need get out more and way from the pc namaste Unfortunately I won't be able to get back to this one until after work, but who the heck are you resoponding to here? I'm confused.

SimplyMichael -> RE: Doms are people, too. Wise up already subs. (7/31/2007 10:18:14 AM)
Hey Latex, Most people posting in this thread ARE real life and have far more experience than you IN REAL LIFE. It is the bullshit crap about how great dominants are supposed to be, how vital trust and communication are (without any real grasp of how healthy trust is formed or the fact that talking isn't communicating as we speak of it) and the sort of fluffy crap one reads on places like castlerealm that cause all the fucking heartbreak in our community. I was a pillar of the bdsm community when I was an asshole with anger issues. I am not running or doing anything at the moment and am a far better person than I was before. Dominants are people, with issues, problems, and whatnot. We are not superhuman, we are not perfect, and the louder someone bleeps about how they are the noble exception, the more full of shit I tend to think they are. LA is right, submissives often come into this thinking us dominants are the answer to their own dysfunction and they need to grow the fuck up and become mature responsible adults and deal with whatever issues they have first. The more we demand that of people, the more healthy our dysfunctional little community will become.

MHOO314 -> RE: Doms are people, too. Wise up already subs. (7/31/2007 10:22:26 AM)
Wow, I dont think I have ever seen you do a starter post----well in My time here---and a very very good one here---seems We Dominants are always expected to be super human--and yes we are people too, with lives, feelings, emotions, stuff---

spankmepink11 -> RE: Doms are people, too. Wise up already subs. (7/31/2007 10:22:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael LA is right, submissives often come into this thinking us dominants are the answer to their own dysfunction and they need to grow the fuck up and become mature responsible adults and deal with whatever issues they have first. The more we demand that of people, the more healthy our dysfunctional little community will become. My sentiments as well

CelticPrince -> RE: Doms are people, too. Wise up already subs. (7/31/2007 10:25:37 AM)
LA, Aside from this being an unusual post from you sans your long list of info addresses, this was one powerful post that should get folks thinking. Do not let it get suffled down on the list for too long. CP

heartfeltsub -> RE: Doms are people, too. Wise up already subs. (7/31/2007 10:27:08 AM)
The fact that one side of the relationship has ceded authority to the other side of the relationship, does NOT, (and thank you LA for pointing it out yet again), mean that he or she is ceding his or her personal responsibility to be a thinking, rational adult. And all the crap about how the Doms are responsible for everything is probably the one of the most destructive pieces of "teaching" that many both D and s-types are told. Couldn't agree with you more LA. heartfelt *Man i wish i could type

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