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Aquariansub -> RE: Fisting (8/31/2005 6:55:25 PM)

Bravo well said....Fisting was a fantasy for me when I heard it was possible....I did get to a point with my dom where I thought it was never going to happen but decided to just enjoy the four fingers and not worry about it. Then presto it happened and I agree there is something very "spiritual" about it a real sub space visit and the orgasms are incredible. The whole thing is enjoy it....go as far as you can and enjoy!!




chellekitty -> RE: Fisting (8/31/2005 10:03:32 PM)

thinking about all the experiences i've had with (almost) fisting i have to dissagree with a thing or two...mainly the two most stressed ideas...if a man gets regular manicures (from his sub is a great way to pamper your Dom) and uses lotion (i'm not asking ya'll to pariffin bathe your hands every night but a little care helps) gloves are not automatically necessary...unless the whole Doctor thing is a fetish...now if his nails ocassionally come up with blood under them durring regular fingering, then please do - common sense thing...now for some the ritual of putting on the glove helps...just my view....
secondly, i put enough lube out naturally for me and two others to be fisted...no need to use a whole bottle of ky just to open a girl up...again, common sense thing...learn whats right for you...
that being said, i have never gotten past that darned thumb knuckle bone...and personally i absolutely love it when they've gotten just past their knuckles and twist their hand....
oh something else that hasn't been mentioned...please take into consideration the length of the vagina when inserting things "straight"..and while tickling the cervix is exciting for me, for others its painful...my best female friend, has a very short vagina and her cervix is painfully brushed against with regular fingering...fisting is NOT for her....
hope my ramblings have made sense

chelle




MtPleasantsubAsh -> RE: Fisting (9/1/2005 1:55:38 PM)

I've only recently been fisted...really I've only been hving sex for the last two months...but WOW>....we atrted with a womans small hand..then went to My Dom's large cowboy hand....and yowza...it hurt....we didn't use gloves..but it only hurt on the way in...after it was in..i couldn't stop cumming...and when he pulled it out....OMG....i nearly passed out, and we had to get two towels to clean up...it was the msot amasing thing i've ever done..lol..which isn't much..
I didn't tear..but ...he scratched my labia...forgot to clip one of his nail..go figure.
:D:D:D:D




sultryvoice -> RE: Fisting (9/2/2005 6:56:46 PM)

I have tried fisting 3 times and nothing..My daughter was big and a forceps delivery..My pelvic bones are very close together. This has kept me from succeeding. I want to have it done but I don't think it is possible..My doctor commented that my bones were close together. I will try again but it looks like it won't be anytime soon..

I read that book A Hand in the Bush several times..I know everything was done correctly. Sometimes things just don't work out like you want!

Respectfully,
sultry




Aquariansub -> RE: Fisting (9/3/2005 7:24:46 AM)

I couldnt have any of my four children naturally I had C sections for all....fisting didnt happen for me straight away either I lost count on the amount of times we tried....however I got to the point as I said where I just thought it wasnt going to happen and decided just to enjoy the any number of fingers I could tolerate and enjoy at the time. The thing is ......enjoy it whatever no of fingers etc you can take there are so many wonderful things to enjoy with BDSM and fisting is only one of them.




nella -> RE: Fisting (9/3/2005 8:53:07 AM)

i have heard fisting hurt quite a bit, but at what point should one become worrid there is some serious damage being done?




chellekitty -> RE: Fisting (9/3/2005 9:26:49 AM)

personally...if fisting hurts, you're doing it wrong or for some other reason you should stop...it not really a pain play...




Aquariansub -> RE: Fisting (9/3/2005 4:29:43 PM)

I totally agree with Chellekitty its not a pain play and shouldnt hurt....if it does it should be stopped right there.




nella -> RE: Fisting (9/4/2005 5:43:27 PM)

ok thanks for the answer.




carefulsub -> RE: Fisting (9/12/2005 5:41:14 PM)

I did not tear but could not take all of his hand either.... My Dom has a larger hand and could not make it all the way. I do have to saty that it is important to go slow and use lots of lube..

careful




Sunshine119 -> RE: Fisting (9/12/2005 6:26:47 PM)

I've had two 10# babies and still haven't been able to quite get past my Dom's thumb knuckle. You'd think with such big kids, one fist would be a piece of cake! Just goes to show that mother nature may have a say in all this too. And while sometimes I'd like to send my kids back from where they came from, the door apparently doesn't work the same both ways. My in-ability to take in his whole fist reminds me that I'm not getting rid of them any time soon! LOL




softysub -> RE: Fisting (9/13/2005 5:23:35 PM)

The first time i was fisted, He had almost His fist in, i did bleed a bit, but it made me discover the g-spot as innocent i was (still am [;)]) i thought i was peeing and He was kind enough to explain that i was squirting........WOW what a sensation.

It took Him quite some time to do it, but with lotssssssssss of lube and for for me to play with my love button it helped me to relax and let it go since i was too uptight.

Best of luck [:)]

softysub




SubmittedWife -> RE: Fisting (9/14/2005 7:53:08 AM)

My Master tried to fist me on our first night in this new relationship. (We have been together, vanilla style, for years!) Well, I was so amazed at how far he got!!! I didn't think I could possibly take that size!!! I know my last child was a biggy but NOTHING like Master's fist! And OH MY GOSH!!! The sensations as He explored the whole of me! I know I agreed to give him my body and soul but I had no idea that submitting to someone else would feel so WONDERFUL! All I can say is I WANT MORE!!! Master has said he may give me another fisting as a Christmas present! I hope he does!!




plantlady64 -> RE: Fisting (9/14/2005 1:48:11 PM)

Hello There,
Until my Master I'd never been fisted either. Even now we've only done it four times ever. My Master has HUGE hands. He barely gets his hand in as far as his wrist. It's actually the knuckles that stretch and burn the heck out of me when we get started. Once He's in he just stays still for a few minutes until my insides stretch out some, then it actually feels good.
If you hook your fingers inside your edges of your lips (on your face) and pull your lips out to stretch them that's sort of the burning sensation I feel when he gets up to his knuckles.
My advice ( Which I got from a Black Rose presentation) is lube, lube, and more lube helps a lot, rubber gloves seems to make the getting in me much less painful as they seem to slide better than skin, and if you bear down and push like you're having a bowel movement it seems to help get the hand in as it relaxes your pelvic muscles.

They also said at the class I attended not to set your goal at your Dom being able to get his whole hand inside you, but rather being relaxed and enjoying the time spent together. She said being goal oriented will dissapoint a lot of ladies. She personally had never had kids and in 10 years of attempting to be fisted she'd never succeeded.




realophelia -> RE: Fisting (9/16/2005 12:40:10 PM)

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How painful is it? and is it dangerous if it hurt? my Dom have long wished to fist me, and i have agreed to let him.


I think it depends on how it's done. I found it pretty painful, but that was what was intended. I think it can be done so that it is not so painful, however, as well. Ophelia




RainGod -> RE: Fisting (9/16/2005 7:23:28 PM)

flirt posted this:

quote:

It isn't something you just open up your legs for and the fist falls in.


I dunno, flirt... that might depend on whose pussy we are talking about here... lol. I have seen one that completely swallowed what SEXTOYS.com called 'the world's largest Vibrating jelly dildo'.... and didn't even burp. Scared the shit outta Me. lol




CanYouMakeMeFly -> RE: Fisting (9/17/2005 6:55:22 AM)


Fisting is something I crave with the right partner. One that knows & understands how to fist without the potential of injury and is willing to take the time and be focused on YOUR pleasure - not his.

Use lube if needed. I've fisted without it - but the foreplay has to be intense. Once the foreplay has taken me to that place where I am ready.., he begins with one finger, with or without clitoral stimulation. With time working the second, third, and fourth fingers in. If your mind & body respond well at that point.., the hand is pulled back just enough to form a 'duck bill' with the thumb tucked under the fingers, narrowing the fist for insertion. Once inside.., the thumb can 'untucked' and if the angle is just right - the knuckle of the thumb hits your g-spot with each stroke. Explosive orgasms will overtake your mind & body at that point.

The keys..., complete trust in your partner, being relaxed, desiring to be fisted.., or wanting him to push your limits, lube, patience, and knowledge/understanding of the act so that you are not trying to hold back thoughts of 'what if xxxxxx happens while he's doing this to me'. Any mental roadblocks you hold will keep you from reaching the euphoria this type of orgasm can bring. Keep doing your Kegels.., always!! Learn all you can, have a knowledgable partner, and let go!

A great resource you may find of interest.., www.sexuality.org - search on 'fisting'.

Have fun..., and play safe!




Aquariansub -> RE: Fisting (9/17/2005 7:46:30 AM)

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I think what you have said is very appropriate...however I dont think it is physically possible for some with the differences of sizes etc. Mental roadblocks can have alot to do with the success however I dont think it is in all cases.




subsue6 -> RE: Fisting (11/18/2005 6:05:44 AM)

Hi Gemini:
As a lesbian sub who has been fisted fairly often, I can tell you it is the best when done right. But I would definitely second Gemini's comment about working up to it slowly, plenty of lube, and not forcing the issue. If the Domme's hand is not too large for her sub's vagina, eventually the sub will be able to take it all.
And there is no better feeling than a full hand in me as I orgasm while gazing in my Domme's idea, filled with gratitude to her, followed by total release. (I'm a squirter!)
sue




IrishMist -> RE: Fisting (11/18/2005 6:43:09 AM)


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ORIGINAL: proudsub

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does he actually place his entire fist inside you , as deep as the wrist


Yes, and the one time it was done to me i did tear and bleed some. These threads might help:

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The same with me. Though he was as gentle as he could possibly be, I still tore some. It was never tried again.




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