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RE: Sex workers in the BDSM and D/s lifestyles - 8/6/2007 10:40:53 PM   
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In my opinion, there's nothing wrong or dishonorable or hollow or meaningless about giving another person comfort and pleasure, whether of a sexual nature or not, even if money is exchanged in the process.  Just because someone gives another person money for the pleasure they're receiving doesn't necessarily make it a bad thing.  At least it is an honest exchange.  In many relationships, sex is exchanged for manipulative reasons, either to get something they want from the other person or as a form of punishment by withholding sex. 
 Prostitution, i believe, should be legalized and regulated, as it is in Nevada and many European countries.  There should be regular mandatory health check-ups of prostitutes, to include STD testing, and there should be public decency laws to keep sexually-explicit activities out of the public view.  Other than that, government should just stay out of the bedroom and out of the playroom and out of the hotel room and anyplace else that consensual adult sexual activity is taking place.  Receiving money from another for sex shouldn't be a criminal act.  It shouldn't be a crime to be a prostitute and it shouldn't be looked down upon by others.  Making prostitution legal would cut down on the crime element involved, that tends to put the prostitute in a position of being taken advantage of and abused.  Adults should be able to decide for themselves whether they want to pay someone for sex, or not.  It shouldn't be the job of government to make that decision for us.  Paying someone to have sex is, in my opinion, no different than paying someone for any number of other "personal" and health-related services.   People don't seem to have any problem with the idea of paying someone to give them a massage and have their hands rubbed all over their naked body or paying someone to listen to all of their deepest, darkest thoughts or paying someone to look inside and feel-up their breasts, anus, and vagina, all in the name of maintaining and improving their health and well-being.  Well, for a lot of people, being able to have sexual activity with another person is a matter of health and well-being, too.  Not everyone has, or even wants, an ongoing relationship with another who they can have sexual relations with, and others have relationships with someone who isn't able to have sexual activity.  Why should they be deprived of having sex with someone, (which many see as a basic human need of healthy adults), just because they would be paying for it? It seems to me, from what i have been reading on this message board, that the BDSM community in the U.S., at least by what i have seen represented on CM, are some of the most prudish and narrow-minded people anywhere.  With a few exceptions, this group seems to me to be highly judgmental of others who have different sexual interests and desires, even to the point of using very negative language about some people in their remarks. slave joyOwned property of Master David "Commitment transforms a promise into a reality."



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RE: Sex workers in the BDSM and D/s lifestyles - 8/6/2007 11:14:28 PM   
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i just have this image of them holding up a menu swallow twenty dollars spit ten and hand job five bucks lol

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RE: Sex workers in the BDSM and D/s lifestyles - 8/7/2007 1:43:19 AM   
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RE: Sex workers in the BDSM and D/s lifestyles - 8/7/2007 2:12:40 AM   
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Greetings Chains,


I checked out the links you posted. Lucky for me, they're basically using the exact same arguments as anything else people want leagalized (though other arguments I do support often contain more) so I was able to skim them. Just because a crime is still commited isn't a reason to leagalize it. Murder and drunk driving still exist, does that mean they should be sanctioned with a neat little taxation system and unions?

Your second link claimed that one millon people which they falsely, generously equated to 0.5% of American's engaged in prostitution. Given the fact we're talking about the 'worlds oldest profession' and something virtually anybody could do, I'd hazard that this is actually a pretty good job on law enforcement's part. Maybe they could go further and offer convicted prostitutes a way to make a lawful living upon time served. Or actively seek to bust the pimps, whore houses, and craigs list ads as well as the street walkers, sure, but just because law enforcement has always been racist and classist doesn't mean young poor girls arn't being exploited by pimps and johns.

I'm in no way advocating an act should be repealed, simply because it's commonly broken.  I'm advocating this law be repealed, because the law itself does more damage than good.  I feel the same way about drug laws as well.  Somehow we muddled through the first several thousand years of existance without oulawing substances; but "The Great Experiment" that was Prohibition was the grand daddy of organized crime as we know it, though.  Prohibiting alchohol did far more damage than good, methinks.  Yet, the debate on legality is not a new one; it's on par with abortion I think.  Most people will choose a side based on feelings, and find facts to validate those feelings.  I don't have a vested interest, per se, in either the legality of abortion (I'm personally against it, but do not think it should be a crime), criminalizing substances (I drink but use no other drugs), or sex workers (I've never visited a prostitute, nor do I suspect I ever will.) 

The big argument that it's both men and women but poor women of color are mostly the only one's caught is an issue inherent in most issues of law enforcement-I agree that selectively targeting only the group of people who can least afford lawyers or other forms of income is a problem which should be addressed for most crimes.

The racial intricicies of crime is never as 'black and white' as people would like to believe.  This question deserves it's own thread, but I don't think it bears any special relevence on this topic. 

-and yet you acknowledge how bad it was working at Denny's or how bad it would be to be a coal miner. Obviously, Capitalism in the absence of regulation does not provide for good working conditions-meerly an exploitative race to the bottom which would replicate the lousy conditions prostitutes already face.


The alternitive would be to leagalize prostitution but to regulate it heavily. This regulation would mean it would cost more money. Prostitution is more an act of nature than coal mining's act of industrialized supply and demand. Like people manufacturing moonshine, poaching, or employing others to work their fields, If the price of the leagle transaction were too high people would still resort to illeagle, cheaper methods.

Thats my biggest qualm. You're leagalized prostitution would only protect the wealthy ho's/johns who are rarely busted or victimized already while doing nothing to protect the truly exploited.

Poor working conditions simply boil down to what value a particular skill has to the economy as a whole.  Almost anyone of any age can push a mop or a broom or carry food to a table.  Prostitutes possess a unique skill; not simply the act, but the willingness to perform the act, regularly, on demand, with 80% of clients who are interested.  Most women will say "Any woman can be a whore, but I would never!"  The same is true of straight men, of gay pornography.  Prostitution is one of the highest grossing personal services a woman can provide with, literally, no education, experience, or training.  Simply put, men are willing to pay a premium for this service; one may joke about a blowjob, but how many men here can earn 80 dollars an hour without finishing high school?  If the profits from this service go directly to the woman (minus taxes) she could certainly choose to improve her working conditions; a sleek modern parlour vice a back bar alley.  Regulation (which I'll come to) ensures that she'll have access to adequate medical care, registration, retirement, legal protection, and drug/STD testing to ensure her and her client's safety.  On the flip side, their clients are also assured that if they frequent a registered brothel or sex worker, he is assured that she has been recently tested and less likely to be working collaterally with a partner who might rob him on the way out the door.  Certainly, there will always be fringe elements who will operate an unlicensed practice; the same is true of the medical profession.  Having said that, when was the last time you paid 80 dollars an hour to a doctor, who did not go to medical school?  Who wasn't board certified?  Simply put, the business will more than pay for it's own regulation.  In fact, we already have such regulation in place in Nevada.


Just because high-income tourist area's can provide "safe" prostitution leagally for a high price doesnt mean average to low income areas could finance the endeavor to the same exacting standards.

Do you believe that average/low income prostitutes only charge 5 dollars?  Seriously, even the least expensive prostitute still charges 20 dollars, minimum, for a 15 minute service.  I'd say that's plenty of profit that could quickly be reinvested in the business.

I guess, than, you're lucky you arn't from a poor urban or rural area and never socialized with very many college girls or strippers. Search out femme dom's on this site, as an example, and see for yourself how many of them already have jobs or are in school and simply want more , more, more. Hypothetically think about how once a very young but leagle girl goes into the sex trade, she's altering her life in ways she may not fully understand the implications of untill later in life.

I grew up in a town of 7000.  I worked as a DJ in a strip club during college.  Rest assured, my opinions are based on personal experiences with the business.  I'm not an expert, and was interested to read OwnedShylah's experiences to learn more about the topic; but frankly, making the sex trade legal isn't going to encourage 15 year olds to start making money on their backs. 

On that topic, I think the real issue is that we see sex workers as working inferior jobs.  Is it not possible that middle and upper class escorts genuinely enjoy their work?  If not for a lifetime, and not every day, but why do we feel the need to be their knight in shining armor?  I fully believe that adults must be responsible for their choices; if that means they choose to engage in sex for money transactions, it is a choice on their head.  I like to drink.  Some people like to drive race cars.  Some people jump out of perfectly good airplanes.  This is what liberty means to me; the opportunity to live life as I see fit, so long as my choices don't harm others.  A prostitute and her client harm nobody, except possibly themselves.  Why must we feel compelled to save them, from themselves?

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RE: Sex workers in the BDSM and D/s lifestyles - 8/7/2007 6:37:02 AM   
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Aswad:
How do you reconcile writing
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Responding very selectively.
I'm not here to "sell" my opinion.
I'm mostly here to read interesting stuff.
I comment when I have a comment to make.  

with the volumous, almost line by line attacks you write?

You'll never know if you are more 'right' than me, or anyone else, untill you can learn to compose your thoughts in a concise manner they'll actually read using argument and writing style rather than line-by-line rehtoric. Breaking something into soundbites and then refuting those soundbytes is so easy Fox News does it.
Boring me out of argument with you doesnt mean you're right and doesnt mean you'll learn anything from the other side-it only means you either write faster or have far more free time than others.

Your method of unmitigated length and lack of cohesion or priority doesnt work in debate, journalism, politics, or even a courtroom floor. I couldn't have even gotten away with that during my Thesis. Composition is a necissary vehicle to transmit information and because you've disregarded it I'm going ahead and disregarding you.

Sorry I apparently offended you because one of your family workers is a sex worker. I can tell by the amount you wrote you're probably quite insecure about the subject. Before I stoped reading what you said it occured to me that the conditions in Norway probably have little to do with the American working enviroment, and you could have been more forthcomming in your origional post's that you were compairing two vastly different economic and social models.

I wasn't trying to wave some nationalistic flag in your face, just trying to say its a differnt case in these different countries. Personally I LIKE Northern Europes socialism, more than you I guess, snd I like the Dutch and Danes and Swedes and Swiss (no noweagians yet) I've met.

In a perfect world, time and attention spans wouldn't be a factor. But in this world, if tranmission of ideas is your goal, you've got to learn to prioritise you're arguments and keep them at least somewhat concise in order for people to take you seriously.

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RE: Sex workers in the BDSM and D/s lifestyles - 8/7/2007 7:10:07 AM   
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Stephann:
I think I found the heart of our disagreement. You said
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Almost anyone of any age can push a mop or a broom or carry food to a table.  Prostitutes possess a unique skill; not simply the act, but the willingness to perform the act, regularly, on demand
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You see this as a skill. I see it as a psychologically unhealthy condition which becomes more psychologically unhealthy the more one induldges in it. Sexual discretion, to me, is more than just a throwback to pre birth/std control.I completely agree with you that adult's have to be free to make their own choices, even when these choices hurt them-my opionion on the topic is more motivated by my belief that the vast majority of prostitutes are involved in unhealthy lives. And that society, ideally, steps in to help unhealthy people who are physically or psychologically unfit to make their own choices. If it were proven to me that prostitutes are doing something sane and safe, I would have no more real qualms with their work. This belief comes from the few strippers I've ever come into contact with converstationally, who in my high school the few people who became known prostitutes were, and the people I see walking down the street who are obviously prostitutes.

Plus my own experience growing up in a relatively rural area and working lousy jobs has taught me that just because American employment is leagle it is in no way garunteed to be gainful, meaningful work.

Maybe you're right, maybe middle to upper class prostitutes enjoy their work...but I know the adadge that if you enjoyed doing your job you wouldn't have to be paid for it holds true for most people.

I also feel that middle to upper class young woman don't need to have the belief reinforced for them that they dont have to get an education or do real work as long as they're attractive-middle to upper class prostitutes are motivated by greed, not desperation. Similarly we as a society don't need to be reinforcing the belief amoungst men that they don't have to understand women and sex as long as they can pay for it.

leagalized or not, the fact that there is a stigma on prostitution which can hurt somebody later in life in ways a young person might not fully understand will not change for generations and this reality can not be factored out.

Like you, I don't disagree that a great many things which are illeagle should be decriminalized, even if I don't induldge in the activity myself. I also agree that, like abortion, this debate we've entered into is more dictated by emotion and culture than rational thought. Though obviously, you and I and others here are attempting to raise it to the level of rationalism and thats what society needs to progress.


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RE: Sex workers in the BDSM and D/s lifestyles - 8/7/2007 7:26:10 AM   
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i just have this image of them holding up a menu swallow twenty dollars spit ten and hand job five bucks lol


I don't get why this is a bad thing. Doctors up here have such a "menu" of their services posted on their doors, as a matter of regulation requirements. And as for prostitutes, swallowing is anywhere from 10$ (if they are desperate) to 40$ (business as usual with a healthy-looking gal) for most of the streetwalkers around here. Prices in your area may vary depending on standard of living but I think the UK has similar prices, at least (7€ to 30€, or 5£ to 20£).


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RE: Sex workers in the BDSM and D/s lifestyles - 8/7/2007 7:28:03 AM   
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Perhaps this is why no mirrors are found in your home?


Minds don't cast a reflection in mirrors, they cast a reflection in other minds.


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RE: Sex workers in the BDSM and D/s lifestyles - 8/7/2007 7:28:25 AM   
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Are you americanizing the money, Aswad?

Or is that 10 kroner?  Cause if it is,  I am gonna be right over, find me a place to flop, mate.

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RE: Sex workers in the BDSM and D/s lifestyles - 8/7/2007 7:30:00 AM   
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Seems we're agreeing to disagree on many fronts, and that's cool.

I'll only point out, that a stripper or legal prostitute is likely to encounter emotional and physical risks even remotely on par with combat soldiers, ER nurses, air traffic control operators, trial lawyer, or any other high stress job.  The key difference is that we don't see adult entertainers to be a 'necessary' part of society; we require national defense, traffic co-ordinators, nurses, and lawyers.  Many people see the act of paying for sex to not only be unnecessary, but downright repugnant.  We feel empowered to declare this act so wrong, that it should be criminal.  Personally, I feel the same way about Micheal Moore's style of 'journalism' but I would gladly die defending his right to speak. 

You suggest that motivations for employment should be moralistic.  That's a lovely, idealistic approach; but if this were the case, we would not have clean hotels, cheap fast food, or be able to purchase gasoline.  Our septic tanks wouldn't get cleaned, and our garbage wouldn't be picked up.  Capitalism works, because where there is a demand, there will always be people willing to step up and supply it for a price.  If the activity does not inherently danger society as a whole, but does present risks, it should be regulated; people sell bungee cords, offer skydiving lessons, hang gliding lessons, etc.  These are also unnecessary risks people take with their lives; but it is their life to gamble. 

I also know women from my school who grew up and became prostitutes, dancers, etc.  In two of the women's cases, if they did not engage in such activities, I can't imagine what sort of work they would have done; they simply did not possess the interest, desire, or motivation to achieve any other sort of lofty goal.  That lack of motivation for our youth doesn't sit squarely on the shoulders of the adult entertainment business; after all, it thrives in spite of social stigma.  This means, essentially, that making it illegal doesn't prevent younger women from saying to themselves "I'll just work as a prostitute for a while." 

Ok, that's about all there is to that.

Aswad is pedantic; bear in mind, English is his second language, so his tone may not come across exactly as he intended.

Best regards,

Stephan

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RE: Sex workers in the BDSM and D/s lifestyles - 8/7/2007 7:42:03 AM   
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I am actually all for legalizing prostitution....It still is the bastion of the ignorant....I had read an article about a professor at (NYU?) about turning a trick and the empowerment that she received upon getting the cash.....I doubt she pursued this Career choice after writing the article.

If you are comfortable with the idea that your value to the economy is the sum of your holes, then knock yourself out.

I do think there is a price to be paid....Which has deeper implications than that of performing another type of work which may not be judged as "glamorous."

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RE: Sex workers in the BDSM and D/s lifestyles - 8/7/2007 8:01:31 AM   
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i just have this image of them holding up a menu swallow twenty dollars spit ten and hand job five bucks lol


Considers putting that on her wall for all the boys to recite when I pimp them out ... maybe have one or two outside a local rugby club wearing a sandwich board ...



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RE: Sex workers in the BDSM and D/s lifestyles - 8/7/2007 8:33:40 AM   
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ChainsandFreedom,

I don't do line-by-line attacks. As I pointed out, I quote what you have said in accordance with the community standards of the Internet Society in order to provide context for my reply, which is not to say that any particular part of my reply is limited in scope to a single line of your post. I'm sorry, but your lines do not merit several paragraphs of mine. Your point of view does, however. The quoted lines are just there for reference.

Composing my thoughts in a coherent and concise manner is not a problem. I have a problem bothering to do so with someone who has already as much as said what they already demonstrated: that they aren't reading what I write because I adhere to a best-practice standard for intellectual discourse on the Internet. And you obviously didn't read what I said when I answered in your preferred format, either.

I may write fast, but not that fast.

I am not here to convince you of anything. You're a useful tool for exposition, reflection, and gauging whether the opposing POV has gained any merit, nothing else. From your posts, and your evasion of my arguments, the answer to the latter would appear to be a resounding "no", but I'm open to being shown wrong.

And, really... assuming everyone is always talking about America, then faulting someone else for not being sufficiently explicit about the fact that speaking about the world in general does not mean talking about the US alone? The US is not the world. Get out of your own navel; it will do you a world of good. Literally.

I exchange ideas with people who are worth my time and who reciprocate.

Hence, this exchange is at an end on both counts.

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RE: Sex workers in the BDSM and D/s lifestyles - 8/7/2007 8:38:01 AM   
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Are you americanizing the money, Aswad?


Not sure what you mean by Americanizing. I go by the current nominal exchange rate, but I don't correct for cost-of-living, consumer price index or anything like that.

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Or is that 10 kroner? Cause if it is, I am gonna be right over, find me a place to flop, mate.


~lol~

Afraid it's 50-500 kroner, or it'd be a pretty major tourist attraction.
You're still welcome to come over any time, though.
I can find a place to crash in any major city.


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RE: Sex workers in the BDSM and D/s lifestyles - 8/7/2007 8:45:18 AM   
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Considers putting that on her wall for all the boys to recite when I pimp them out ... maybe have one or two outside a local rugby club wearing a sandwich board ...


~lol~

That'd be pretty funny.


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RE: Sex workers in the BDSM and D/s lifestyles - 8/7/2007 8:46:18 AM   
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If you are comfortable with the idea that your value to the economy is the sum of your holes, then knock yourself out.


If those holes are earning you a tidy sum then you'd be silly not to ...  I hear the gay boys makes a killing cum rugby season

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I am actually all for legalizing prostitution....It still is the bastion of the ignorant....I had read an article about a professor at (NYU?) about turning a trick and the empowerment that she received upon getting the cash.....I doubt she pursued this Career choice after writing the article.


A woman in New Zealand did just that ...left behind her university career in pursuit of more hedonist pastures ... she now writes, her profession being her muse ... life is all good apparently ...





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RE: Sex workers in the BDSM and D/s lifestyles - 8/7/2007 9:22:47 AM   
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RE: Sex workers in the BDSM and D/s lifestyles - 8/7/2007 9:28:42 AM   
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If you are comfortable with the idea that your value to the economy is the sum of your holes, then knock yourself out.


A lot of prostitutes will tell you that the two most common "holes" used in their job, are the ones on each side of their head, called ears, because their customers value the fact that they can just talk to someone who will provide them with nonjudgmental listening.
 
If people could let go of the negative stereotypes of prostitution, maybe they could begin to understand the real value that prostitutes offer to those who are alone and lonely and in need of physical contact with another human being in an intimate and sexual manner.  Not all prostitutes are crack-addicted, street walkers, giving cheap BJs in back alleys.  Many more prostitutes are healthy, happy, well-adjusted, professionals, who earn their living by providing a valuable service to people who are in need of their companionship, along with their ability to provide erogenous gratification.  The customer is happy and the sex provider is compensated for it.  What's the problem with that? 
 
The ability to put a smile on another person's face and relieve them of stress is, in my view, a very positive and valuable thing to do and they should be properly compensated for it and not have to fear being arrested for it.
 
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RE: Sex workers in the BDSM and D/s lifestyles - 8/7/2007 9:40:44 AM   
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It's not only what prostitutes do to themselves that worries me but how they influence how men perceive women and therfore how women perceive themselves. However I do not believe that prostitution is morally wrong and it should not be against the law.
I was brought up by men to be a sex slave and that's how I have perceived myself.
That was morally wrong and is and should be against the law and actually enforced.
I wanted to be a prostitute or a stripper or to work in the porn industry at one time in my life. It was a way of serving more men. Thankfully I have never done it.
The 'lifestyle' has gradually changed my mindset about my early training.
I no longer need to serve any man let alone all men. 
My belief is that drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, sex of any sort should not be illegal. However just as in every other part of life we have to have social controls to protect the weak and the innocent. Deprivation makes people weak. Lack of access to  fundamental needs destroys hope and confidence in ones own worth. To survive and to try and gain those fundamental things that we all need is the struggle of life. For some it comes easier than others. It's a journey that we all make alone. We can use people along the way or we can give to people along the way. It's sometimes hard to know the difference. We all make choices but some have more choice than others. It depends where a person starts. You can't know anything about someone else's struggle unless they tell you. So to judge anyone in absolute terms is just plain wrong. To try and understand and be a part of someone else's journey is awesome. Thankyou everyone for your contributions. The debate has helped in my journey.



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RE: Sex workers in the BDSM and D/s lifestyles - 8/7/2007 9:42:21 AM   
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Indeed, our culture could benefit from borrowing from the courtesans of the past.

Someone is sure to mistakenly bring up Geisha in this context, but that's a different thing entirely, although it could be drawn upon to enhance the courtesan concept, and would be a valuable addition on its own.


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