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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Trust in Good Intentions - meaning assume the best until proven otherwise. A simple but rather profound idea, not always easy but still worth working at.

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So, who else cares to share their insecurities?

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ORIGINAL: GhitaAmati
In fact we have had people come up to him and say "what the hell are you doing with her{me}, you are HOT

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We do swing, and there have been times where the female half of a couple is more than willing to screw him, but the male half of the couple really aint interested in me

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

I love it that a dominant can admit to being human.  It is a refreshing thing to see.  That is what I love about being part of a couple.  You can be vulnerable, honest, open and the fear lessens. 
I have fears.
My number one fear is a theme throughout my life, "not being good enough"
I was born in East Los Angeles in a hispanic neighborhood.  We moved to a very anglo area when I was 6 years old. 
The very first thing I am consciously aware of understanding fully, was when the school I was transferring to believed that any child transferring to their school district from East L.A. wouldn't be able to keep up if entering in mid year.  I wasn't allowed to go to school until the next season started.  When I was able to join their district I was bored stiff because they were reading things I read in kindergarden.  I learned never to read ahead because if you are must recite out loud no one could understand that you weren't back on page 10, you were ahead on page 30 and the words were not the same.
I learned that having an accent was not acceptable, so I didn't speak much until I had no trace of accent and I could speak like my classmates. 
I learned to change who I was so that I could find companions. 
I couldn't change my color but I tried.
I learned it wasn't wise to be too good at anything.  If I excelled at something my legs would be kicked out from under me by kids or adults.
I learned that my heritage was hot, but not to take home to meet parents.
I learned that "my kind" made grandchildren that were not as important as non mixed grandchildren were.
I learned that I was not good enough for him.
Insecurities?  Heck yes I have them.
But the most important thing I have learned to date is this.
I am tired of changing who I am to suit people.  I can live single and do it with contentment because I do think I am talented, intelligent, creative, loving, gentle, caring, and more than willing to wait hand and foot on someone I care about.  And if people cannot accept that, that's ok.  I am done not being my authentic self.
Kyst

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ORIGINAL: celticlord2112

Like you, I met my slave here on CollarMe.  It has been a fantastic experience for me, fulfilling and gratifying in every way.

I grapple with insecurities every day.  If she's online, knowing that other dominant men are likely to start chatting with her, and perhaps even attempting to "poach" her for themselves can at times be quite maddening.  She has not said or done anything to feed this beast, it is a phantasm entirely of my own brain.  It is a long-term trust issue of my own that I am constantly working on.

I deal with it by reminding myself I have two options:  1) I can forbid her to chat with other dominants, thereby telegraphing my insecurity to the world; 2) I can allow her to chat but always keep tabs on dominants that disrespect our relationship.  Not wanting to magnify my insecurities more than necessary, I choose option #2.

Sir needn't worry, for His slave knows she is blessed to serve One such as Him, and is fully aware that none will ever measure up to the Man that He is, "beasts" and all 

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

my brain knows she loves me, just my heart panicks sometimes. 

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  This is what makes one of the more irritating aspects of my relationship abundantly clear, she sees my insecurities before I do.