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RE: how long do you look - 8/8/2007 7:15:49 AM   
littleone35


Posts: 2828
Joined: 2/17/2005
Status: offline 		I wanted to find a Master.  I was not actively looking.  I met a few Doms off here and they were nice and all but nothing was the right fit.  One day about after a year on CM Master e mailed me.  I responded we talked for a while e mail and phone and the rest as they say is history.  18 Months and still going string.  Love him more today than 18 months ago.

Matt's littleone

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RE: how long do you look - 8/8/2007 7:49:29 AM   
atendersoul


Posts: 167
Joined: 10/20/2006
Status: offline 		thank you all for such wonderful stories here with the posting she submitted yesterday...
she had come on collarme from a friend's suggestion of the site in November last year after not being active in the Lifestyle for seven years due to Sir's death in 2000. Mentally for a long time, my heart was not ready to return to this Path and this time away allowed her soul to heal.
The first couple of months, she was hit with the strange to rude emails from so call Masters but only spoke to a couple as mentors at this point.
one Master, her present One.....did not give up and sometimes there would be five or more emails waiting for her after work. At first, also blew this off as one of those strange Ones, but July 1 flew to Washington state from GA to be with Him and this is where they are presently.....

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RE: how long do you look - 8/8/2007 7:08:30 PM   
GDsLT


Posts: 7
Joined: 4/5/2007
Status: offline 		4+ years-so live your life, enjoy your life-don't go looking for someone to complete you...complete yourself.  I was happy and content, if not a bit lonely, before I met Sir and now feel it's the end and beginning all at the same time.

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RE: how long do you look - 8/8/2007 7:30:31 PM   
favesclava


Posts: 1608
Joined: 2/15/2007
Status: offline 		i wasnt looking for a Master. although deep down i guess i knew what i had found so far was not what i needed.i went on an adult site was there for a few months. the men i met were not very satisfying. one day bored i decided to look at pics of members .very bored... i looked for over an hour when i saw Master's pic. i sent him an email immediately. he lived just north of town. he saw my pic and decided then and there i would belong to him. i had no idea. all i wanted was sex.withing 2 days we met , soon i was wearing a training collar. (not the usual for him  to collar so soon ). he's training me well so that i have had very few issues with my new life. i have never been more satisfied sexually, mentally and emotionally.

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RE: how long do you look - 8/9/2007 2:19:02 PM   
iammachine


Posts: 1549
Joined: 1/25/2006
Status: offline 		I haven't been looking, though I've managed to meet a lot of very interesting people, make a few new friends, and a couple people that I'd consider myself to be pretty close to.

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RE: how long do you look - 8/9/2007 2:23:56 PM   
michaelOfGeorgia


Posts: 4253
Status: offline 		inquiry? what if one stops looking, someone acquires an interest in them afterwards...does the one that has ceased looking proceed?

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RE: how long do you look - 8/11/2007 4:03:49 PM   
iammachine


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quote:

ORIGINAL: michaelOfGeorgia

inquiry? what if one stops looking, someone acquires an interest in them afterwards...does the one that has ceased looking proceed?


I recognize potential when I see it, I just don't actively look for anything or anyone. I don't need companionsip to fill a void, I'm perfectly whole on my own, and I have plenty of friendships that I enjoy. I tend to be pretty vocal about the fact that I'm "not looking" in the hope that those that are actively looking for things I'm generally not interested in won't waste their time with false hopes.

Of course, once in a blue moon, I'll meet someone that gives me a cause for pause, and I'm served my convictions with ketchup as I start tracing my feet in the dirt, get tongue tied and start blushing. :)


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RE: how long do you look - 8/11/2007 4:35:50 PM   
Vampyrefledgling


Posts: 91
Joined: 7/10/2007
Status: offline 		I haven't been looking that long, a few months I suppose, in the BDSM world that is. Submission is something I've only recently realized is something I truly desire and is not just a passing fancy.

Have I had any success in real time? Yes, I would say so. I am still as yet uncollared, but who knows what the future holds?

In finding what I seek I suppose the hardest thing is figuring out my own limits without first hand experience. I don't know what experience or how long you have been in the lifestyle, but there is so much I don't know and so much I have not experienced, that when I am asked about it, I have to say I don't know. I can't just go out and play with a random Dom because, for me at least, the power exchange is too personal. I can't just submit because I am a submissive. I have to trust the man I am with and in my case that trust doesn't come easily. Sometimes I do wish I could play with other Doms, just so I could know what some of these experiences were like. But in the end, I know that it just isn't me; it isn't the way that I submit.

~Fledgling

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RE: how long do you look - 8/12/2007 12:18:19 AM   
Evanesce


Posts: 2325
Joined: 9/14/2005
Status: offline 		The Kaptin found me on another site at a time when I wasn't really looking to get involved with another dominant.  One thing led to another, and 7.5 years later, we're still together and now married.
 
I do have a personal on CM, seeking a house slave.  We're not in any hurry to find someone, because that someone needs to fit well with both of us, and our lifestyle.  We look at it this way:  the right person will show themselves to us, eventually.  Until then, we'll keep talking to people and making friends.

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RE: how long do you look - 8/12/2007 1:04:05 AM   
Tinman1960


Posts: 46
Joined: 5/19/2007
Status: offline 		For me it is not about actively seeking but more like being open to finding someone should they surface. I married my last slave 26 yrs ago; she passed away 6 yrs ago.
Its hard to say when I started looking again, but one evening a about a year ago, I realized that I was indeed looking again - not agressively, but looking non-the -less.

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RE: how long do you look - 8/12/2007 12:55:29 PM   
slave4UMsMstress


Posts: 35
Joined: 9/26/2006
Status: offline 		Searching, looking and wating - all parts of the reality of any relationship especially one like this...

i have been looking for over a year after serving for about 8 months in my last positoin - really had a good thing going but illness put it to a hault on Her part- she dismissed me and i have been left alone yet again...

it is hard to keep going but i want that yet again... someday - some how... sometime soon... :)

tim

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RE: how long do you look - 8/12/2007 2:45:19 PM   
lonlyrossInNeed


Posts: 3144
Joined: 10/8/2005
Status: offline 		i have been online for about 3 or 4 years now on Collarme and have not had much sucess but i have found some realy good friends
 
ross.g

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RE: how long do you look - 8/13/2007 3:52:08 AM   
eyesopened


Posts: 2798
Joined: 6/12/2006
From: Tampa, FL
Status: offline 		How long should one look for their perfect career opportunity?  How long should one save for their dream vacation or home or anything which is important?  As long as it takes in my opinion. 

Like a career decision, you might take a less than perfect job because it will lead you toward a better job.  i have entered into relationships with Dominants because of what they could teach me even knowing it would not be a 'forever' kind of relationship.

i've met many wonderful people and every Dominant i have had the pleasure to know (all in real life) from sites like this one. 

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RE: how long do you look - 8/13/2007 5:16:43 AM   
sexyred1


Posts: 8998
Joined: 8/9/2007
Status: offline 		I have been in long term relationships since age 16, was married for 10 years and broke up with someone a year ago after 9 years on and off. I would say that I have been searching for someone special for the past few years.

As one gets older, it becomes more difficult to connect on all the important levels. I find that the disposable nature of communicating online and the lack of sincerity and follow up is disheartening.

So I just live my life and while I am alone, I would rather be alone with me, than lonely with the wrong person and being hurt.

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RE: how long do you look - 8/14/2007 1:40:10 AM   
CandyLover


Posts: 68
Joined: 6/5/2007
Status: offline 		Been on the site (and looking) for about two months, scheduled real-life meetings with about 15 people.  3 of those meetings got cancelled right before they happened, but I found 2 semi-regular play partners from it all.  I guess the biggest problem that I've been encountering is that I keep meeting people that are just looking for a vanilla relationship with a TS, but it's not that big of a problem anyhow; usually only $5 in gas money.

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RE: how long do you look - 8/14/2007 1:47:42 AM   
becca333


Posts: 1050
Joined: 4/11/2006
Status: offline 		With my first Dom I wasn't looking for anyone, or ever expecting to meet someone.  After all, I knew that all the people online were fakes and posers and axe murderers.  Then we met, clicked instantly, and wow was it a brilliant time for me.

With the second really great Dom I posted an ad in personals online, and found him pretty quickly.

You never know what's around the corner.

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