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RE: Domination for money - 8/9/2007 11:48:13 AM

came4U

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tick tick tick

this is why I didn't reply on a thread (and I cannot recall the subject/topic) about how to avoid certain people or races or location or a million other things, but the topic had to do with mail settings??)

there is no really good answer, is why.

not to mention a tick box for 'pay only' would imply that this website and the TOS in endorsing such, is and would be liable for any injury, loss of money, etc etc. bad idea.

pay-only Dommes or whomever the subject is about would then and should then be obligated to find or create their OWN website and pay for that service, which is just and fair.

The adverts to the left/right/up/down here are PAID for by a sponsor, if then such a TICK is made then the TICK-EE should pay a tribute to CM in lieu of a small fee just as any other sponsor-member.

just my 2 cents (that just added up to 16) lol

aka, if you search the profile and see that, don't like it? close it. omg this is like an I love lucy rerun LOL.

and btw, a tick to avoid redheads?? say it ain't so. Quit following me hhaah

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RE: Domination for money - 8/9/2007 11:48:14 AM

slavebilly15

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this slave thoroughly believes that seeing a pro Domme toes the line in topping from the bottom. Sometimes this sluts body craves the pain and physicality so much that he must visit a pro. BUT this one has established a relationship in a local dungeon that has completely clarified the point that once these slutty feet enter the dungeon this slave will NOT ask for anything but how to serve.
Secondly on this topic when One asks for money online for domination that crosses the line from Domme to MANIPULATOR. It is a shame for the honest Dommes that have a passion for the lifestyle that there are bad apples that bring them down as a whole.

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RE: Domination for money - 8/9/2007 11:51:46 AM

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I'm with Donna on this on the whole button issue.
Prodominants are sales people - they are self promoters. If a ProDom wants their profile viewed, they just won't tick the box if there was one offered because it doesn't make good business sense. You wouldn't narrow your possible customers - you would keep all your options open.

IMO - Orientation and sex are no brainers - but everything else is a question of just promotion. And if people really want everything laid out that easy then it makes me question why and it's a red flag to me. To me it exudes laziness because they want it easy - but life and relationships aren't always easy.

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RE: Domination for money - 8/9/2007 11:52:42 AM

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I'm not a professional dominatrix, I have a normal career. I can imagine though that while some femdoms would not require tribute from ALL subs that contact them (an in fact actively pursue some on their own) there are some men that they won't bother talking to UNLESS they are compensated for their time. What do you do in that situation?

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RE: Domination for money - 8/9/2007 12:12:57 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AAkasha

I'm not a professional dominatrix, I have a normal career. I can imagine though that while some femdoms would not require tribute from ALL subs that contact them (an in fact actively pursue some on their own) there are some men that they won't bother talking to UNLESS they are compensated for their time. What do you do in that situation?

Set up two profiles. One setting out what they seek professionally, and another setting out what they seek personally.

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RE: Domination for money - 8/9/2007 12:31:57 PM

LATEXBABY64

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i was thinking there is a section for prodommes on the forum i might be wrong shrugs

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RE: Domination for money - 8/9/2007 12:39:07 PM

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This is one of those difficult things to ponder, though interesting. Should I offer my services as a male prodominant? What services do I offer? Should I expect to have women pay me to do this or would it only be gay or bi males?

I wonder what it is like for male pro dominants, if there are any? If there are any on here who have been paid or are now being paid, I would love to know...

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RE: Domination for money - 8/9/2007 12:55:10 PM

AAkasha

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Damocles809

quote:

ORIGINAL: AAkasha

I'm not a professional dominatrix, I have a normal career. I can imagine though that while some femdoms would not require tribute from ALL subs that contact them (an in fact actively pursue some on their own) there are some men that they won't bother talking to UNLESS they are compensated for their time. What do you do in that situation?

Set up two profiles. One setting out what they seek professionally, and another setting out what they seek personally.

No, you miss the point. The woman is not a pro femdom, for example. She gets emails from "Dusty1287" and there's some chemistry there, they start exchanging emails, she's enjoying it, but it's still early on. Meanwhile, she's getting emails from "ass4Utouse" and "buttlicker" and "cuck4youMaam" and they all send multiple emails after she has said "No thanks" (because really, their emails are ONE liners or form letters) and they say "how can I prove to you? I want to get to know you, can we chat? Let's chat on IM please" -- ok, so does she waste time with these guys who obviously don't care about HER time? Or, does she say "look, if you want to make it worth my while, I will give you a chance for me to get to know you. But right now, you are not worth my time."

She isn't charging people to talk to her. She's charging the people who obviously don't place value on HER time, based on their need for instant gratification.

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RE: Domination for money - 8/9/2007 1:26:28 PM

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Maybe it was his t-shirt that said, "beat me, whip me, make me write bad checks" that was a giveaway? smiles

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RE: Domination for money - 8/9/2007 1:56:25 PM

MistressR526

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I really would love the option of checking a box to state that I am offering professional domme services. I make it clear within the first few lines of my profile what I am about. I have only had a couple people write me very negatively telling me off for sullying D/s and bdsm. I don't see why it bothers them so much, but it did... I tend to follow the mindset that if it is safe, sane, and consensual, I could care less what you do with another.

If you could set your options to bring up pros or not, then nobody has to see what they don't want to see.

I try to give my clients the experience they desire. I do interact via instant messenger and alwasy begin and end sessions with a quick hug. This is NOT for everyone, but it is how I do it. I think this eases the anxiety just a little and increases the overall comfort level.

My feelings are this: Most of my clients are either married and wanting to stay that way--- as someone else said, I provide a means for them to indulge in their desires without shaking up their homelife. I have no desire to cause any drama as that would interfere with my goal of making money. More than that though, I do not wish to hurt anyone (and spankings don't count!!)

I feel regular clients are better than occasional ones, so I choose to set my rates lower than some.

Other clients of mine would LOVE to have a personal relationship with their very own Domme and when they find Her, they will stop seeing me. I am certainly not taking anyone's place. There have been a small number who wanted to see if this was for them... or wanted me to help teach them. Whatever their reasons, they sought me out.

Having a search feature would probably give me more exposure to those who desire my services which would benefit me AND would help reduce the number of 'ads' that people who do not desire such services have to weed through. I LOVE the idea.

Mistress R

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RE: Domination for money - 8/9/2007 2:12:14 PM

Damocles809

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quote:

ORIGINAL: AAkasha

She isn't charging people to talk to her. She's charging the people who obviously don't place value on HER time, based on their need for instant gratification.

Then there could be a third category just for that. Seems to be a common enough request to have it's own box to check off.

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RE: Domination for money - 8/9/2007 2:35:18 PM

subspoon

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>If you could check the box that says "Does not Charge" how many
>people will leave it unchecked and allow those dominants to come
>up in their searching? Few, I'd imagine.

i am not disputing the factual premises on which you build your points. i am merely stating that IF you are right, that means that most of the users are not really interested in pro profiles. And IF that is the case, then the pros might be better of going somewhere else.

i have been to a couple of pros. i have nothing against it. it just does not fullfill any of my needs. my point therefore is strictly functional: it would be good if the search results where sorted out like that. To put it this way: today i can filter the profiles based on the nationality, but to me it is much more relevant to filter out those who charge money than to filter out those who live in my neighbouring country. Being able to filter out people from sweden, but not being able to filter out those who charge money, seems very illogical to me.

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RE: Domination for money - 8/9/2007 2:42:51 PM

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> Most of the guys who can afford a ProDOmme aren't losers...they
>prolly make more than most of the people do on average...as that stuff

i am not sure why you put being a loser up against peoples income. To me you can be a winner or a loser totally independant on whether or not your income is above or below average income. i know people of all walks of life, and believe me, there are just as many winners and loser amongst the rich and the not so rich - at least if being a winner means enjoying life and being a positive contribution in the life of others.

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RE: Domination for money - 8/9/2007 2:42:57 PM

came4U

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so the point is you would be (by proxy) using a free site to promote income?

This, in itself, (IMO) be banned in general unless you pay a fee to the site that is used for maintaining, lisc, legalities, sponsorship, employees pay and benefits etc. Even if you had such account at Y(site) or M(sn) or others that solicit funds for services you eventually get banned until you contact the owners of such isp/net providers for a spammming fee.

This is a personals site, for people with a common interest. This is not however a place that some absorb as safe haven to find/discuss similar peoples and others use as an income source via the site itself absorbing the shock of the actual database-prone upkeep and management.

I honestly don't know why and how it is allowed at all to be mentioned at all in profiles (mail, fine, keep it personal). But I assume the owners/ship know what they are doing.

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RE: Domination for money - 8/9/2007 2:47:07 PM

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BoiJen wrote:
>Prices go up because of the economy. no other reason.
>Life sucks.

I disagree with you once again. Life does NOT suck. Life is great. But then again, i do not let my inter-human relations be dependant on the economy. :)

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RE: Domination for money - 8/9/2007 2:57:36 PM

BoiJen

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seeing a Pro isn't mostly about interpersonal relationships...it's about scratching an itch. And there's nothing wrong with that. I know I got my own tendancies about my own itches and being pushy. And serving a Pro personally isn't easy. And life sucks...we call it a blow job. I do at least. Quite pleasurable at times.

Then again it's off topic now isn't it?...no more posting here.

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RE: Domination for money - 8/9/2007 4:15:56 PM

came4U

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cancel what I said..the TOS actually does not 'deny' or care either way on such topic. So pfttt. Do what ya will, just don't complain about seeing the profiles with ads, nor complain for your money back to a site or it's members for your disappointment, geez.

I don't always want to open my CM to a picture of someone hideous, but simple use of NEXT profile is just as easy or easier than filling in endless checkboxes.

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RE: Domination for money - 8/9/2007 4:19:50 PM

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ProDommes r us come visit us soon we have speacil on hiny spanking rofl

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RE: Domination for money - 8/9/2007 4:42:10 PM

MistressRouge

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Gimme a Pro Domme box to cheque

I would quite happily tick My box, as I do elsewhere lol

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RE: Domination for money - 8/9/2007 5:39:21 PM

MasterLDesade

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Interesting this Phenomena.......People justifying their reasoning for either taking monies or not , Lets get it into perpective shall we . Prostition is being paid for sexual services , the general consensus..does this mean that most wives and housewives ( Same sex Relationships ) fall into the same catergory as provision of home and wages . YES!!!! The Traditional Mistress that i do know personally get paid for their time, expertise and NO sexual penertration. There is no moral issue with these Traditional Mistress as they in their Dominance understand the need of the submissives that do come to see them . I personally think that whatever goes on in a D/S connection whether it being a paying service or a lifestyle choice is totally up to the inderviduals involved and certinally not open to inquisition by the " Victorian Moralitist Veiws Of The DoGooders " that are very outdated in their thinking in this modern day world in which we live .
Step out of the square , Pro-Domm's also progress sub's and slaves in their journey on a personal level which deepen's with time and Open's many Door's which otherwise you would never have known existed , oh you arn't being charged for the personal parties , The loop introduction's , and if you listen rather than talk all the Important Information that you could digest .
So if you want a " Backyard Mechanic " to work on your journey fine if you want a " Highly Specilized Mechanic " to set you straight on the path and help you learn fine ........ well i know which one i would choose .
Viva Pro-Domm's where do you think for centuries the knowledge has been stored..........and this is what you seek , my now you are in a quandry $ or the Box ? .
Regards
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