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RE: Looks or Personality? - 9/2/2007 11:53:03 AM   
GhitaAmati


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I already have the perfect SO....he's got a wonderful personality and pretty damn hott too...

So normally when we are out and about, Im very shallow and go for looks....but, as much of a slut as I am, I usually have to at least be able to hold a conversation with the person and be able to feel somewhat comfortable with them before I scene with them or fuck them....

on a more general basis, Id have to say personality if very important to me, its what really draws me towards having feelings for a person...but there has to be some honest physical attraction somewhere for me to think "hey, Id like to go over there and get to know that person"

now....I can honestly say I have never gone to bed with an ugly partner....Ive woken up with a few though....oh the power of booze.

ever had one of them two-bag fucks? One bag for him and another for yourself incase his bag falls off?

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RE: Looks or Personality? - 9/2/2007 5:02:43 PM   
ocilla


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Status: offline 		I have found myself very attracted to a person once I've gotten to know them when, at first I did not find them all that attractive intially.  So, I try to withhold judgement until I've had a chance to get to know someone.  I in fact tend to with hold judgement and approval for awhile...once I feel good about a person's heart and personality then I will let their physical traits become endearing to me.  Sometimes there may be a physical something that just does not personally work for me.  But most often the more I like who the person is on the inside the more physically attractive I find them. Sometimes I will run across someone that physically really hits the spot....buuutt they can become really unattractive when they open their mouth or I get to know who they are.  I have a girlfirned who calls those the, "shhhhh, don't talk boys".

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RE: Looks or Personality? - 9/2/2007 8:33:54 PM   
alandraofMists


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Status: offline 		for me personally ... it is personality... with that they have to be comfortable with themselves and happy in who they are. To many times those with looks have egos that are the total opposite of their beauty to balance it out.

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RE: Looks or Personality? - 9/2/2007 11:01:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		For me, as long as there is chemistry and attraction between us, then looks don't matter. Personality however, must be there no matter what.

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RE: Looks or Personality? - 9/3/2007 4:57:49 AM   
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RE: Looks or Personality? - 9/3/2007 7:47:34 AM   
adoracat


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Status: offline 		someone can be pretty all day long and far into the evening....but dammit eventually you have to talk to them, and they HAVE to be able to hold up their end of a conversation. 

less than average looks can be overcome by intelligence and personality, easily.

kitten, who knows she's no great shakes in the looks department

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RE: Looks or Personality? - 9/3/2007 8:36:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		I just want someone I'm attracted to, and that tends to fluctuate wildly.  Physical attraction is fantastic, but I've also had long-term relationships with people I'd NEVER have been attracted to if I hadn't known their minds first.  My first Dom is a case in point - I like big men (over 6 feet, muscular lumberjack types), but this guy was just 5'8", and weighed about 400 lb.  Not the kind of guy I'd give a second glance to in the real world.  But he captured my mind and, by the time we met in person, he was enormously attractive to me.
 
Now, however, I have the best of both worlds, because the Kaptin has the second-most devious mind I've ever known (mine being the first), and He's a hottie to boot!  Not as big as I'd like, but who cares?

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RE: Looks or Personality? - 9/3/2007 4:29:20 PM   
Bishonenjim


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Status: offline 		Personality is everything to me.  Both the people I've fallen in love with (and later fallen/pushed out of love with ) where not hotties although to me they had beauty to them, and I suspect the third (hopefully last) won't be either.

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RE: Looks or Personality? - 9/3/2007 8:50:00 PM   
BoiJen


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Status: offline 		I don't have to talk to no body I don't want to so I still stick with the pretty ones first...

'sides most I know and who know me think I got both goin fer me so :  lol

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RE: Looks or Personality? - 9/4/2007 6:57:00 AM   
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ORIGINAL: BIllCT

How many people have to have the person who looks like Marilyn Monroe or Rock Hudsn for a partner?
 
I think the hell with looks within reason now I mean of course, but, personality, a sense of humor, intelligence, and neat and clean is what I like.



I don't care so much about looks as long as He is clean and takes care of Himself. 

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RE: Looks or Personality? - 9/4/2007 7:28:51 AM   
Bella1965


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I've gone out with every nationality, creed, culture, height, weight and variable you call think of. The one constant among them all is a handsome face. If I can't gaze into a man's face with desire and romance? It's doomed from the beginning. What keeps my interest is a facile mind and a golden heart. One poster made an excellent point about the advent of the internet into the dating world. A well written profile will intrigue me more than a full body shot of a bronzed Adonis. 

Such is the case of my current boyfriend/submissive. To wit; we met through another site years ago. When I read his profile, I nearly drooled. He had a professional head shot, so he had a great photo as well. When we met, the photo turned out to be a bit old, he'd gained a bit of weight. You know what? Didn't matter a bit. There was instant chemistry the moment we locked eyes. Due to distance, we remained friends (with benefits) for several years. Only in April did we make the move to an exclusive relationship. I haven't looked back since.

Another poster made a point about some self proclaimed total packages having an an overblown ego and how that ego spoils the rest. I concur completely. Nothing sours me faster than that.


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RE: Looks or Personality? - 9/4/2007 3:37:41 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Aileen68

Why do people assume that if someone is really good looking then their personality is awful?  My goal in searching was to find the best looking person I could snag who had the personality that I liked.  Why is there a need to choose either/or when there are many out there who have both qualities.

I agree completely with you. I really just think the topic maker got snubbed by some gal (or guy) and is now upset about it and decides to come bitch.


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RE: Looks or Personality? - 9/5/2007 2:35:05 PM   
Kellendra


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ORIGINAL: LordVelvet

Mini Hijack---- When you walk by someone you don't say "Wow what a great personality" it is not what is noticed at first. I agree that a great personality is VERY important but it is not what attracts people, it is looks.
LordVelvet


Couldn't agree more.
The looks might get someone through the door, but it is the personality that will want you to keep them there.
Personally I will admit to being somewhat shallow, I want to be physically attracted  (and attractive) to my Dom....But what I find attractive constantly changes.



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RE: Looks or Personality? - 9/5/2007 2:45:36 PM   
akisha


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quote:

ORIGINAL: BIllCT

How many people have to have the person who looks like Marilyn Monroe or Rock Hudsn for a partner?
 
I think the hell with looks within reason now I mean of course, but, personality, a sense of humor, intelligence, and neat and clean is what I like.



Well Damn! I hope people go for personality or I'm screwed (or rather not screwed ) Mabye i can find blind Dominant.. hmmm now there is an idea

By the way... who is Rock Hudson??


Now seriously, the person I think is dead sexy will not be seen the same way by someone else so the question really makes no sense. We all have different ideas of what a good personality is and what is sexy.

IT's like that question "what makes a good Master/sub/whatever?".

The only answer is "WHAT EVER WORKS FOR THE INDIVIDUAL"

< Message edited by akisha -- 9/5/2007 2:46:25 PM >

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