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RE: Consensually against your will - 8/16/2007 5:45:52 AM

Smythe

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ORIGINAL: Aimtoplease101

If he's really submissive and masochistic, and therefore actually enjoys being made to submit to things that might be painful/ difficult, etc., does it still count? Or does his enjoyment neutralize the Domme's enjoyment?

Sort of like the old joke-- the masochist says, "are you going to whip me," and the sadist says, "no."

Regards, ATP

What are ya, ATP, a lawyer? :)
In my admittedly light hearted example, my sub enjoyed this dynamic. (ordering him what I considered to be gross food in a restaurant).
However, what I was more serously curious about is whether other dominants actually enjoy making their submissives do something they really don't like.
Personally, I have experienced this pleasure on rare occasions but for the most part I thrive on what I call mutual but opposite pleasures.
It is my sense, and others on this thread have said as much, that many submissives enjoy being stretched in this way and their participation in an activity that they really don't like becomes a welcome challenge and a way to prove their devotion.
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RE: Consensually against your will - 8/16/2007 10:28:56 AM

Celeste43

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Since we're not into s & m, this doesn't do anything for either of us. If my energy level drops because I don't like something, then he has less of my energy/power to access. When I'm excited about something, then he feeds off my energy.

Compare it to having sex with someone who just lies there and watches tv while you're on top pumping away versus a woman who finds you intensely hot and can't help but squirming and moaning and begging for more. The latter is a lot more exciting an experience than the former.

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RE: Consensually against your will - 8/16/2007 1:38:53 PM

satyrsnymph28

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i have had subs in the past who end relationships at the first sign of them having to do something that they dislike even a tiny bit...

i can't say i understand that...

it wasn't even pushing a limit... just something they didnt enjoy... like dishes... or waking up at a certain time...

and yet the second i mentioned it... poof

if its a limit... set it as a limit... if its not... then don't bitch...

thats kinda how i feel

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RE: Consensually against your will - 8/17/2007 10:38:27 AM

SlaveSubtoserve

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....i enjoy submitting to concensually against my will but then i do enjoy genuine suffering for my my Domme/Mistress so.....it gives a special thrill when there is no reason for it except Her own pleasure at Her control over me.......though such does need to be judiciously utilized and not carelessly.

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