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SeeksOnlyOne -> RE: How come all BIG women are "BEAUTIFUL"? (8/10/2007 12:35:29 PM)
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i hope its not against tos to c&p one of my own replies to a previous thread......i bet i find out if that lovely red 11 shows up in my mailbox[sm=confused.gif]
when is the next LA class on how to post just links? argh
now instant replay....
i am a fat chick-i hate the bbw moniker, because all fat chicks are no more beautiful than all skinny chicks are......
i am working hard to get healthier.......i could work harder.....and some days i do......but i refuse to stop living or feel unworthy because i am fat.
my body is a strange place......not to lay the blame on genetics, but yet to lay the blame on genetics, i will share the following story.........
in the early 60's there was a woman, who was obese.....she had a little girl in 1960 and gave her up for adoption, she had another little girl in 1962 and gave her up for adoption also. both of these girls were most fortunate to be given to families that were able to care for them and they found each other many years later when they were both in their 30's.
the woman finally got her head straight and married, which produced another lil girl, who was raised in a loving family, by this obese woman.
the 2 given up for adoption were raised by non fat people.
when these 3 girls met as adults, they were amazed that they all looked just like the biological mom.....as if no man was even involved in the conception-it is quite freaky to meet someone at 30 and have them be the only person you have ever seen that looked like you.
they were also amazed that they were all obese. they began to talk and found out one lil thing that made them go hmmmmm........
the lil girl given up for adoption in 1960 was a size 14 until a year after having her first baby-within that time, she gained 100 pounds, even though none of her habits changed.
the lil girl raised by the obese woman who was the biological mom was a size 14 until she had her first baby at 18-within a year she had gained 100 pounds and none of her eating habits had changed.
and the lil girl given up in 1962(have you figured out thats me yet), was a size 14 until she had her only child, at the ripe old age of 25, and within a year of that event she(I) had gained 100 pounds, even though my diet didnt change, and having a baby i can assure you my physical activity increased.
none of us knew each other, all were raised in different enviroments, yet this happened.
is this an excuse? who knows..........i use it on the days it suits me .....when i am not beating me up for being weak............
my point, if you are still reading, is, genetics are a strange thing. i have a friend who is so thin, she stays sick all the time. she gets sick trying to find something with enough calories to add weight to her frame.
i go to the dr every year-my bp and my cholesterol are fine......i have found out i am pre-diabetic this year and that is something i am working even harder to get healthy to avoid.
i go dancing, and im damn good at it, i laugh and i cry, i wear a bathing suit in public(see profile pic if youre brave enough).
you say "bbw" is flaunting fat........as i said above, bbw is something i find dumb as hell.....i am a fat chick, you may be skinny, tall, short, or just right.
i dont understand what you mean by flaunting it-do you wish me to stay home and live in the dark and never subject you to seeing my fatness?
life is about choices-the first time you see me laughing with friends, while in my bathing suit, it may be something that shocks you(i also have a bikini-i like tan lines what can i say)
but after the first shocking image of omg how can someone fat like that "flaunt" and think they are attractive, you have a choice-dont look again. most of the men i have dated since getting divorced did not date fat chicks before me.......thank goodness they saw me, not the shell i am in. and some men prefer fat chicks. i personally do not find blonde men attractive....we all have things that turn us on. and off.
and yes i know the extra weight is not healthy, and the pre diabetes shows me i am not a spring chicken anymore. i will continue to work to become a healthier individual, because i need to do that for me. but in the mean time, i will also continue to live and love, laugh and cry, and be a normal human being like you are.
i am one helluva awesome human being, and i pray that in your job within the health field, you dont ever have to interact with fat chicks.
lawd i may hate me in the morning, but this was so cleansing to type.
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