kossack -> RE: Why So Many Chubby Subbies? (8/11/2007 12:42:52 PM)
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Well, hate to say it (and yes there is a huge double standard), but I do agree with the OP, in spite of the hypocritical views of the world. I, at a size 16, am definitely in the 'chubby' side and have noticed that it is a lot easier to just be out and open about who I am, on all levels here. (And it isn't just weight and sexual interests--I have hard political edges as well, and I just say 'this is who I am--deal with it' wherease in the nilla world I might try to be a little softer, less outspoken.) But, I would say, in my experience, and mine alone, I grew up chubby and it left me with a sense that there was something wrong with me--I needed to earn love. I got early acclimation by what I did, not by who I was, and so I may try to please people with actions because that was an early path to acceptance, in part because of my weight. (Wow! Freud would be proud!)
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