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RE: May I ask Y/you all something? - 8/12/2007 4:54:58 PM

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Level, your fan club is out in full force tonight

Well, I'm a fan of theirs, too

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RE: May I ask Y/you all something? - 8/12/2007 4:56:27 PM

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Yeah me too! Biatches don't respond to my phone- but I'm ok with that because if something were wrong they DEFINITELY would have told me.

You guys already have all this covered, I'm superfluous.

Darned biatches . I'm glad all's well.

And hey........ you put the super in superflous.

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RE: May I ask Y/you all something? - 8/12/2007 5:02:51 PM

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For what it's worth, since most anything of value has already been said.....

Have you considered that she probably doesn't want you for a sister either? In which case, she might see the Dom for the creep he probably is and leave him as well.

If you do the same, then he'll be stuck with nothing, except for his swollen ego (and possibly other parts). Which is probably what he deserves.

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RE: May I ask Y/you all something? - 8/12/2007 5:04:08 PM

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There you are Jeff! You must have had better things to do this weekend than nurse these boards

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RE: May I ask Y/you all something? - 8/12/2007 5:15:45 PM

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Levels fan club should know that he has been stuffing!!!! Those are socks!!! He is so fake.....I don't think he even likes Kevin Costner, he is just saying that to sound cool!!!

Anywhoo....To the op....I looked up bossofbosses1.....Is he the 23 year old dude from Mass?

Well it says in your profile you are bi....And if I were some 23yr old dude I might be heavily preoccupied with the thought of achieving the perfect Domiguy sandwich...I prefer my slice of pa jeon with a little kimchi to be on the bottom.

I digress. Chick, you just gotta decide what is right for you?...Did you ever allude to the fact that you would like the two of you to hook up with another woman? If not, then it just might be a harmless question to see if he can get you to hook up with another woman or two. At worse, it means that he is only interested in you because of your "bisexuality."

Good luck....Good sailing and remember I like my pa jeon to be on the bottom...Perhaps a little Injera on top might be a nice touch....

Have you guys even met?

Lastly, don't forget Level is a stuffer!!!

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RE: May I ask Y/you all something? - 8/12/2007 5:21:59 PM

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Levels fan club should know that he has been stuffing!!!! Those are socks!!! He is so fake.....I don't think he even likes Kevin Costner, he is just saying that to sound cool!!!

Lastly, don't forget Level is a stuffer!!!

ROFLMAO!!!!... seriously... nearly fell off the bed. Funny shit man!

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RE: May I ask Y/you all something? - 8/12/2007 5:23:05 PM

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lmmfao @ Domiguy ,girl tell him the truth !!!

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RE: May I ask Y/you all something? - 8/12/2007 5:24:52 PM

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The way I tell him something is by saying it. And focusing it on me and not judging his desires. Not putting him in the corner. And letting him decide waht he wants to do. Cause you are under consideration which says to me you probably don't really know each other much. Maybe he's for you. Maybe he is not. It's an exploration and while he is considering you you should in turn be considering him.

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RE: May I ask Y/you all something? - 8/12/2007 5:40:46 PM

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

Levels fan club should know that he has been stuffing!!!! Those are socks!!! He is so fake.....I don't think he even likes Kevin Costner, he is just saying that to sound cool!!!

Anywhoo....To the op....I looked up bossofbosses1.....Is he the 23 year old dude from Mass?

Well it says in your profile you are bi....And if I were some 23yr old dude I might be heavily preoccupied with the thought of achieving the perfect Domiguy sandwich...I prefer my slice of pa jeon with a little kimchi to be on the bottom.

I digress. Chick, you just gotta decide what is right for you?...Did you ever allude to the fact that you would like the two of you to hook up with another woman? If not, then it just might be a harmless question to see if he can get you to hook up with another woman or two. At worse, it means that he is only interested in you because of your "bisexuality."

Good luck....Good sailing and remember I like my pa jeon to be on the bottom...Perhaps a little Injera on top might be a nice touch....

Have you guys even met?

Lastly, don't forget Level is a stuffer!!!

Good thing I've got you on block, so I don't have to listen to those foul lies.

While I'm here, now would be a good time to mention, it isn't too late to join the Level Fan Club and Money Tree Foundation. $9.95 gets you a pair of green argyle socks, and a Dances With Wolves trading card.

Order now!

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RE: May I ask Y/you all something? - 8/12/2007 5:52:02 PM

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Good thing I've got you on block, so I don't have to listen to those foul lies.

While I'm here, now would be a good time to mention, it isn't too late to join the Level Fan Club and Money Tree Foundation. $9.95 gets you a pair of green argyle socks, and a Dances With Wolves trading card.

Order now!

Gosh darn and I was told I was an idiot for having folk on block!

Any who.......... I want PINK argyle socks pwease....

As for my addage....
What sunshine said is my view.
"The way I tell him something is by saying it. And focusing it on me and not judging his desires. Not putting him in the corner. And letting him decide waht he wants to do. Cause you are under consideration which says to me you probably don't really know each other much. Maybe he's for you. Maybe he is not. It's an exploration and while he is considering you you should in turn be considering him."

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RE: May I ask Y/you all something? - 8/12/2007 8:26:18 PM

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There you are Jeff! You must have had better things to do this weekend than nurse these boards

Why yes, yes he did. *weg*

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RE: May I ask Y/you all something? - 8/12/2007 8:54:30 PM

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There you are Jeff! You must have had better things to do this weekend than nurse these boards

Why yes, yes he did. *weg*

Good for yall!

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RE: May I ask Y/you all something? - 8/12/2007 8:55:43 PM

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Levels fan club should know that he has been stuffing!!!! Those are socks!!! He is so fake.....I don't think he even likes Kevin Costner, he is just saying that to sound cool!!!

Lastly, don't forget Level is a stuffer!!!

NOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!Say it isn't true

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RE: May I ask Y/you all something? - 8/12/2007 9:51:37 PM

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I kinda liked Aileen's answer (I really did). He sounds like an ignorant Yahoo. My take on this:

1) This isn't the kind of thing you just announce to someone you still don't know all that well, via telephone. It's completely presumptiuous on his part - I don't care if you are a submissive.

2) Tell him you'll have to think about what this means to you and your fiuture together - and that you'll need to get back with him later. This will give him some time to consider what an idiot he really is acting like. Perhaps some "light will dawn" on him, re: His presumptiousness in this circumstance.

3) If after that time period, he doesn't act like any "light has dawned" on him, considering his approach to his desire that you have a "sister sub" - than I'd certainly re-consider whether this is the kinda gyu you want to make a big committment with. There are plenty of other Doms out there, darlin'.

Just my two cents. Good luck.

- Susan

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RE: May I ask Y/you all something? - 8/12/2007 10:44:03 PM

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The thing that gets me is that you are only in the consideration period, how could he even consider a 3rd when your relationship is so new. Adding a 3rd is really really hard even when the original 2 have been in a rock solid relationship for years, But how can you bring 2 subs in at practically the same time. Sounds to me like this Dom is just as new as you are, and is clueless at how to do things.He is most likely just thinking "Cool BDSM I can have as many girls as I want" Which is very common for new Doms who dont know any better. If your not ok with that that is something you have to talk about now, it is something that should have already been talked about, though I understand beeing new you may not have even considered poly as a posability or even known it existed, but now that he brought it up, and you know about it and you know it isnt something you are interested in it is time to speak up, not only do you not have to agree to haveing a sister if you dont want to, but him even thinking about brining in a 3rd already would be a red flag to me.

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RE: May I ask Y/you all something? - 8/12/2007 10:49:41 PM

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Greetings
Straight up, honestly, with respect. If it is truly something you do not wish then let it be known from the get go.

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RE: May I ask Y/you all something? - 8/13/2007 2:05:00 AM

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I agree with the concensus here ... tell Him how you feel respectfully. And I'm inclined to agree with shysecrets ... this would be a crappy time to bring in a second with the first not established. And ... you can't really be sure who is the second can you? ... maybe He's been stringing her along for even longer than you! He could simply be totally clueless rather than deliberately manipulative.
*Edited because I hit the send button too soon LOL!*

I did have to partly agree with domiguy (now there's a first LOL!) ... if your profile says bi, then maybe He could be forgiven for thinking that you might be open to a second female (some men seem to equate the 2 whereas I don't think sometimes having sex with a female means you'd want to necessarily live with one or share your man with one!) ... however, I still think He should have articulated His interest upfront long before the consideration stage. Whatever way you look at it, He's goofed pretty badly and it's up to you whether His apologies when you respectfully point this out are sufficient for you to stay or to go.

Maam Jay aka violet[A]

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RE: May I ask Y/you all something? - 8/13/2007 2:52:04 AM

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i have to agree with Domiguy here... i know bisexual doesn't mean poly but it would be easy to assume that since you are interested in females as well as males that your Dom is looking to accomodate needs in this area.

i think sometimes people claim to be bisexual as a way of saying "i wouldn't be opposed to the occassional threesome if it felt like the right thing to do at the time" but guys tend to think bisexual means all their girl-on-girl fantasies will come true.

All the advise you've received is excellent. Honest, repsectful, detailed communication is always the best practice.

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RE: May I ask Y/you all something? - 8/13/2007 5:09:00 AM

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The thing that gets me is that you are only in the consideration period, how could he even consider a 3rd when your relationship is so new. Adding a 3rd is really really hard even when the original 2 have been in a rock solid relationship for years, But how can you bring 2 subs in at practically the same time. Sounds to me like this Dom is just as new as you are, and is clueless at how to do things.He is most likely just thinking "Cool BDSM I can have as many girls as I want" Which is very common for new Doms who dont know any better. If your not ok with that that is something you have to talk about now, it is something that should have already been talked about, though I understand beeing new you may not have even considered poly as a posability or even known it existed, but now that he brought it up, and you know about it and you know it isnt something you are interested in it is time to speak up, not only do you not have to agree to haveing a sister if you dont want to, but him even thinking about brining in a 3rd already would be a red flag to me.

While I pesonally agree that would be a little early to consider, I'll point out that is is, in fact, a personal expectation.

If the primary relationship is established with both people not just agreeing, but desiring a poly triad, doing so early in the relationship could actually be a very good thing. I'd only say it's a red flag, if a poly relationship had never been discussed, or if the sub/slave had expressed reservations beforehand.

I will briefly add, since I can't tell if the OP has actually met the man in person yet, that establishing a poly relationship before anyone's met face to face can be...disasterous. That he told her on the phone, instead of in person, suggests they haven't actually met in person. Then again, I don't put any stock in online consideration, personally.

My 2 cents.

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