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The fetish you never knew you had - 8/13/2007 1:40:40 PM   
Aimtoplease101


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Status: offline 		Have you ever "discovered" that you had a fetish for something you never knew about, or introduced someone to a fetish that was latent in them? 

For example, I knew that some folks had fetishes for women in pantyhose, but I never thought it was my thing.  I always thought that the stocking & garter look, or bare legs, were sexier and more attractive.  But after playing with a woman who liked to wear pantyhose-- and tease mercilessly with them-- I think I discovered [yet another] new fetish. 

Amazing world out there, isn't it? 

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RE: The fetish you never knew you had - 8/13/2007 1:48:20 PM   
earthycouple


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Status: offline 		I'm one of those funny people who define fetish as something necessary to become aroused.  Since all I need in my imagination....well...I guess my mind is a fetish?

I do love rope though....I consider myself a fiend not a fetishist about rope. *S* 

I had a dominant who was much like you about the pantyhose thing...not thigh highs, not open crotch...the real deal.  I've also been the object of someone's new enjoyment of something (needles for example) though again, not really a fetish, but a new love.

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RE: The fetish you never knew you had - 8/13/2007 2:25:52 PM   
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I'm one of those funny people who define fetish as something necessary to become aroused.  Since all I need in my imagination....well...I guess my mind is a fetish?

I do love rope though....I consider myself a fiend not a fetishist about rope. *S* 

I had a dominant who was much like you about the pantyhose thing...not thigh highs, not open crotch...the real deal.  I've also been the object of someone's new enjoyment of something (needles for example) though again, not really a fetish, but a new love.


I consider a fetish as something sufficient, rather than necessary, to cause arousal. It could be both sufficient and necessary, but the necessary part isn't required for it to be a fetish.

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RE: The fetish you never knew you had - 8/13/2007 2:45:37 PM   
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I'm one of those funny people who define fetish as something necessary to become aroused.  Since all I need in my imagination....well...I guess my mind is a fetish?

I do love rope though....I consider myself a fiend not a fetishist about rope. *S* 

I had a dominant who was much like you about the pantyhose thing...not thigh highs, not open crotch...the real deal.  I've also been the object of someone's new enjoyment of something (needles for example) though again, not really a fetish, but a new love.


I consider a fetish as something sufficient, rather than necessary, to cause arousal. It could be both sufficient and necessary, but the necessary part isn't required for it to be a fetish.


Ok. That's YOUR define.  Not mine.   I said I was one of the "funny" ones did I not?  I'm well aware I'm in the minority here but I did try to answer the OPs question under my parameters which you didn't even attempt. 

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RE: The fetish you never knew you had - 8/13/2007 7:29:30 PM   
hardbodysub


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Status: offline 		Earthycouple,

No need to get defensive. You gave your opinion. I gave mine. There was no attack or criticism, merely a differing opinion.

And no, I didn't respond directly to the OP, because I can't truthfully write about an experience I haven't had.

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RE: The fetish you never knew you had - 8/13/2007 8:04:43 PM   
temptressofsouls


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Status: offline 		Well, i know we're talking opinions here and it has nothing to do with the OP,  but "fetish" clinically means something necessary to achieve arousal-its a bit of a crutch, an obsession.

Colloquially though, I believe its pretty much taken to mean "something I like more then most people do that gets me aroused" or somesuch similar.

I've definately turned some people onto hypnosis.

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RE: The fetish you never knew you had - 8/13/2007 8:40:50 PM   
Smythe


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ORIGINAL: Aimtoplease101

Have you ever "discovered" that you had a fetish for something you never knew about, or introduced someone to a fetish that was latent in them?

For example, I knew that some folks had fetishes for women in pantyhose, but I never thought it was my thing. I always thought that the stocking & garter look, or bare legs, were sexier and more attractive. But after playing with a woman who liked to wear pantyhose-- and tease mercilessly with them-- I think I discovered [yet another] new fetish.

Amazing world out there, isn't it?

Regards, ATP



This has happened to me as well, ATP. It's not even necessarily a kink thing. If your partner is enthusiastic about something, it is easy to get turned on to it yourself.
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RE: The fetish you never knew you had - 8/13/2007 8:49:29 PM   
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ORIGINAL: earthycouple

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ORIGINAL: hardbodysub


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ORIGINAL: earthycouple

I'm one of those funny people who define fetish as something necessary to become aroused. Since all I need in my imagination....well...I guess my mind is a fetish?


I consider a fetish as something sufficient, rather than necessary, to cause arousal. It could be both sufficient and necessary, but the necessary part isn't required for it to be a fetish.


Ok. That's YOUR define. Not mine. I said I was one of the "funny" ones did I not? I'm well aware I'm in the minority here but I did try to answer the OPs question under my parameters which you didn't even attempt.


A little off topic, but I am with EarthyCouple with this one. A fetish is necessary for arousal. Like if you have a sock fetish, you NEED the sock to become aroused. A person doesn't even have to be wearing it.
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RE: The fetish you never knew you had - 8/13/2007 9:35:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		Breath play was like that for me.  I never had any interest in it.  It seemed way too edgy and just ... not necessary.  It wasn't even on my radar.  I was playing with a submissive and for some not very clear reason I had looped a scarf around his neck.   During play I pulled on it very tight.  It was like rockets went off for both of us!  Warp speed!  Rocket fuel!  We were both shocked at our mutual responses.  I didn't even realize what it was I liked until he pointed out that it was breath play (which really freaked me out).

Through conversation with a very kind submissive, I realized that I have an interest in blood play (?).   He was picking my brain, helping me define my limits, ticking off different things.  When he got to drawing blood, I automatically said that it was a limit and then realized that it sounded very, very exciting.  Haven't had the opportunity to do that one yet, though.  (sighing)

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RE: The fetish you never knew you had - 8/14/2007 7:17:01 AM   
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Status: offline 		I dont know if I would clas them as fetishes or just new interests.  Since being with my boy Ive discovered a new love of hoods something which I wasnt at all interested in before.  And also I appear to have developed a huge love of having him cum on me in different places like my neck or lower back :S lol I dont know why and it doesnt feel very Dommely lol but I do love it

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RE: The fetish you never knew you had - 8/14/2007 7:32:24 AM   
breatheasone


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Status: offline 		Well, if the term fetish is the deal then no i havent...but i HAVE discovered new kinks i didnt know i had. Master and i have discovered we are both WAY kinkier then we had ever imagined or hoped!.... LOL

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RE: The fetish you never knew you had - 8/14/2007 10:14:46 AM   
Aimtoplease101


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Status: offline 		Ok-- Hate it when the dictionary takes over.  I'll accept the friendly amendment and substitute the word "kink" for fetish.

But, since we're on the topic, isn't there always something that is necessary for arousal, even if it's something fairly vanilla, like the sight of exposed skin, a pair of ruby red lips, a sultry voice, etc? 

And I assume it is possible to have multiple fetishes, such that there are a number of triggers for arousal?

Regards, ATP

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RE: The fetish you never knew you had - 8/14/2007 12:43:28 PM   
SubJordanTyler


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Status: offline 		For me, it was probably the first time I was used in front of others.  I was able to get aroused in private, but I never thought I could do it in public, as I figured I would be too nervous........and I was worried I would disappoint my Domme if I couldn't get aroused like normal.

But it was so arousing to be the only naked person in a room full of people...........to have all their eyes on me as I was paddled on my ass, taken with a strap-on, and have my cock whipped...........that I stayed that way the entire time I was used as a play piece.  And I got to do that many more times because of that.  Now I crave it.

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RE: The fetish you never knew you had - 8/14/2007 1:05:09 PM   
DiannaVesta


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ORIGINAL: SubJordanTyler

For me, it was probably the first time I was used in front of others.  I was able to get aroused in private, but I never thought I could do it in public, as I figured I would be too nervous........and I was worried I would disappoint my Domme if I couldn't get aroused like normal.

But it was so arousing to be the only naked person in a room full of people...........to have all their eyes on me as I was paddled on my ass, taken with a strap-on, and have my cock whipped...........that I stayed that way the entire time I was used as a play piece.  And I got to do that many more times because of that.  Now I crave it.



I’m not sure if humiliation or exhibitionism would be defined as a fetish per se. I guess it could be tangible or intangible.

 
The art of female domination is to introduce new things in order to gain control. You might take something that is not ordinarily known to incite arousal such as body odor and introduce it in a way that it becomes a fetish then add it to your arsenal of tools to manipulate and control. Keep in mind that I don’t view manipulation as a negative thing.  


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RE: The fetish you never knew you had - 8/15/2007 11:18:05 AM   
Aimtoplease101


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Status: offline 		Ms. Vesta adds an even more interesting twist to the topic-- the use of a sub's fetish to control/ manipulate him.  I know I love the feeling of being dominated that way.  It's as though the Domme has acquired my secret code, knows which buttons to push to evoke responses, and can play with me like a puppet on a string. 

It's a great melding of physical and psychological control and surrender.

Regards,
ATP

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RE: The fetish you never knew you had - 8/15/2007 2:19:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		I am starting to think a man in uniform is a fetish or mine-A cop, military man or even just a ups guy made to do horrible demeaning tasks for Me........WOW

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RE: The fetish you never knew you had - 8/15/2007 2:25:07 PM   
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ORIGINAL: goddessAVA

I am starting to think a man in uniform is a fetish or mine-A cop, military man or even just a ups guy made to do horrible demeaning tasks for Me........WOW


Hi Ma`am.....Speaking of Uniforms

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RE: The fetish you never knew you had - 8/15/2007 5:16:35 PM   
cumulus


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Status: offline 		I just realized that I have a fetish for owning 'Financial Slaves'. The whole concept of scamming some nimrod out of his money under the cover of a 'lifestyle choice' is positively electrifying.


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RE: The fetish you never knew you had - 8/15/2007 5:41:35 PM   
fergus


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Status: offline 		Not really a fetish per se .... but I never realized just how HOT a thick New Zealand accent was on a woman until I had the pleasure of hearing it!  (this was totally a business thing, not even related to social or kink, or what)

Can't say WHY it was hot, just was.

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RE: The fetish you never knew you had - 8/15/2007 5:56:57 PM   
KMsAngel


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Status: offline 		because when she says "six" it just brings all sorts of fantasies to mind, and its so taboo to grab her and throw her on the table in front of the business associates?



(who has her own fantasies about maori's and tattoos)

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