Padriag
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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross I think it's because the majority of Dsers in the hetero world today simply translate all of their romantic ideals onto the Ds format. As long as the same values are upheld, then it's encouraged. As soon as you start to wade into a value that's not encouraged (like the male dom staying at home all day while the fem slave goes to work for money for the house, or instead of treasuring a woman's intelligence, you try to dumb her down or make her appear dumb), you get a lot of pushback. I agree... and this seems to be one of those things that touches an emotional tender spot for a lot of people added with some social programming. Stepping back and looking at it objectively, its fascinating to watch how it all works. One of the things that gave me pause about my own initial behavior was that I reacted without really thinking. I have no idea who the OP is, if he's sincere or the biggest wanker to ever grace these forums... which he is or isn't isn't the point. What bothered me was I never tried to find out, never looked at his profile, never looked any deeper than the surface of his post... and reacted solely to that. I found myself making a lot of assumptions, which while they may or may not be accurate... they were still assumptions based on the merest venear of the appearance of fact... and I ought to know better than that. Actually I do know better, which is why it particularly left me feeling a little like an ass. It is interesting though, to watch how much people are governed by ideas, what those ideas may be, and how close this "lifestyle" actually is to the "vanilla." Absolutely fascinates me sometimes.
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Padriag A stern discipline pervades all nature, which is a little cruel so that it may be very kind - Edmund Spencer
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