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MzMia -> RE: Mental Standards (8/14/2007 10:47:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SunNMoon quote: ORIGINAL: MzMia SunNMoon? Good character and a kind heart go a long way with me. I agree that this is a wonderful topic. [;)] I think I'm going to assume that it's the same for most everyone. Kat [:)] Kat? around here? you are kidding me right? Many around here are not seeking someone of good character and a kind heart. LOL I am grinning ear to ear as I type this. I rarely see anyone mention that are seeking someone of good character and a kind heart in the selection process, on collarme.

leatherette -> RE: Mental Standards (8/15/2007 5:19:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MzMia I rarely see anyone mention that are seeking someone of good character and a kind heart in the selection process, on collarme. You are right, MzMia. I wonder why that is? Is it too obvious? More subjective? Seen as wimpy? I wonder? I am drawn to high intelligence as #1. Character and a kind heart are much desired as well. all the best to you

mnottertail -> RE: Mental Standards (8/15/2007 5:22:51 AM)
Yeah, ok---- I will start sending out pictures of my brain instead of peener pictures. CharacteristicallyDominant

MyMasterStephen -> RE: Mental Standards (8/15/2007 5:29:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie "I don't know" is never an acceptable answer for him, ever. "I don't know" is sometimes the hardest answer to give to a question. It is often a perfectly valid answer - and occasionally it really is the only answer to a question. For it to be unacceptable seems worrying to me. And writing an essay on a subject about which you have no knowledge is a futile task.

AquaticSub -> RE: Mental Standards (8/15/2007 5:32:25 AM)
quote: "I don't know" is sometimes the hardest answer to give to a question. It is often a perfectly valid answer - and occasionally it really is the only answer to a question. For it to be unacceptable seems worrying to me. And writing an essay on a subject about which you have quote: ORIGINAL: MyMasterStephen quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie "I don't know" is never an acceptable answer for him, ever. "I don't know" is sometimes the hardest answer to give to a question. It is often a perfectly valid answer - and occasionally it really is the only answer to a question. For it to be unacceptable seems worrying to me. And writing an essay on a subject about which you have no knowledge is a futile task. I believe the point is that she then heads out and finds information about a subject with which to write the essay.

fsslave -> RE: Mental Standards (8/15/2007 5:52:14 AM)
It works both ways...what slave would even want to serve a dumb Master? The like-intellected hook up with each other. OMG i think i just invented a new word there!

leatherette -> RE: Mental Standards (8/15/2007 6:35:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail Yeah, ok---- I will start sending out pictures of my brain instead of peener pictures. CharacteristicallyDominant [&o] truly. i am caught by a man's mind ( the peener pics only seal the deal) It works the opposite way for men, i am told. First, the tittie shots - the then brain. [:(]

Level -> RE: Mental Standards (8/15/2007 6:58:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MzMia My grandfather did not finish 6th grade, he read the paper every day, watched public t.v. and owned a nice home, and lived to be 96. Again, he did not finish the 6th grade but he was well read, well versed, had common sense, knew what was happening in the world, and totally self sufficient into his 90s. He is one of my hero's, and I will not settle for anyone that is below his level. Peace [sm=applause.gif] Very well said, Mia.

domiguy -> RE: Mental Standards (8/15/2007 7:44:50 AM)
When I was a younger Domiguy I did place some relevance on the fact that a person be "degreed." Since those days, I have learned that a tight ass, tits that defy gravity and a throat capable of downing a telephone pole are blind to an education....So being the incredibly deep individual that I am I no longer place relevance on silly things like an education, if she is intelligent or warm hearted....It does help if she is Hawt!

feastie -> RE: Mental Standards (8/15/2007 9:00:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: fsslave It works both ways...what slave would even want to serve a dumb Master? The like-intellected hook up with each other. OMG i think i just invented a new word there! I had a dumb husband. Why would I want a dumb Master? Seriously.

LaTigresse -> RE: Mental Standards (8/15/2007 9:03:41 AM)
Mental is more important to me than physical. I want someone relatively mentally stable, intelligent, good sense of humour, good conversationalist, inquisitive mind, and sharing a similar morality. I do not deal well with extreme mental issues, bi-polar, hyperactive, manic depressive, etc......I just don't. After working in a college town and hiring and firing far too many, a degree means nothing to me as a marker for intelligence. I want good common sense. Someone with a capacity to deal with life's stuff in a workable manner. If someone hasn't a healthy sense of humour they will not survive long around me. I want to be around people I enjoy, that I can have an intelligent witty conversation with. If nothing else, brain stimulating on occasion. They have to want to continue learning and exploring. They have to be comfortable being quiet and in a calm peaceful environment. They also have to understand there is a time and place for different behaviours. Around family and those that are not willing participants we will behave differently than in private space and alone.

mnottertail -> RE: Mental Standards (8/15/2007 9:03:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: domiguy When I was a younger Domiguy I did place some relevance on the fact that a person be "degreed." Since those days, I have learned that a tight ass, tits that defy gravity and a throat capable of downing a telephone pole are blind to an education....So being the incredibly deep individual that I am I no longer place relevance on silly things like an education, if she is intelligent or warm hearted....It does help if she is Hawt! well, if she is all that, there is so much more intellectual discourse to be had.

feastie -> RE: Mental Standards (8/15/2007 10:07:36 AM)
You know, all a college degree means is that the holder went to college and didn't flunk out. S/He might have barely hung on by the toenail for the entire time, yanno? A degree has nothing to do with intellect and the execution thereof.

ownedgirlie -> RE: Mental Standards (8/15/2007 10:30:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MyMasterStephen quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie "I don't know" is never an acceptable answer for him, ever. "I don't know" is sometimes the hardest answer to give to a question. It is often a perfectly valid answer - and occasionally it really is the only answer to a question. For it to be unacceptable seems worrying to me. And writing an essay on a subject about which you have no knowledge is a futile task. Futile for you, perhaps. For me, it used to be a cop out answer because the world I used to live in didn't allow me to think for myself and when he found me I actually didn't know how to think for myself. I was so out of touch with who I was, or with my own feelings, that "I don't know" was a more common answer than it ought to have been. To make it unacceptable forced me to think on my feet, and now, three years later, I can answer about 99% of his inquiries and probes into my mind and heart on the fly. The other 1% is exactly as AquaticSub said - I'm sent off to explore myself and find the answer, and report back. And guess what - I always manage to do it, and I am always grateful for the push. Some of us don't like being given the easy road, so please, worry not. [;)]

SirDominic -> RE: Mental Standards (8/15/2007 10:36:12 AM)
Intelligence in and of itself is not a big qualifier with me. First, I know Mensa folk who are absolute failures at living. Having a college degree is also practically meaningless. I have never found any direct relationship between possessing a piece of sheepskin and actual smarts. Not that I could be comfortable with someone dumb as a post. Just that intelligence is lower on the list than some other abilities. I'm more interested in someone who has a level of self-awareness. It shows that they have actually thought through what they want out of life. Wisdom is also more important to me than intelligence, as it shows to me that someone has learned from their mistakes. Finally, a willingness to learn is far more important a trait than intelligence. Again, I know intelligent people who are in complete mental lockdown. They know they are smart, and that is as far as it goes. Someone, however, with a genuine curiosity, a willingness to learn; I'd take them over the "smart" one anytime.

SusanofO -> RE: Mental Standards (8/15/2007 10:55:15 AM)
I really dig smart people. But more than that, I dig kind, mature people (if the two qualities in a person are equal, say). However, I will say that if the person was a Dominant, and really dim, I would be turned off. Because I would doubt their ability to look after me, as they are supposed to be doing. In a male submissive, it wouldn't matter as much (I am a Switch). But all in all, I'd rather be with someone who is fairly bright. But if they are bright, but also mean or nasty, (or just way immature) then that kills it for me. Note: Bright (to me) does not necessarily equal having a college degree (or several). To me, it has more to do with being able to carry on an intelligent conversation, having quite a bit of curioisity, being able to examine your own conclusions to measure their rationality, and being interested in the world in general. -Susan

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: Mental Standards (8/15/2007 7:43:34 PM)
If I can out think him..then I doubt it would be a good match..Tempting

marieToo -> RE: Mental Standards (8/15/2007 8:50:32 PM)
I don't necessarily equate intelligence with having a degree or vice versa. But I like intellectual men whether they are degreed or not. And while I do consider myself smart in a lot of ways and very perceptive and kind of wise, I do not consider myself an intellect, yet I have often been drawn to men who are both highly educated and highly intelligent. Not only are intelligent men impressive to me, but it actually ties into my kink on some level. When I have the opportunity to interact with very intelligent and knowledgeable men is causes me to feel a sense of inequality or inferiority to them. It also causes me to feel challenged by someone who I perceive to be superior to myself on that level. It adds an extra dimension to the mental aspect of my submission. And it makes me give my personal best and to think hard when debating or conversing about something of substance. It's like striving to reach a bar, which I find extremely stimulating mentally. I've known and interacted on a personal level thus far with 4 PhD's; One was a practicing shrink (boy was that fun), and 3 of them were college professors. They tend to think differently than I do and I find it very interesting and challenging to communicate with this type, however I don't set out to find highly educated dominants, nor is it a prerequisite for me. As far as just regular "smarts" as opposed to those who are highly educated, that's a "must have" for me. It's a rare occasion that I cross the path of a man who can outsmart me, but every now and again it does happen, and I love it and readily surrender to it. If I can outsmart or out finesse the guy, it'll never work for me. So for me...yes...the mental aspects are very important and definitely essential whether educated, degreed, intelligent or just plain smart. All of this is far more important than a hard body.

FangsNfeet -> RE: Mental Standards (8/15/2007 9:14:07 PM)
I have to agree with Ron White. With plasitc surgery, diets, and gym coaches, any physical feature can be changed or fixed. However, you can't fix stupid.

Rockwell -> RE: Mental Standards (8/15/2007 11:03:36 PM)
It takes more than beauty. It takes brains. smart Dominas

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