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Alhazred -> RE: Mental Standards (8/15/2007 11:07:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AquaticSub We hear a lot about physical standards and physical attraction (important to be sure), but I've been curious about this for awhile and I suppose now is as good a time as any to ask. Just how good does your sub/slave's mind have to be? How educated? For us, it's the most important thing in a relationship that our partner be intelligent and able to carry on an intelligent conversation. Looks are good, have to have those too but they simply aren't as important as a big sexy brain. Or rather, having that sexy brain makes what might have been an ok person physically very attractive. As others enjoy knowing that their owners have strict physical standards and they have made the cut, I enjoy knowing I made his cut of intelligence. We know that our bodies will change as we grow older and we don't feel a relationship based primarily on physical attraction is likely to be as sound 40 years down the line as one based on mental attraction. Do you insist that your submissive or slave have a working knowledge of history or some subject that you can talk about and have differing opinions about for sound reasons? I know that Valyraen loves when I have a sound argument that makes him think about his stance on an issue - it causes him to rethink his own opinions and either strengthens them or changes his mind. Do you require your sub/slave to do things to keep their mind in shape? Take classes, write essays, read a book on some new subject, or learn a new craft? While it's important to keep the body in shape, we see it as being just as, or even more important, to keep the mind in shape. And yes... this post had the Valyraen paw of approval. [;)] Insipid and ordinary is boring. Having enjoyed the most eccentric and wild girls only those off-the-hook offer any joy. Jaded, perhaps... exclusive, maybe... up for the moment, DEFINITELY! No Brain - No Pain!

MzMia -> RE: Mental Standards (8/16/2007 5:18:19 AM)
[sm=applause.gif] I am glad Alhazred had the balls to admit this. There is absofuckinglutely {new word }nothing wrong with wanting someone because of how they look!!! If you want the big boobs, long legs, size 4, or eye candy? go for it. If I was 21 or 22, I would more than likely phrase things a tad differently. For many of us, it takes maturity and the school of hard knocks to get our priorities in order! I lusted after many a pretty boy/eye candy for over 20 years. [:D][:D][:D] It has taken me a while to get to this point! Just don't complain when you get someone shady, superficial etc. when that is what you went after. If you keep getting the wrong type of person, maybe you need to find out what you are doing wrong, and change your priorities. If it ain't broke and you are fine, don't fix it.

mnottertail -> RE: Mental Standards (8/16/2007 5:26:13 AM)
OHMYFUCKINGGOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! MzMia has used a swear word!!!!! Looks like I am starting to do some good around here, finally. Ron

IvyMorgan -> RE: Mental Standards (8/16/2007 6:17:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MyMasterStephen quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie "I don't know" is never an acceptable answer for him, ever. "I don't know" is sometimes the hardest answer to give to a question. It is often a perfectly valid answer - and occasionally it really is the only answer to a question. For it to be unacceptable seems worrying to me. And writing an essay on a subject about which you have no knowledge is a futile task. I think I wrote a 12 page essay concluding "I don't know, you don't know, no-one knows, and it doesn't matter anyway." It became stupid when I had to write the same essay the following week. Shockingly, I still didn't know, and no-one else knew either. Vaguely more on topic, I like conversation and I like to be challenged. There's a reason I thrived in the tutorial system of teaching at uni. And people who are intimidated by the fact that I am intelligent, I tend to not respect.

Celeste43 -> RE: Mental Standards (8/16/2007 11:22:49 AM)
College educated but highly capable with his hands. Most problems in life are petty ones, the garage door won't open, the washer hose is leaking, the car's making a weird noise. I feel better when I can get ideas from him as to what's wrong before I talk to the repairman/mechanic. If he fixes it himself, even better as I feel much more secure being able to lay a problem in his lap. Therapy. He has to believe in it and have had some. I have zero interest in people who won't turn to an expert for help. You wouldn't take out your own appendix so why is it wrong to consult an expert to treat depression? In terms of educational background, I prefer we are complimentary. He's good with math and science, I'm better with grammar and literature. Together we are an unbeatable team. Politically speaking, I'm liberal and he is much more centrist. This is a slight problem because being a liberal is part of my religion. I'm a reconstructionist Jew and we are all highly liberal. He is from a different religious background and therefore does not have the same moral approach to politics that I do. But we're in our 50s and that means we've been exposed to all kinds of things already and have enough on our plate that him assigning me make work which he would have to pay attention to would be an annoyance for both of us. Besides, we get enough exposure to learning through helping the junior members with their homework. Last semester my oldest took courses heavy in European philosophy. We talked about that a lot and everybody in the house got exposed to it. And exposed is the right term when you're discussing Nietzsche and Heidinger, it's like coming down with a disease!

Stunning -> RE: Mental Standards (8/17/2007 12:53:43 PM)
God yes. I cannot abide a girl unwilling to educate herself.

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