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RE: MARRIED MEN AND THE SCENE - 9/3/2007 1:58:18 AM

littleone484

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hello, my first foray into a forum of any kind, i agree with everyone...lol
but for myself i choose not to even see married people or people in partnerships..not for their sake, but mine..i don't want my heart broken or my values corrupted.

anyone else's choice is theirs...
but..ifn u lie about, may u just go to hell and die..look i know people lie, they lie about all sorts of stuff, but ifn u lie to me, ur gunna die...a firey death...lol
just my own not so humble opiniom. ;}

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RE: MARRIED MEN AND THE SCENE - 9/3/2007 7:46:28 AM

LadyPact

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This has been an exceptionally wonderful debate. So many different view of opinions and some a bit colored by personal status. A great opportunity to get to some core issues.

Btw, for future reference, should one chose to contribute to an open topic, they become a part of it. If one would not like their preferences, opinions, or situations addressed, they might make some different choices in the future.

IMHO, each person who choses to engage in these topics has their own particular story to tell. It doesn't mean everyone is going to get in line with their point of view. It just means they get to speak their piece on the matter. In the same token, they get to have themselves challenged on their perceptions.

I'm not going to bore anyone by posting the definition of the word "judgement" here from the dictionary. The truth of the matter is that word does have a place in this lifestyle. I am going to tell you, right up front, that I would prefer to deal with people of a high moral character. Not the, "I tell the truth except for this" or "I'm honest except for that". I have a personal preference for those with higher values, and I'm not going to change that, no matter why someone feels they are 'different' or 'the exception to the rule'. Just ask the hundred submissive men that I wouldn't engage with, because they could not live up to the same standard that My current submissive has been able to reach. Granted, I set the bar pretty high. In fact, I didn't think anyone would be able to obtain that height. Yet, it happened.

In retrospect, why shouldn't I? Why shouldn't I hope that the person I have a deep rooted, high moral connection with be able to live up to My standards? Why should I accept anyone in My life who can offer less? Who is anyone to tell Me that I have to tolerate less than I expect from Myself? Why should I have to look at a person, and see My own opinion of them, and wonder if they have chosen to use higher values with Me, when I know they are not necessarily keeping the same standards with another? I'm sorry, but no one is going to convince Me that I deserve any less than I am willing to offer someone else. Nobody else should settle for less if they don't want to either.

Now, of course, this is just My opinion, but if a person is willing to be deceptive to the person that they promised to have the most sacred of commitments, what on earth makes a perspective think they will be genuine with them? Oh, I lie to the spouse, but to you, dear submissive or Dominant, I will always tell the truth..... Hogwash! A person in this situation has already demonstrated that they are trustworthy only when it is convenient for their selfish purposes. Nothing more.... Nothing less. Or should a perspective partner be foolhearty enough to believe that the pattern stops with them? In My heart of hearts, I hope they show more character when it comes down to their honesty with respecting a safe word, or limits, experience level, or many other things.

Maybe the question isn't so much that some have standards that are so high. Maybe it is more the discontent of those that will not lower the standards to suit the level of another.

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RE: MARRIED MEN AND THE SCENE - 9/3/2007 7:58:34 PM

MellowSir

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Well sure, yet how many long-term bdsm relationships don't involve sex at some time eventually lol. After all, submission isn't complete without it......

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RE: MARRIED MEN AND THE SCENE - 9/4/2007 3:08:37 PM

Blaakmaan

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Ah, the battle continues...!

Let me deal with Latex Man (aka Mr. "judge mental")...

Now, Mr. Latex Man, I assume you were responding to my post. If you weren't, then this reply is my mistake. But I don't think I'm mistaken.

I, for one, don't appreciate being called "stupid," and I'm not a "selfish ass."

You are in no position to tell me "dats the way it is," but I do SO admire your command of the English language.

Speaking again of "stupid," I would be proud to put my IQ up against yours any day, assuming yours is large enough to measure.

Now, I wouldn't be speaking to you this way, if you weren't speaking to me that way. And I'm tired of ignoring your flaming rants.

I'm not your sub, so you can take your bullshit to somebody who gives a damn about your opinion. And, in your venacular, that ain't me!

And, for the record, I agree with Grrl6...

Some of you "judge mental" (I love it!) people need to get over it...!

In the immortal words of the Governator, "I'll be back...!"

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