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xoxi -> RE: So I'm not into munches... (8/19/2007 7:27:54 PM)
I would like to thank you all for the replies so far...and you know what, you're right. Especially the person who said that even if 90% of the people do like to play in public I'm still limiting contact with the 10% who don't. And actually, the post about turning a vanilla guy kinky isn't quite far off..I've always dated Alpha male types and I have a feeling if I had been more vocal when I was younger they would have been into tying me up and stuff...but that was my own insecurity. For the record, the club I was talking about was Exit...I've never tried Spybar but I heard they had a similar themed night. I'll probably give the munch another chance (especially since I know a couple people I can take with this time...last time the only person I knew was a 'regular' and of course he was working the room). I've been single for about 10 months now...and I'm definitely ready to start dating again. I don't want to turn into some desperate man hunter or anything, but I do want to meet some people. I guess limiting my options isn't the best way to do that [;)]

paleseptember -> RE: So I'm not into munches... (8/19/2007 8:52:43 PM)
Hmmm. While I can definately see your point of you, xoxi, the best way for one to find those with common interests are to join clubs specifically designed for those interests. A little hint: munches can be a little difficult if you go alone. Perhaps the best thing to do would be to find a sister subbie in your area and go to parties and/or munches with her. Other than that, just keep your eyes peeled, sweetie. There are kinky people everywhere. I even met one at work by accident! Best of luck to you. -ps

slavemaia -> RE: So I'm not into munches... (8/20/2007 7:09:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Alumbrado quote: Some of the munches were fun but i didn't experience what i had hoped i would. i thought i would experience an activity with some protocols in place Just out of curiosity, where did you get the idea that kink activities or protocol took place at munches? Ha ha - the same place i got many ideas from regarding D/s, M/s etc. - in my mind hee hee.

spankmepink11 -> RE: So I'm not into munches... (8/20/2007 9:48:46 PM)
I just came to this thread because i heard there was an Alpha Male buffet... dammit

MasterMike04103 -> RE: So I'm not into munches... (8/21/2007 5:53:44 AM)
I will be honest, that I didn't read all the replies for this one like I normally would have.. BUT, I am going to ask if you have tried the TNG group in chicago. Its a placve for people in the under 35 year old croud. If you want to try to meet some people you might want to check with them... http://www.tngc.org/tngc/home.html is their website.. Best of luck Mike

ta2dqt -> RE: So I'm not into munches... (8/23/2007 7:13:07 PM)
Ive never been to a munch.......I Keep thinking about going to one...........but there are a few things that keep me from going.........YET.................I would Most likely be going by my self................wouldnt know Anyone............am hoping there will be subs there.........(w/out thier dom/mistress)..............and Everytime I almost DO go.............they get cancelled!!! Do to lack of ppl/interest where i live!!! It is Horrible!!!! :( I know maybe some cool "biker" hang outs would be good if one Was looking for a Dom............but where am I to find a sub/slave/pet??? ESP where i live?? We DO NOT have any "cool clubs" like that here! :( the "thing" most pple are into here.....(esp in the winter times) is "swinging"...............but im looking for More than that!!! I Understand your pain!!! But Hey, i would SO take advantage of cool clubs like you have if I had the oppourtunity!!! (sp) :S GOOD LUCK!! :)

DarkDaddyZ -> RE: So I'm not into munches... (8/23/2007 7:18:24 PM)
I boycotted munches for the past 7 years for a variety of reasons. One is I'm a food snob and 2 was I went to troll for potential partners or playdates (I admit that). Recently I decided to get over myself and give the munches a chance again. When I started out the munches in my local community (Atlanta at the time) we about fun and having a good time. I find that within the past decade that the munches have been a place for some to hold court and I didn't like that too much. Regardless I've come to the conclusion that I missed out on alot by boycotting them and I'm working on the food snob attitude as well. I even decided to help organize a munch for bigger people in the Bay Area. So maybe a truffle burger munch will do the trick [:D]

Rover -> RE: So I'm not into munches... (8/24/2007 4:12:57 AM)
Wonderful example, Dark... if you don't find a munch that suits your needs, start a new one. There will be others that share your interest. John

Hisbellaluna -> RE: So I'm not into munches... (8/24/2007 6:42:52 AM)
what does it take to start a new munch? a resentment and a place to meet?

pearlmoongirl -> RE: So I'm not into munches... (8/24/2007 8:06:56 AM)
Munches skeer me, as my friends in Georgia would say. grins But frankly, I am more skeered of NOT going and NOT meeting other likeminded souls and staying safely and anonymously in the armoire as I have been.

domiguy -> RE: So I'm not into munches... (8/24/2007 8:23:26 AM)
I'm just way to private of a person to attend a munch or go to a dungeon...."Hey Domiguy, I never noticed that subsusies clit was so large." Domiguy responds, "Ummm.....Thanks for noticing, Jerry."

YesMistressIrish -> RE: So I'm not into munches... (8/24/2007 9:23:44 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NefertariReborn The "BDSM triskelion?" http://www.atruerose.com/rose/bdsmsymbol/myth.htm Let's keep rolling those myths right out the door. Nefertari, Thanks a bunch for that link. It was very informative! MI

YesMistressIrish -> RE: So I'm not into munches... (8/24/2007 9:33:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ta2dqt Ive never been to a munch.......I Keep thinking about going to one...........but there are a few things that keep me from going.........YET.................I would Most likely be going by my self................wouldnt know Anyone............am hoping there will be subs there.........(w/out thier dom/mistress)..............and Everytime I almost DO go.............they get cancelled!!! Do to lack of ppl/interest where i live!!! It is Horrible!!!! :( I know maybe some cool "biker" hang outs would be good if one Was looking for a Dom............but where am I to find a sub/slave/pet??? ESP where i live?? We DO NOT have any "cool clubs" like that here! :( the "thing" most pple are into here.....(esp in the winter times) is "swinging"...............but im looking for More than that!!! I Understand your pain!!! But Hey, i would SO take advantage of cool clubs like you have if I had the oppourtunity!!! (sp) :S GOOD LUCK!! :) Heh there, it's my riding buddy! I am planning on starting a new munch here. For some reason it seems there are less people to play where I live. I am thinking mid-range. Just a bunch of people into D/s. Guess I should start a thread, huh? Come on over, bring your bike and we will munch away... *wink MI

Alumbrado -> RE: So I'm not into munches... (8/24/2007 9:36:52 AM)
quote: Thanks a bunch for that link. It was very informative! Particularly if you read everything linked, and realize that the diatribe on the front page is simply untrue.

SnugasaBug -> RE: So I'm not into munches... (8/25/2007 9:08:34 AM)
XoXi Have you thought of organizing an adventure/activity/event for like minded/local people? It crashes the barrier, of not knowing what will happen (play) at a munch. An activity like a group travel to a Ren Faire, canoe trip, or hiking (well maybe later on this one...lol ), might be a great draw for the younger crowd. Your location lends itself to a big group of possibilities. Plan it well enough ahead to let word of mouth to spread. Good luck, Snug

sexyred1 -> RE: So I'm not into munches... (8/25/2007 9:23:53 AM)
OP, I feel your pain, truly. I live in the NYC area and I am sure there are munches galore, but I have not been able to bring myself to attend one, nor do I like the public club scene. I always met my partners through introductions, but have been single for the past year. I am so busy at work and traveling for business, that in my personal time, I try to engage in activities that I love, so I have had to rely on the internet dating situation, which is tough. All my friends are totally vanilla, so even if I wanted to attend an event, I would love to go with another submissive woman.

camille65 -> RE: So I'm not into munches... (8/25/2007 9:36:52 AM)
I think the reason I don't like munches is because everyone there has just one thing (for the most part) in common, WIITWD. Now if I could find a munch-combo-bookclub that would be far more comfortable and to my taste. [:)] For me it is not easy to discuss personal stuff at a table full of strangers brought there for just one facet of my life. I am horribly shy and having just one common denominator with the people there tends to shut me down. I feel awkward and weird at settings like that. Just sitting at a table in a restraunt (ack, sp? I miss a syllable) with a load of strangers makes me go twitchy inside.

AlphaMistress -> RE: So I'm not into munches... (8/25/2007 12:27:57 PM)
Munches are really quite socially-awkward events. The tend to clique because so few attendees are comfortable at free socialising, and once they have a few people to talk to they stick with them, and another clique is born. Summer parkland is a superb dating venue, and its a good guess that dommy men will use such an up-front approach. I'm not dating now, i have a partner, but I used to wear a silver handcuffs bracelet to lead the conversation to kink, and go and flirt! Kink wear is becoming mainstream int he UK and is set to be next year's fashion. But it takes a kinky person to wear it well and it will show! It could be a good year.... Mistress Alpha

xoxi -> RE: So I'm not into munches... (8/25/2007 5:40:49 PM)
Oh my God Camille, yes! You pretty much summed up my feelings perfectly. Munch-slash-bookclub sounds so awesome...maybe I should start one of those. Or even munch-slash-trivial pursuit...board games are way cheesy but it will bring the intellectual crowd out. I'm liking the idea of starting up a new activity for people. I've never checked out meetup.com or anything (I think that's what it's called), but I'm thinking that might be a decent place to start. And I'll definitely invite some of the people I met at the TNGC munch...at least the ones I thought were cool [8D] I'm a pretty good organizer type...this really might turn out to be a good idea. Thanks!

duckfoot -> RE: So I'm not into munches... (9/5/2007 7:07:31 PM)
I think the trick you're looking for is to meet guys like any other person with any interest they were trying to find in common would meet guys. Filter through the criteria for if the guy meets your criteria for a potential partner like any person with any criteria would parse through the "getting to know you" process. Part of "getting to know you" includes putting out feelers about that person's interests, tastes, etc. You just have a peculiar compatibility to match up, so it's going to be a bit harder to meet someone who shares this interest. I don't think it's where you go to meet a hot Dom. It's how you go about finding a partner who is compatible with you. There are ways to probe and pick up clues. My approach is to jokingly throw in comments or questions here and there when the opportunity presents itself. Humor always gives you an out. If he doesn't cue back, you just laugh it off and drop it.

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