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RE: Should I give a heads up on inexperience with givin... - 8/20/2007 4:46:43 PM   
Redoubt


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ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile

First take a deep breath.  Just because you are not very experienced at it does not mean you are going to suck at it.


If she doesn't suck at it, she's certainly going to come across as inexperienced :D

(Sorry, just could NOT resist)

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RE: Should I give a heads up on inexperience with givin... - 8/20/2007 4:55:53 PM   
blayneUK


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Status: offline 		dont know what the fuss is all about... if you love sucking a lollypop... then u gonna love giving head...

thats all there is to it

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RE: Should I give a heads up on inexperience with givin... - 8/20/2007 6:49:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		I can't believe I am the first smart ass to suggest the obvious...find someone who will let you practice on them and get some experience.

It isn't rocket science, but practice does make perfect.

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RE: Should I give a heads up on inexperience with givin... - 8/20/2007 8:06:50 PM   
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ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty

It isn't rocket science,


Why can't I leave these alone... I believe I need professional help... where is the yellow pages?


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RE: Should I give a heads up on inexperience with givin... - 8/21/2007 2:09:37 AM   
MstrSkyWoIf


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Status: offline 		If your real worried buy a box of popsicles and practice practice practice ....  And then set it straight and tell him your concerned and are open to being taught what he likes.


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RE: Should I give a heads up on inexperience with givin... - 8/21/2007 6:27:38 PM   
rob425


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Status: offline 		Be honest and tell him you are willing to take some tips and pointers. There is nothing wrong with asking him if there is anything you can do better and to get a detailed response. Thats how i learned to give girls head

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RE: Should I give a heads up on inexperience with givin... - 8/21/2007 7:25:00 PM   
NControlofU


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Status: offline 		What are you so worried about?  Are you planning on sucking his dick when you go to see him?  Has he given you the impression that he is expecting you to suck his dick when you see him?  Has he given you the impression that hes expecting the blow job of the century from you?  Do you think he's going to run you off when he finds out you haven't sucked enough dicks?  How about this for a possibility?  Maybe he could care less how many dicks you sucked before so long as you are ready willing and eager to suck his.  Maybe he would like to give you the experience at sucking dick that you have been sorely lacking.  Maybe he would enjoy feeling your inexperienced mouth on his dick as you gain experience and improve your technique on him.  Just something to think about.  I think your making a bigger deal out of this than it needs to be.  Why not just relax and enjoy his company and take it from there instead of all this worrying?

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ORIGINAL: goodgirlC

    Hi - I've been flirting back and forth with someone that I'm going to see in person soon, and I might've given them the impression that I'm more experienced with giving head than I am. I haven't done it a lot - I like it a lot, but haven't had a whole lot of experience. Should I : a. Write an email telling him that I might've given him the wrong impression b. Wait and talk to him in person about it, or c. Not say anything and see how it goes.
   I just don't want him to think I'm bad at it, when maybe I just don't have enough experience yet. I don't know for sure that I'm not any good, but I haven't umm... practiced in a while. Thanks. :)

C

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RE: Should I give a heads up on inexperience with givin... - 8/21/2007 8:03:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		Unless you have led him to believe that the first time you put your lips on his cock, that there will be fireworks and shooting starts- you really don't have to worry about it yet.

There is a time for this conversation, and it is before.  RIGHT before.  And this is a conversation most should have when confronted with someones genetalia.  Live, nude and ready to slide in your mouth.

"How do you like this?" 

It's an easy question. More people should ask it.   We are all different.  Men are all different.  Most men prefer not to be licked like an ice cream cone.  I have a dear friend who discovered the hard way that the person who "taught" her fellatio was an isolated case in that he liked teeth.  (Most men do not take well to a woman biting down.)   

If you are concerned about deep throating- you can work on relaxing the muscles in the back of your throat before you are confronted with said naked cock.

And let's face it- we are talking about a blow job here... It's really, really hard to screw it up.

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RE: Should I give a heads up on inexperience with givin... - 8/21/2007 8:10:23 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MstrSkyWoIf

If your real worried buy a box of popsicles and practice practice practice ....  And then set it straight and tell him your concerned and are open to being taught what he likes.




The problem with practicing with popsicles are that they are extremely cold (by definition) and they numb the back of your throat.  If you learn to deep throat with a popsicle, you may not be so comfortable with something at human temperature.  Also- popsicles melt and have give to them.

Bread sticks are better.  Fingers are best.  Slide your fingers in the back of your throat- a lot like you are going to throw up- but pull back in time.  Massage the muscles in the back of your throat and work on your tongue.

Here is a site that explains it fabulously:  http://www2.freedomacres.com/library/deepthroathow2.html

Alison

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RE: Should I give a heads up on inexperience with givin... - 8/21/2007 11:09:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		You could get a lot of r/l practice in before you meet him.

< Message edited by Estring -- 8/21/2007 11:10:49 PM >

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RE: Should I give a heads up on inexperience with givin... - 8/22/2007 2:43:37 AM   
MasterTiguar


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Status: offline 		you it seems like i've had to teach everygirl i've been with how to give head. and it's not just because they weren't experienced but i think because every guy likes something just a little different. 

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RE: Should I give a heads up on inexperience with givin... - 8/22/2007 2:50:52 AM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		I'm pretty much with Alison.  A bj is a bj.  I mean, you don't even know the guy.  You may not want his cock in your mouth once you meet him.  Seriously, you're working yourself up over nothing.

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RE: Should I give a heads up on inexperience with givin... - 8/22/2007 7:52:36 AM   
temptressofsouls


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Status: offline 		More like take a deep breath, relax, and say "Ahhhh!"

*big grin*

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RE: Should I give a heads up on inexperience with givin... - 8/22/2007 8:43:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		let him know ,, he might beable to tach oyu a few things,, and how he likes it

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RE: Should I give a heads up on inexperience with givin... - 8/22/2007 10:06:36 PM   
hisdevotedtoy


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Status: offline 		I would just wait and see how it goes.  I mean, even if you had a whole lot of experience, who is to say that what you learned from those experiences will be something he likes?  Plus, it may give him something to instruct you with.  Whats the harm there?

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RE: Should I give a heads up on inexperience with givin... - 8/22/2007 11:28:46 PM   
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ORIGINAL: goodgirlC

Hi - I've been flirting back and forth with someone that I'm going to see in person soon, and I might've given them the impression that I'm more experienced with giving head than I am. I haven't done it a lot - I like it a lot, but haven't had a whole lot of experience.


Beyond the obvious (hiring me for tutoring lessons (evil grin)), be honest in a low-key way; i.e., "I'm sure you won't be disappointed, but if you are, will you tell me?"

Personally, I love a girl who loves sucking. Notice I said 'loves'. It's not how practiced a girl is, it's how much she enjoys it.

In a Steve Martin movie, he tells Kathleen Turner, "You're so… so… professional!"

That's not what a true aficionado ever wants to hear.



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RE: Should I give a heads up on inexperience with givin... - 8/23/2007 6:52:16 AM   
SirCache


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Status: offline 		Every woman has a completely different technique and approach, and I'm reasonably certain that most men have preferred techniques applied to them.  I'd say be up front, and simply ask or discover what he enjoys.  Even though we all know the basics there is always so much variety in the details that it keeps life interesting (and fun!).

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RE: Should I give a heads up on inexperience with givin... - 8/23/2007 6:57:00 AM   
becca333


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Status: offline 		There are very few men who would be unhappy to hear, "I want to give you some really great blowjobs, but I'm not sure that I'm good enough.  Can we practice a lot until I do it just how you like it?"

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RE: Should I give a heads up on inexperience with givin... - 8/23/2007 1:50:56 PM   
JustSomeDom


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Status: offline 		I think you ought to print out this entire forum (if that's allowed here under the terms), and show it to him for a laugh. He'll be amazed at how much you thought about it, and it won't just be YOUR mouth watering when you finally go down on him!

JSD

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RE: Should I give a heads up on inexperience with givin... - 8/23/2007 1:58:55 PM   
SeargentDave


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Status: offline 		Personally, I have never had a bad head job, some admittedly better than others. The only thing you should discuss about it is if you swallow or not, potential master should know this. A master never expects to recieve a servant that is 100% perfect at pleasing him. It is this learning process that heightens the experience. And to be perfectly honest, most of the time the master will give plenty of coaching. WHEN YOU ARE FINISHED, ask him how it was and then discuss how it was and what he would like you to practice on, master should not object to your practicing. NO MATTER WHAT do not stop sucking until he has cum, no matter what make sure he cums and make sure you know what he wants you to do with it, that is very impirtant.

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