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i was just wondering how starting a thread about this in the public forums is putting an end to it?

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We hear a lot about the plight of sub/slaves in the hands of maladjusted doms/masters, but almost never do we hear anything about the problems a dom/master faces with a maladjusted sub/slave.

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ORIGINAL: Bobkgin

I have answered this twice, posted, and lost the response because the answer wouldn't go through. If this works I'll edit and repost.

Stand-by.

Ok, on edit:

I think you misunderstand my motive for posting this topic. Were I prone to post whenever I experience a set-back or the like, I'd be here much more often ;-)

We hear a lot about the plight of sub/slaves in the hands of maladjusted doms/masters, but almost never do we hear anything about the problems a dom/master faces with a maladjusted sub/slave.

I think if raising this topic gives food for thought for those at risk it will be a useful contribution to the community.

As for the block, I don't know what assumptions you are making to believe I only seek agreement, or consider any disagreement over a point to be a waste of my time.

I prefer discussions involving mature individuals, and would prefer to waste as little time as possible on the immature.

And so you know, for me maturity is a degree of mental development, not the number of times you've gone around the sun.

Some people just can't handle serious adult conversation.

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ORIGINAL: violetaelf

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ORIGINAL: Bobkgin

I have answered this twice, posted, and lost the response because the answer wouldn't go through. If this works I'll edit and repost.

Stand-by.

Ok, on edit:

I think you misunderstand my motive for posting this topic. Were I prone to post whenever I experience a set-back or the like, I'd be here much more often ;-)

We hear a lot about the plight of sub/slaves in the hands of maladjusted doms/masters, but almost never do we hear anything about the problems a dom/master faces with a maladjusted sub/slave.

I think if raising this topic gives food for thought for those at risk it will be a useful contribution to the community.

As for the block, I don't know what assumptions you are making to believe I only seek agreement, or consider any disagreement over a point to be a waste of my time.

I prefer discussions involving mature individuals, and would prefer to waste as little time as possible on the immature.

And so you know, for me maturity is a degree of mental development, not the number of times you've gone around the sun.

Some people just can't handle serious adult conversation.

I've actually seen a few other posts that talk about submissives/slaves being maladjusted.

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ORIGINAL: violetaelf
And while it's a good point and nice of you to bring it up.. you keep driving it at this one situation - your situation - with this particular woman, instead of making it a broad general discussion about the fact. Hence the multiple opinion of the fact that it's just your way to throw in the last word... Can you blame them? (us).

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ORIGINAL: violetaelf
And... I didn't see immaturity in this thread... Some serious and other light-hearted comments that all made sense as people's opinions... Everyone who responded on your thread I've known as mature and smart individuals (from reading many other threads they replied in) so I don't know what else that 'block' comment was about, except some comment that you didn't like. Just that's how it looks to me.

Again.. It's just my opinion.

'violet'

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ORIGINAL: Bobkgin

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ORIGINAL: violetaelf

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ORIGINAL: Bobkgin

I have answered this twice, posted, and lost the response because the answer wouldn't go through. If this works I'll edit and repost.

Stand-by.

Ok, on edit:

I think you misunderstand my motive for posting this topic. Were I prone to post whenever I experience a set-back or the like, I'd be here much more often ;-)

We hear a lot about the plight of sub/slaves in the hands of maladjusted doms/masters, but almost never do we hear anything about the problems a dom/master faces with a maladjusted sub/slave.

I think if raising this topic gives food for thought for those at risk it will be a useful contribution to the community.

As for the block, I don't know what assumptions you are making to believe I only seek agreement, or consider any disagreement over a point to be a waste of my time.

I prefer discussions involving mature individuals, and would prefer to waste as little time as possible on the immature.

And so you know, for me maturity is a degree of mental development, not the number of times you've gone around the sun.

Some people just can't handle serious adult conversation.

I've actually seen a few other posts that talk about submissives/slaves being maladjusted.

I haven't, but then I've been away from bdsm discussions for over a decade, so perhaps this is no longer new.

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ORIGINAL: violetaelf
And while it's a good point and nice of you to bring it up.. you keep driving it at this one situation - your situation - with this particular woman, instead of making it a broad general discussion about the fact. Hence the multiple opinion of the fact that it's just your way to throw in the last word... Can you blame them? (us).

I'm not entirely sure I understand why you would think my OP would inhibit a "broad general discussion about the fact". You and others are free to open this discussion up into a broader horizon.

I've provided a data point on the chart. If others were to relate their experiences, we'd have more data points. Perhaps a pattern would emerge.

Instead, a few have chosen to take pot-shots, they're blocked, 'nuff said about that.

We each bring to the table what we choose, and our choice reflects upon who we are. I've opened the discussion, answered questions, and as a side-line provided a few emoticons for those who were curious. I'm here to listen and engage where I deem it is warranted.

What others bring is up to them, isn't it?

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ORIGINAL: violetaelf
And... I didn't see immaturity in this thread... Some serious and other light-hearted comments that all made sense as people's opinions... Everyone who responded on your thread I've known as mature and smart individuals (from reading many other threads they replied in) so I don't know what else that 'block' comment was about, except some comment that you didn't like. Just that's how it looks to me.

Again.. It's just my opinion.

'violet'

Obviously we have different standards in this matter, or the people you've vouched for formed your first impressions of them differently than they are doing with me.

<shrug>

I can't say I'm feeling a loss here.

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ORIGINAL: marieToo

To the Op topic :

I have found that this type of stuff happens when either:  A. Someone isn't willing to take responsibility for their words and actions; or B.  Someone simply doesn't care about a fellow human being when they realize they no longer have a use for him/her.

Conduct your life with some code of ethics in place, behave with honor, say what you mean and mean what you say, and show the other person care (even if they can't benefit you) and this type of shit (drama, anger, stalking, blocking etc) will probably stop. 

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ORIGINAL: Aileen68

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ORIGINAL: Bobkgin

Just too much pettiness, ego and drama in that journal entry to make it worth your while.

Just as there is too much pettiness, ego and drama in your thread.  What's the purpose of all of this again?

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ORIGINAL: came4U

I have a nutball harassing me in r/l and on the net.  If you ask me, no one stable does that sort of thing.  A man, uhg, ok, a REAL man doesn't, that is or sure.  I joke about it, but it has made me ill, lost my sex drive too lol.  Not only because he is a pest but because he actually believes he is the sane one.

To the OP, I'd consider myself lucky that this person is a stranger.

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ORIGINAL: Bobkgin


Oh yes, while I might expect to see such behaviour in the ranks of the wannabe 'doms', this was behaviour coming from someone listed as "slave".

Go figure.