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RE: How Doms treat subs they don't know - 8/28/2007 9:43:03 PM

FangsNfeet

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I view people as people. Just because someone says they are submissive does not mean they should submit to me at a drop of a hat. I already have a submissive and I'm not looking for another.

As for the messages your friends are getting, everyone tries with there own technique. Most people come up with a pick up line, messages, or phrases that suits them best. When sending a message, sometimes it's all or nothing to see if they can get a response and stir up a disired effect. It's a gamble that most are willing to take. When one sees a profile that may be getting more than its fair share of messages, some think "What can I write that's going to stick out from the rest?" It's strike out or home run time. So many will either write there nicest or there dirtiest to be the most impressive.

I don't know how everyone likes being talked to. But I'm going to be myself, call the profile how I see it, and say what I think. All my messages were written in the form of how I want to treat you if things click. If you don't like me, then delete me. No feelings hurt. There's no obligation to reply back.

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RE: How Doms treat subs they don't know - 8/29/2007 10:56:31 PM

RRafe

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Wouldn't it be fun if people could just be themselves?

Rather than a "role"?

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RE: How Doms treat subs they don't know - 8/31/2007 8:05:19 AM

Matadorr

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One major reason they do it ...is because alot of them dont hav what it takes and they feel they ened to establish domination from the outset or it wont happen at all. Secondly alot of them arnt sure WHAT the women want. We know they want sex and domination, but how does it differ on callarme from in real life? The truth is. It doesnt differ much at all.

The other reason is to stand out from the crowd. I tryed some things l like this when i started 2 days ago now? And I can truly say these messages dont work (maybe with slaves or w.e I dunno. )

This is the key though.

CONVEY PERSONALITY. A sub has plenty of time to experience ur dom chracteristics ( a dime a dozen) but she wants 2 know are u REALLY someone shes wants 2 serve. are you someone who is funny, are u compatible , is there chemistry, are you a sick weirdo or the man of her dreams.

As soon as I just started conveying my personality in messages. I got consistent replys. Dirty talk and domination talk got very few responses and were generally dead end.

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RE: How Doms treat subs they don't know - 8/31/2007 7:48:05 PM

velvetears

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Why allow it to take up any room at all in your head. By doing that you are allowing them to control you and to influence you - even if only a little. You cannot control the way other people respond to you on the internet. Just ignore them and delete, move on, focus on the ones who respond appropriately. No one can ever answer this age old question - to be able to we would have to be in the head of every idiot who posted incorrectly to profiles, and i have better use for my time then to ponder on why idiots act the way they do.

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RE: How Doms treat subs they don't know - 8/31/2007 8:15:09 PM

RRafe

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It does seem somewhat..odd.........I'm the abstract thinking sort. If I am trying to get noticed-it behooves me to set up a reverberation that will excite interest in the person I am communicating with.

I have to go outside, and adapt.

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RE: How Doms treat subs they don't know - 8/31/2007 8:18:19 PM

Shadowen

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I personally address submissive women pretty much how I address women in general. If its a business or professional type of thing, even say talking to the teller at the bank I generally address them like I was raised, which was again instilled somewhat in the military. If I'm talking to a woman somewhere unless I know her personally more than likely the word Ma'am will pop up here and there.

If its a non professional type of thing with women I generally use what some would refer to as pet names babe, doll, stuff like that just cause its my personality. No offense or over familiarity is intended. Just how I talk. That transfers over to submissives as well, but in that case usually some sort of personal nickname gets affixed.

There are certain ones I will not use with submissives that I don't have some sort of relationship with. Little one, girl things of that nature. I reserve those for relationships and all that sorta thing cause that in my mind is familiarity. Well, frankly if I'm not in a relationship with a woman I'm not using any M/s related terminology anyways and I actually prefer them not to as well. Just cant take being called sir. I've known to many officers. Definately cringe at anyone but my girl calling me master.

Normally though if I'm talking to someone of the female persuasion I'm just naturally flirty and refer to them as babe or things of that nature, the better I know them the friendlier it gets. I don't treat submissives any differently unless I actually have some sort of personal relationship outside just friendship.

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