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Cooking Restrictions..among others - 8/28/2007 9:12:34 AM   
GhitaAmati


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Status: offline 		This topic came up in a few of the "polls and random stupidity" threads recently, and after my post on my cooking rules, I got a few emails on the other side. Most of them thinking my Sir is absolutly absurd and asking why I would put up with it...anyway, I basically ignored the rude comments, but it did get me to thinking on some things. I cant be the only one out there who is given a rather strict set of rules to cook by, although I dont doubt Im the only one on here who follows quite so strict a guideline. Now, I understand there are people who have to cook a specific way because of health reasons, but Im more asking about people who have rules based on just personal preference. What about other "domestic duty" types things, do any of you out there have to follow some pretty absurdly strict rules on any thing else?

Ill write out again here my basic cooking rules, and given thats it actually about the ONLY direct rules in my entire relationship, its never really bothered me, but it does make some things rather stressful with 4 kids in a house. I can not use anything that comes pre processed in any way. If it comes in a box, bag, or bottle, I am not allowed to buy it without express permission from him. Now, before you go and say, "cooking from scratch doesnt sound too bad", really take a moment to think how often the average american cook reaches into a pantry for something.

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~edited to say I actually meant to post this in the "off-topic" section, but I guess it works here too....

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RE: Cooking Restrictions..among others - 8/28/2007 9:19:59 AM   
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Status: offline 		Wow, chick. More power to you for being able to do that. Well it does have to be healthier but would be difficult to say the least. My hats off to you. 

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RE: Cooking Restrictions..among others - 8/28/2007 9:20:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		Personally I don't see anything wrong with the rules. We would all be alot healthier if we thought more about that philosophy.

As I think about it, even alot of "from scratch" cooking comes from a bag or bottle. Mostly seasonings or dried grains, beans, etc. Though, you have said you have to ask so that tells me they are used after permission granted. Even fresh produce generally comes in some sort of bag so I can see how that would be a bendy one also.


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RE: Cooking Restrictions..among others - 8/28/2007 9:26:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well, I cook damn near everything from scratch but I don't have little ones running around so have the time to put into my food and a love of cooking that makes it a joy rather than a chore. I made Himself home-made spaghetti and as soon as he tasted it he ordered me to never buy boxed pasta again. ::laughs:: The only food I can think of off the top of my head that's not allowed in the house are artichokes (which I adore) because Himself doesn't like the way they look, taste or smell. Unless he makes a specific request for a specific meal, I'm fairly free to express my creativity in the kitchen as I desire and I experiment quite often with new recipes. All that said, there are several items in the pantry and freezer which are quick and easy to prepare. Most of the time those get used if I'm out of the state visiting family. Himself is not a cook by any stretch of the imagination, so will just throw a frozen pizza in the oven or some hot dogs into boiling water while I'm away. I don't know if you'd call it a restriction, but I am ordered to buy those sorts of things for him when I go shopping otherwise they'd never be in the house at all.

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RE: Cooking Restrictions..among others - 8/28/2007 9:27:34 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm an extremely picky eater.  My partner keeps track as best he can on his PDA- but he knows that if he's going to make something for me, he needs to make sure he knows my exact preferences.

It's insane, irrational, but I'm completely open about it.

Although it really doesn't increase more work and time- as long as your master is ok with you needing that much more time and energy to do that and de-prioritizing other things to keep balance, I don't see a problem.

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RE: Cooking Restrictions..among others - 8/28/2007 9:29:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		yea, he does make exceptions, sometimes things, especially grains, some dried herbs, olive oil...things like that he will allow but I have to ask him about it first and he has to see the product before I can buy it and use it. Most of our fruit and veggies comes from local produce stands and stuff, so he isnt really referring to the bag they put it in to carry it home, more like sealed bags and boxes of products that are shipped out and stuff....

I do know we eat alot healthier because of his rules.....still cant lose weight though...kinda sucks...anyway Ill stop before I hijack my own thread...

I would really like to hear about others rules about this sort of thing though, anyone?

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RE: Cooking Restrictions..among others - 8/28/2007 9:31:34 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well, I kind of try......the key word is TRY.....to impose this sort of eating on myself. I am not always sucessful but it is a good goal.

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RE: Cooking Restrictions..among others - 8/28/2007 9:35:42 AM   
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Status: offline 		i think it is way cool of your Master.. i wish i had someone in my life that cared about me that much.....

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RE: Cooking Restrictions..among others - 8/28/2007 9:39:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well, define box, bag and bottle...

Flour and sugar come in bags. So do rice and most other grains. Dish soap comes in either boxes or bottles. How restrictive are we really talking here? Are you off harvesting the grain and milling it yourself?

My pickiness is epic. I've been known to specify the exact size of package of something to buy in addition to the brand, even going so far as to say that if the per ounce/gram cost is over X then it's off the list... but generally, I tend to be very functional in this - come home with cake flour after I specified bread flour and you'll find that the bread you're eating is just a bit... nasty.

And as we discussed earlier with mayonaise - what's to stop you from making your own and putting it in a jar? There are almost always ways around things... For example, She hates oatmeal cookies, because oatmeal is for breakfast. So maybe I make Her some oatmeal cookies as "breakfast bars" and add other good things to it to make it more "breakfasty"...

But this is giving me far too many ideas to play with...

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RE: Cooking Restrictions..among others - 8/28/2007 9:50:07 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well, for the most part, I dont use refined sugar at all...I either use honey, which we buy raw from this guy downthe road, or I use cane juice, which I just happen to get out of my uncles sugar cane field...he grinds all his cane once a year to make syrup, and I generally grab a few gallons of the juice to stick in the freezer....

As far as dish soap goes....I was mainly talking food...but if you really want to get into it, I do actually know how to make lye soap, which I do sometimes, but we do buy dawn also.....

flour....I have been known to really go all out for fun and start from the grain, but I do buy those in bulk, dont harvest it myself. But he is really picky on which grains and rice I can buy......

yeast....no little packets.....have a nice working jar thats been going for quite some time now....

If I make something ahead of time, and then put it in a jar to store it, thats ok...he's talking about the processed stuff....


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Ok, about twice a year I do some rather massive baking for the rest of my family. I am so much better at baking than regular cooking, even a rather good candy maker actually...anyway. For holidays and other occasions where I am to supply large quantities of food, he relaxes quite a bit on the rules.

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RE: Cooking Restrictions..among others - 8/28/2007 9:50:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		Ghita you are a strong beautiful person with facets on top of facets.  I applaud you for doing what you do each day.  It shows strength and character.

I don't think I have any rules that are absurd but well, they are my rules, aren't they?  As far as other chores and house duties I can't think of anything that makes me really over the top.  In the kitchen category though...I'm a terribly picky eater.  I don't like many things;  Including oatmeal cookies for desert.  That's just wrong...oatmeal is for breakfast.

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RE: Cooking Restrictions..among others - 8/28/2007 9:57:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		Oh before things get assumptive- I'm NOT the type who drives waiters and chef staff crazy when we go out to eat.  It's very rare I'll ask for substitutions, though I do ask if things can be removed or put on the side.  This is partially why I prefer generic type restaurants, but I don't make my own irrational issues into someone else's problems.

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RE: Cooking Restrictions..among others - 8/28/2007 9:59:51 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well personally, those are the rules in My house as well--I have for all the 18 years of My UM life, made a home cooked meal EVERY night---no bags, no boxes, nope.  I can and freeze fresh things for the winter and raise a sizeable veg garden. This winter I am raising My own chickens for eggs and considering a cow.--Anyone who comes to My home to cook, better do the same thing, I am not a preservative freak, I AM however, a well preserved freak.

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RE: Cooking Restrictions..among others - 8/28/2007 10:07:40 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: GhitaAmati

I can not use anything that comes pre processed in any way. If it comes in a box, bag, or bottle, I am not allowed to buy it without express permission from him. Now, before you go and say, "cooking from scratch doesnt sound too bad", really take a moment to think how often the average american cook reaches into a pantry for something.


It really doesn't sound too crazy to me. I don't think it would work for us, at least not right now, but I see that as the ideal of what I would like to do someday. I probably won't ever get there because all the time I'd spend just making our salad dressing (we both eat a lot of salads and we don't like the same kinds of dressing), mustards and things like that would be time I'd rather spend somewhere else. But if you can make it work for you and reasonable exceptions are made I don't see why anyone call it crazy. Kudos to you!

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RE: Cooking Restrictions..among others - 8/28/2007 10:43:59 AM   
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Status: offline 		I don't have any cooking restrictions set in place because Darcy and I aren't co-habiting full time as yet.  But when I do cook, I am a 'keep it eco and healthy' kinda gal anyway - and I have always been so with two children - and at one time 4 sprogs all under the age 7.  I don't find it a hassle and once you get used to where you can get your products and how to use them it works just as efficiantly as those that use processed packets and as a bit of a 'domestic goddess' (thats what someone called me once...) I tend to feel incredibly empowered and satisfied when I know I have made things from scratch.  Sure I can cook from a packet, but there is a different sense of achievement when I create from scratch and use basic fodder.  Having the ability to pull out a fullfilling meal from simply what is contained in the garden or a kitchen is a worthwhile asset to have.  And knowing where shit comes from and how it evolves is good to know too.  Coz you never .know.
 
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RE: Cooking Restrictions..among others - 8/28/2007 11:12:14 AM   
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i would love to be able to do this, and since i'm relocating to place where i can have a garden, i can at least have fresh veggies and fruits to freeze for the winters. w00t.

Does anyone have a good "from scratch" website that i could read? i would love to get into this again.

i have a small message board that i use for recipes, and if someone wants it, i can share.

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RE: Cooking Restrictions..among others - 8/28/2007 11:31:55 AM   
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A couple of really quick cooking rules or tips...
  • Remove the cardboard from the back of the pizza before placing it in the oven.
  • Never remove the tin from a pie before placing it in the oven.
  • Avoid Sex while standing next to a pan of hot boiling water.
As Jerry Springer says "Be good to one another".
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RE: Cooking Restrictions..among others - 8/28/2007 11:40:10 AM   
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Status: offline 		smiles ... I used to have a good game with  very dear One ... occassionally we would have a "letter for the day" I couldn't eat anything beginning with that letter and had to fnd the most interesting word beginning with that letter. It was pure silliness on both our parts but silliness that we cherished.

A - is a bad day because Additives are fooking everywhere. B was boring because that was "baked goods" out the window
very occassionally we would have days when i could only eat food starting with a particular letter ... I used to pray for C - cheese, cake, cream, chocolate, candy, cherries, chips, crisps, curry etc etc ... I got punished once with a "Y" weekend- living off yoghurt was very introspective believe me.

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RE: Cooking Restrictions..among others - 8/28/2007 11:58:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		Mine has a lot of preferences which ends up being restrictions even though he hasn't laid them out for me as such.  I'm in the habit of running things by him (then he checks with his wife) if I'm going to be cooking for them.  One thing I know for sure is he doesn't like things "mixed."  Thats a hard one for me because I'm the queen of one-pot cooking.  He likes his steak very rare, so rare that I wouldn't dare attempt to cook it myself.  I'd be afraid of poisoning him, and if he gets food poisoning, I'd be more comfortable knowing he did it himself. :)

Basically, if I have any doubt, I'll ask if I want to use a specific ingredient and usually tell him how I'm going to make something to make sure it's ok.  I kind of like it because it makes me feel like he's paying attention and interested. 




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RE: Cooking Restrictions..among others - 8/28/2007 12:02:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		Never worry about giving a rare steak lover food poisoning. All that blood makes us immune to it.

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