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ORIGINAL: puella


Who is your first tier...to whom do you first turn?  I think, naturally for submissives, the answer is obvious; I am very interested in the ideas from the other side of the street, so to speak.

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ORIGINAL: Stephann

I have this feeling, that the most self-sufficiant people tend to be the earliest risers...

Something about making coffee for ourselves?  (grins)

Stephan

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As a master, how does this paradigm change for you?  If something of great importance, be it ether good or potentially seriously damaging were to be impacting you to such a degree (in this case, an arrest) goes down in your life, who do you share it with, who do you turn to?

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

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As a master, how does this paradigm change for you?  If something of great importance, be it ether good or potentially seriously damaging were to be impacting you to such a degree (in this case, an arrest) goes down in your life, who do you share it with, who do you turn to?

puella,
My "first tier" and only tier is beth; arrest or a hangnail.

It is a drastic and dramatic change for me. My nature is not to trust anyone. My experience with people proved that to be a not only good idea but right. The one thing you could count on with confidence is that people live down to low expectation. Most people's help 'limit' is the border of where helping you stops helping them in some way. I am an only child. I don't know if that attitude is a result of nature or nurture, but for whatever reason I was comfortable dealing with my problems and issues alone, and I was good at it. Then there was beth...

she is my slave, my possession; but she is also my life. It was unintentional, unexpected, but denying her impact on my life would deny my life. she managed to tear down the facade and strip away all veneer. she was, and is, so comfortable being 'naked' emotionally and mentally, it made me feel uncomfortable, and actually stupid, for wearing any 'clothes'. her confidence and strength and "I don't care what others think" attitude about herself was unique. It is easy to share yourself when you have complete confidence in the other person. When you can rely on a person as you can rely on gravity it becomes as natural to trust. Now I can't imagine keeping anything from her - good or bad. I tell her often how much I hate her for doing this to me.

Life was so much easier without having my happiness, contentment, and well being rely on someone else. My only fear in life is the thought of somehow having to live without her. It is why the most important rule I have for her is that she is not allowed to die first. 

First tier? Other than beth there is no other.

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

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As a master, how does this paradigm change for you?  If something of great importance, be it ether good or potentially seriously damaging were to be impacting you to such a degree (in this case, an arrest) goes down in your life, who do you share it with, who do you turn to?

puella,
My "first tier" and only tier is beth; arrest or a hangnail.

It is a drastic and dramatic change for me. My nature is not to trust anyone. My experience with people proved that to be a not only good idea but right. The one thing you could count on with confidence is that people live down to low expectation. Most people's help 'limit' is the border of where helping you stops helping them in some way. I am an only child. I don't know if that attitude is a result of nature or nurture, but for whatever reason I was comfortable dealing with my problems and issues alone, and I was good at it. Then there was beth...

she is my slave, my possession; but she is also my life. It was unintentional, unexpected, but denying her impact on my life would deny my life. she managed to tear down the facade and strip away all veneer. she was, and is, so comfortable being 'naked' emotionally and mentally, it made me feel uncomfortable, and actually stupid, for wearing any 'clothes'. her confidence and strength and "I don't care what others think" attitude about herself was unique. It is easy to share yourself when you have complete confidence in the other person. When you can rely on a person as you can rely on gravity it becomes as natural to trust. Now I can't imagine keeping anything from her - good or bad. I tell her often how much I hate her for doing this to me.

Life was so much easier without having my happiness, contentment, and well being rely on someone else. My only fear in life is the thought of somehow having to live without her. It is why the most important rule I have for her is that she is not allowed to die first. 

First tier? Other than beth there is no other.