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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

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As a master, how does this paradigm change for you?  If something of great importance, be it ether good or potentially seriously damaging were to be impacting you to such a degree (in this case, an arrest) goes down in your life, who do you share it with, who do you turn to?

puella,
My "first tier" and only tier is beth; arrest or a hangnail.

It is a drastic and dramatic change for me. My nature is not to trust anyone. My experience with people proved that to be a not only good idea but right. The one thing you could count on with confidence is that people live down to low expectation. Most people's help 'limit' is the border of where helping you stops helping them in some way. I am an only child. I don't know if that attitude is a result of nature or nurture, but for whatever reason I was comfortable dealing with my problems and issues alone, and I was good at it. Then there was beth...

she is my slave, my possession; but she is also my life. It was unintentional, unexpected, but denying her impact on my life would deny my life. she managed to tear down the facade and strip away all veneer. she was, and is, so comfortable being 'naked' emotionally and mentally, it made me feel uncomfortable, and actually stupid, for wearing any 'clothes'. her confidence and strength and "I don't care what others think" attitude about herself was unique. It is easy to share yourself when you have complete confidence in the other person. When you can rely on a person as you can rely on gravity it becomes as natural to trust. Now I can't imagine keeping anything from her - good or bad. I tell her often how much I hate her for doing this to me.

Life was so much easier without having my happiness, contentment, and well being rely on someone else. My only fear in life is the thought of somehow having to live without her. It is why the most important rule I have for her is that she is not allowed to die first. 

First tier? Other than beth there is no other.

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ORIGINAL: puella

Who is your first tier...to whom do you first turn?  I think, naturally for submissives, the answer is obvious; I am very interested in the ideas from the other side of the street, so to speak.

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ORIGINAL: puella

Who is your first tier...to whom do you first turn?  I think, naturally for submissives, the answer is obvious; I am very interested in the ideas from the other side of the street, so to speak.

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth
It is a drastic and dramatic change for me. My nature is not to trust anyone. My experience with people proved that to be a not only good idea but right. The one thing you could count on with confidence is that people live down to low expectation. Most people's help 'limit' is the border of where helping you stops helping them in some way. I am an only child. I don't know if that attitude is a result of nature or nurture, but for whatever reason I was comfortable dealing with my problems and issues alone, and I was good at it. Then there was beth...

she is my slave, my possession; but she is also my life. It was unintentional, unexpected, but denying her impact on my life would deny my life. she managed to tear down the facade and strip away all veneer. she was, and is, so comfortable being 'naked' emotionally and mentally, it made me feel uncomfortable, and actually stupid, for wearing any 'clothes'. her confidence and strength and "I don't care what others think" attitude about herself was unique. It is easy to share yourself when you have complete confidence in the other person. When you can rely on a person as you can rely on gravity it becomes as natural to trust. Now I can't imagine keeping anything from her - good or bad. I tell her often how much I hate her for doing this to me.

Life was so much easier without having my happiness, contentment, and well being rely on someone else. My only fear in life is the thought of somehow having to live without her. It is why the most important rule I have for her is that she is not allowed to die first. 

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ORIGINAL: Padriag

At this point in my life, that would only be myself.  It's simply how things are at this point, but such has not always been the case.  I read what Merc and beth shared and it reminded me of once familiar things.  Someone who knew me front cover to back.  The advantage to relying only on yourself is that there is no one to let you down but you... but unfortunately no one to help pick you up, but you.  Sharing your life with someone, as Merc and beth do, has the advantage of halving your burdens, but the disadvantage is that losing that person can be the most painful hell anyone could imagine.

I don't know if I'll ever have that again.  Part of me wants it, part of me is terrified of it.  Part of me wonders if perhaps the right person came along I'd feel that connection again, that it would emerge on its own.  Part of me wonders if lightning ever does strike twice.

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ORIGINAL: puella

As a master, how does this paradigm change for you?  If something of great importance, be it ether good or potentially seriously damaging were to be impacting you to such a degree (in this case, an arrest) goes down in your life, who do you share it with, who do you turn to?  Does the dynamic of this lifestyle keep you from that person being the woman (man) you own?  Does the dynamic  of this lifestyle make that relationship of 'life partner' alter to such a degree that you are limited in  whom or how you can or desire to share yourself and the fullness of your life, good and bad, important and trivial?  Does control and mastery/submission and servitude mean that that part of a relationship is no longer an option, no longer appropriate for you and the person you are dominant to?  

Who is your first tier...to whom do you first turn?  I think, naturally for submissives, the answer is obvious; I am very interested in the ideas from the other side of the street, so to speak.


Thanks so much!

Jen

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ORIGINAL: MadHatter

If something screwy happens, my first person I turn to is my friend up in Tallahasse. Although I have known her for less than a year, she is probably the best person for me to turn to for two reasons: 1) she's older than me, and will not hesitate to set me straight, and 2) she doesn't judge me if it's something crazy, as some people would that I know because of their beleifs. If you trust someone, make sure they are non judgemental, but still have a good head on their shoulders and will not hesitate to give you a swift kick in the rear.