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WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Gratuitous Hugging (8/31/2007 8:21:40 AM)
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ORIGINAL: GhitaAmati
I am not a real huggy person...at least not with people I dont know....our close friends, I think I hug most of them when I see them, but Ive never been one to exchange overly friendly gestures with people Im just not really friends with. I hate it when people want to hug me and I dont even know them.
Im not really a kisser either, I hate it when people try and kiss me on the cheek...and men, what is it with thinking women are gonna find you oh so romantic if you kiss our hands? I hate that. If I give you my hand I meant for you to shake it, not fucking make out with it. yuck...I gotta go wash my hands now just thinking about it.
I do have a semi large group of very close friends who we are a bit more "touchy feely" with than most people are with their friends I guess, so maybe it throws people off when I show up to an SCA event and some knight runs over and grabs my ass while he's hugging me so hard he's lifting me off the ground, but that is not an invitation for some stranger to take the same liberties....just because I play tonsil hockey with the first 14 people who greet me, doesnt mean Im gonna do it with you if Ive never met you and gotten to know you that well.
Oh and dont even get me started on swingers clubs...ok, so we've been to a few recently...only just started going to the "public" swingers parties over the past few months. Up until then Id only been to ones where everyone invited to the party knows everyone else thats there and everyone is comfortable with everyone. But recently we decided to take a group of our friends and go check out the ones where you dont ever know everybody. If Im in the middle of fucking someone, and some guy walks my and smacks my ass or pinches my nipple and I just grin, it probably means Ive known the dude for years and Im ok with him doing that....it does NOT give some strange dude the right to walk up and do the same thing! We flat out packed up and left, all 8 of us, at the last party we went to cause half the people there thought it was ok to just touch who ever they wanted.
Wow, I really need to get out more! If all 8 of you are still in transit, want to swing by my place?
Ok, all joking aside, I've seen perfectly sincere people confused by mixed signals. In situations like that, sometimes the protocol gets blurred, and otherwise thoughtful and respectful people make mistakes. Sometimes, people are just selfish, inconsiderate bazturds who don't think before they act. In those instances, it wouldn't matter if 2 or 200 guys grabbed your ass. They'd feel justified in doing so, simply because your wishes never played into their desires.
I am often surprised by the liberties people take with others.
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