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newtothis55 -> Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (8/31/2007 10:58:50 AM)

Not to be dumb but maybe cause i am relativly new to D/s  I am confused on the ammt of emails from collarme.com Dominants that start with hello slut. Then they usually ask if I am obedient. Ok, I do not get the slut thing,i realize given time it could be a term of both endearment and humilation and i am honest confused about the obedient thing when its a first email, how can i even answer that? Obedient to what or who, or even which.Can someone explain these concepts ? Thanks in advance



michaelOfGeorgia -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (8/31/2007 10:59:59 AM)

well, for me...it takes a few emails before I convince them I "AM" one...if being a male slut is possible...LOL



MasterMataeo -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (8/31/2007 11:02:17 AM)

mog,,,
yeah a male slut is possable,,,

as far as the OP ,, it can be common ,, but not warrented ,, unless you have it in your profile,, if not ,, just junk the e-mails,,,,

but that is my opinon ,, like all my other posts..

MasterMataeo



DiurnalVampire -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (8/31/2007 11:06:15 AM)

Common, yes.  Appealing, no.
Some Dominant males seem to think that that word indicates to you from the getgo that you are beneath them and that you are going ot desire to be their property.  For some submissives that is completely acceptable, and desired as well.  The problem is, it doesnt work for everyone, and you either love it or hate it from the start.
However, consider it a good indicator, if you dont like being spoken to that way right off, thats the easy way to narrow down your responses quick.

DV



ProlificNeeds -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (8/31/2007 11:06:58 AM)

They sound like typical "Hi are you an easy source of entertainment for me and palm-ala" type emails.



texancutie -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (8/31/2007 11:08:23 AM)

Well first off,  I couldn't even attempt explaining their motivation as anything even remotely dominant.  Whenever I get emails or private messages like that, I assume they haven't a clue what Domination or submission is.  I mean I could be mistaken, but in my eyes, they are just role playing being Dominant online.  Having an overbearing personality or telling someone you don't know that they are a slut or whatever, does not a Dominant make. 



LordVelvet -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (8/31/2007 11:16:19 AM)

I would agree with the cutie, how can you not?
LordVelvet



BitaTruble -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (8/31/2007 11:39:18 AM)

~FR~

They're just people who are assuming a relationship where none exists. Discount them as dorks, block as needed and move on. You don't owe obedience to anyone, least of all some cyber pixals which find their way into your email box.

Celeste



michaelOfGeorgia -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (8/31/2007 11:41:05 AM)

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be their property


what if my warranty is has expired...do I have to go back to the manufacturer to get re-certified?

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Synocense -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (8/31/2007 11:44:49 AM)

To me it is an 'online thing' - something they learned in chat room and/or while engaged in some sort of role play. The reason I feel this way is because I cannot imagine walking into the dungeon on a Saturday night for a play party and a stranger
introducing himself with the lead "hello slut" ------   I would have to laugh.

Some people feel they can get away with much more if they do not have to stand face to face with someone, the internet is their security net. It could be fun for some online fantasy but if that is not what you are looking for, consider it a red flag. Simply my opinion :)

Syn



plushiecat -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (8/31/2007 11:45:17 AM)

Sadly, it seems to be a common occurrence.  I don't know what the socalled doms (dumbs?) are attempting to prove, but it seems they forget that we are all humans first, and anything else second.  Treat the other as you would wish to be treated.  It seems the basic 'rule' of getting toi know someone first is not in the minds of such individuals.



YesMistressIrish -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (8/31/2007 11:51:04 AM)

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ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

Common, yes.  Appealing, no.
Some Dominant males seem to think that that word indicates to you from the getgo that you are beneath them and that you are going ot desire to be their property.  For some submissives that is completely acceptable, and desired as well.  The problem is, it doesnt work for everyone, and you either love it or hate it from the start.
However, consider it a good indicator, if you dont like being spoken to that way right off, thats the easy way to narrow down your responses quick.

DV


I know a few women who do this also from the get-go. It is not My way and different stokes, etc.
 
Submission is a gift, and being someone's slut happens over time, imo.
 
Irish



DiurnalVampire -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (8/31/2007 11:56:03 AM)

I agree, Irish. However, since the OP was female, I made an assumption (potentially incorrect) that she was mainly seeing it from Male Doms.  From what I understand the females tend more towards the sex slave line and less for the slut one.
Either way, its an aquired position, not an immediate thing.  Personally, I dont want A slut, I want osmeone who, eventually, may be MY slut... but theres a world of difference.

DV




slaveish -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (8/31/2007 12:30:44 PM)

My message back:

"I am obedient when I have a reason to be.

Which is why I am not being obedient now."



sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (8/31/2007 1:01:24 PM)

quite common from doms who lack manners and common sense when it comes to respect.

"ignore, lock and delete" will become you best friend



Tarisa -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (8/31/2007 1:03:08 PM)

Could be worse...I just got an email saying I was really a guy lol...now that is rude !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



realtuffdom -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (8/31/2007 1:06:41 PM)

This is easily solved for me. I just ask them to send 9 or 10 color nude photos of themselves so there is no dispute. Sometimes, I'll give them a list of poses they should do in order to make them legit. I mean, I only do it to help "them", not me.



dbadd0g1 -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (8/31/2007 1:10:51 PM)

Interesting.
Yesterday I was called  a pussy and told there was no way I was strong enough to handle this slave because I did not call her a slut right out of the box.
Its not my first line to meet someone. It seems that at first it is no different than meeting someone on the street. I just know that because you are here we have at least one thing in common. So would I walk up of the street and say how ya doing slut on your knees....well..not for a first impression no.  lol

I am a little new and guess I have a lot to learn



DiurnalVampire -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (8/31/2007 1:13:33 PM)

Every time I get the hello slut lines, I ask if they are colorblind.  The Red means I wont respond well to it.

I dont care what someone might call me for not forgetting my manners, I still plan on talking to any new contact as a person before I assume they are going to react well as any role-speak.

Maybe *I* am wierd.

DV



needs2beused -> RE: Is it common in a first email to be called a slut? (8/31/2007 1:18:43 PM)

I agree that it seems off to address someone straight away as slut!  I had a similiar problem when a "dom" wanted naked pics of me but I said no, I only trade.  He didn't have any to trade! A freaking argument ensued!  Agh, why should I care to please you now?
Sub not doormat



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