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How long before you meet?


0-30 days 1 month
  54% (24)
31-60 days 2 months
  11% (5)
61-90 days 3 months
  0% (0)
91-120 days 4 months
  4% (2)
121-150 days 5 months
  0% (0)
151-180 days 6 months
  0% (0)
181 -365 1 year
  0% (0)
366- 730 2 years
  0% (0)
As long as it takes
  29% (13)


Total Votes : 44
(last vote on : 9/10/2007 5:27:22 PM)
(Poll ended: 9/12/2007 11:05:00 PM)
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How long before you meet? - 9/1/2007 11:01:35 PM   
slave4hotgi


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Status: offline 		Ok here is the question. You are talking to a potential Dom/Master or sub/slave you seem to relay click. What is your limit as to how long you would wait for them to agree to a face to face meeting before saying hit the road jack or Jackie?

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RE: How long before you meet? - 9/1/2007 11:05:54 PM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		People tend to wait too long, and I don't understand why.  OK, I can see waiting for a few conversations to see how you interact with the person, but after a while you have to meet him or her in the flesh.  I've heard too many stories of people who talked to each other for months and months only to find that, with all the pent-up stress and anticipation, the first meeting was a total flop.

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RE: How long before you meet? - 9/1/2007 11:09:02 PM   
BiteGirl


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Status: offline 		I don't have a specific time, usually wait untill it feels right.
And sometimes you can't help that its ages till you meet - its just the way it works out.

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RE: How long before you meet? - 9/1/2007 11:10:15 PM   
Mercnbeth


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Status: offline 		We met in person 10 days from first contact. We did a lot more than 'click' about 2 hours later. Together 4 1/2 years - married one year ago once the 17th of the month gets here.
quote:

People tend to wait too long, and I don't understand why.

Fast enough L&M?

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RE: How long before you meet? - 9/1/2007 11:14:31 PM   
Domin8tingUrDrmz


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Status: offline 		Long enough to find out if there are any major conflicts of interest.  Not so long to lose any spark that might be there.

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RE: How long before you meet? - 9/1/2007 11:16:48 PM   
marieToo


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Status: offline 		I don't have a timeframe set out, but it usually ends up being a couple of months.  I am usually extremely nervous about these types of meetings and I always think that if I talk to the guy just a little bit longer before meeting, it will somehow be easier, but it's not.  I reach a point where I just feel "ready" for better or worse and I step out and do it.  
Outside of the fact that I'm usually tongue-tied and blushing, I can't say I've ever had a bad meet with anyone.  Even those with whom a relationship didn't blossom, I had a few laughs, a good time and still talk to a few of them as friends.

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RE: How long before you meet? - 9/2/2007 1:00:33 PM   
DesertRat


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I agree with LaM that people wait too long. I now feel that it's case dependent and success depends on so many other variables that the amount of time spent before meeting doesn't really matter. I've made quick commitments (like the current one) that have gone very well, and, on the other side, stretched the "getting to know you" process over periods of 3-5 months with end results that could only be described as hellish. But that's me.

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RE: How long before you meet? - 9/2/2007 1:08:45 PM   
Satyr6406


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Status: offline 		For me, I'm a "the-sooner-the-better" type but, distance plays a factor in it.
 
If we live within an hour's drive of each other and can't manage to meet within a week or two, I can't be bothered wasting any more time.
 
I have no set-out time schedule but, it's got to be fairly quickly because people can "hide" so many things in text and even on the phone but, rarely can they look the other person directly in the eye and get away with anything.
 
 
 
 
 
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RE: How long before you meet? - 9/2/2007 1:31:09 PM   
MstrSkyWoIf


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Domin8tingUrDrmz

Long enough to find out if there are any major conflicts of interest.  Not so long to lose any spark that might be there.



I agree with the above statement I would also add as long as it takes for the person you are meeting to feel safe....

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RE: How long before you meet? - 9/2/2007 1:31:23 PM   
earthycouple


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Status: offline 		earlier is better...rule em out or in as soon as you can...but well...you can't always do that.

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RE: How long before you meet? - 9/2/2007 1:49:19 PM   
cuddleheart50


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Status: offline 		If they live close to me ( within an hour or two)....one week is long enough.

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RE: How long before you meet? - 9/2/2007 1:52:17 PM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		A week (or two at the outside) for those who are close sounds good to me. 

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RE: How long before you meet? - 9/2/2007 2:40:59 PM   
FullCircle


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Status: offline 		As long as it takes.

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RE: How long before you meet? - 9/2/2007 2:51:58 PM   
MysticFireTopaz


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Status: offline 		If they are local, I see no reason why we can't meet within a couple of weeks.  If they are long-distance, I give them more time, but never more than 90 days.
 
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RE: How long before you meet? - 9/2/2007 5:39:36 PM   
LeMis


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Status: offline 		As long as it takes...

Sometimes right away,
or sometimes never 


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RE: How long before you meet? - 9/2/2007 11:12:45 PM   
LDRandAstarte


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quote:

ORIGINAL: slave4hotgi

Ok here is the question. You are talking to a potential Dom/Master or sub/slave you seem to relay click. What is your limit as to how long you would wait for them to agree to a face to face meeting before saying hit the road jack or Jackie?


Relays most often do click!


But we agree with the majority of the previous comments if they are close by and they can not even meet you in a public place for a face to face in the first week or two, they are most likely never going to meet you and they are just yanking your string!

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RE: How long before you meet? - 9/3/2007 12:38:41 AM   
YesMistressIrish


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Satyr6406

For me, I'm a "the-sooner-the-better" type but, distance plays a factor in it.
 
If we live within an hour's drive of each other and can't manage to meet within a week or two, I can't be bothered wasting any more time.
 
I have no set-out time schedule but, it's got to be fairly quickly because people can "hide" so many things in text and even on the phone but, rarely can they look the other person directly in the eye and get away with anything.
 

Yeppers, what Michael wrote.
 
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RE: How long before you meet? - 9/3/2007 12:42:30 AM   
marieToo


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quote:

ORIGINAL: cuddleheart50

If they live close to me ( within an hour or two)....one week is long enough.


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RE: How long before you meet? - 9/3/2007 12:42:41 AM   
KMsAngel


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Status: offline 		which is why i make so many friends on this site. it's a LONG trip from australia

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RE: How long before you meet? - 9/6/2007 2:56:48 PM   
lonlyrossInNeed


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Status: offline 		I love making friends ;)
and I'm not here to rush will wait as long as it takes to meet the right one :)

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