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Evening whippings. - 9/3/2007 10:56:21 AM   
nephandi


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me and Master enjoy even whippings. A set number of strokes before bed witch he can increase if he belive i deserve more. i have however been told by many lifestyle pepole that this practice is wrong, and i do not undertand why. Yes it is play, and no off course it is not essential to the relationship, but it is something we both enjoy.

There are several reasons to do this. One is that it is a little reminder of the position of slave, every evening. To us a whip is a powerful symbol and such a whipping makes sure the slave never forgets her place. Another inportant reason for us to do this is that it is a way to wash away all the little sins of the day, all the little flaws in this evening punishment and end the day whit a clean slate. A third reason is that it is a way to show tenderness for us. i like such shows of submission and he is sadistic, so for us the ritual becomes meaningful.

So what is wrong whit this? Why do so many pepole think such a evening ritual are stupid or meaning less?

i wish you well well.


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RE: Evening whippings. - 9/3/2007 10:58:54 AM   
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if it works for you then who is to say it is wrong ?

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RE: Evening whippings. - 9/3/2007 10:58:59 AM   
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So what is wrong whit this? Why do so many pepole think such a evening ritual are stupid or meaning less?



I dunno. Who told you that it was? I've never heard of it being stupid.

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RE: Evening whippings. - 9/3/2007 11:01:03 AM   
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Status: offline 		interesting.  I don't think having a ritual is stupid.  Do what makes you happy and not harmful to others.

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RE: Evening whippings. - 9/3/2007 11:02:44 AM   
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Status: offline 		you probaly just out kink em...if it works for you ...then enjoy!

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RE: Evening whippings. - 9/3/2007 11:13:06 AM   
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Status: offline 		My Lady usually sets me up for the day with a nice spanking - it might be her belt, or a flogger. But I have a 40 mile commute, and it makes the drive go by delightfully to feel the sting and think about her...



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RE: Evening whippings. - 9/3/2007 11:40:02 AM   
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ORIGINAL: nephandi

Greetings

me and Master enjoy even whippings. A set number of strokes before bed witch he can increase if he belive i deserve more. i have however been told by many lifestyle pepole that this practice is wrong, and i do not undertand why. Yes it is play, and no off course it is not essential to the relationship, but it is something we both enjoy.

There are several reasons to do this. One is that it is a little reminder of the position of slave, every evening. To us a whip is a powerful symbol and such a whipping makes sure the slave never forgets her place. Another inportant reason for us to do this is that it is a way to wash away all the little sins of the day, all the little flaws in this evening punishment and end the day whit a clean slate. A third reason is that it is a way to show tenderness for us. i like such shows of submission and he is sadistic, so for us the ritual becomes meaningful.

So what is wrong whit this? Why do so many pepole think such a evening ritual are stupid or meaning less?

i wish you well well.



I too do evening whippings some times. Not necessarily every night but close. Nothing much either, I'm not talking about a full blown scene here.. just nice 10-20 minutes. For us it's just nice. Just like cuddling a bit in bed before we go to sleep.

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RE: Evening whippings. - 9/3/2007 11:46:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		Who said it was stupid and meaningless?  The fact that we don't do a lot of ritual, have no interest in much ritual, does not mean I'd find yours meaningless for you.

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RE: Evening whippings. - 9/3/2007 11:53:15 AM   
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We do this in the morning and it sets the tone for the day. Obviously, I don't find a thing wrong with it! ::grins::

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RE: Evening whippings. - 9/3/2007 12:01:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'd be curious to know who told you this practice was wrong.....My opinion is no...its not wrong, as a matter of fact is sounds HOT!!

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RE: Evening whippings. - 9/3/2007 12:15:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		If it works for both of you then why care what others think? They are probably just jealous. Ignore stupid comments like that.

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RE: Evening whippings. - 9/3/2007 12:21:57 PM   
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...there are probably very few "hard and fast rules" around these parts...but one you will find most people agreeing to is>>>> to be leary of those who will tell you that " their way is the only or right way"  or that  " there is something wrong with your way/kink"...
 
what works for you two....works for you two : ) 
 
 

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RE: Evening whippings. - 9/3/2007 1:07:59 PM   
nephandi


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Thank you all for replying. As for who told me it was stupid, various pepole on thi forum and on other BDSM forums. i would however prefer not to say this and this person by name said a mean thing to me. i just wanted to ask here if this was a thing many found stupid and why. Thank you for replying it is very kind of you.

May i wih you well


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RE: Evening whippings. - 9/3/2007 2:35:38 PM   
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Status: offline 		Perhaps they are assuming these are very severe whippings and that your body isn't getting a chance to heal. Because welts done over and over daily on exactly the same place won't heal, and that's the unsafe part.

I think if you said spanking there wouldn't be much concern but whipping brings to mind welts and indeed, slicing open the skin.

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RE: Evening whippings. - 9/3/2007 2:39:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		Maybe they were trying to anger you so they could get an evening whipping themselves.



**edited to add that unless like Celeste mentioned your skin is not getting a chance to heal then it sounds like quite a wonderful ritual. Nothing wrong there.


< Message edited by charlotte12 -- 9/3/2007 2:41:41 PM >

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RE: Evening whippings. - 9/3/2007 2:41:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		Dang I wish I could have an evening whipping....or a morning whipping.....or an afternoon whipping. You get the picture.

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RE: Evening whippings. - 9/3/2007 3:11:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		I can see why it would not work for many people and I would advise against it for them.

But it works for you, so what do you care?

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RE: Evening whippings. - 9/3/2007 4:16:17 PM   
arayofsunshine55


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Status: offline 		You know., you really can't base what you do on what others think.  You have to truly know yourself.  And then do what works for you two. Even if everyone else in the world thinks it's stupid.  That's my view on life anyway.  They aren't living my life.  Who gives a fuck what they think about it?  Who gives a fuck if it would work for them?  I really don't.

Live your life.


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RE: Evening whippings. - 9/3/2007 5:14:39 PM   
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just my opinion but if you both enjoy it all the power to you. Hell wish it was me most days. Well ok, I'd prefer a by the hand spanking personally but heck ya, a sapnking a day (or twice a day) would totally make me happy. *S*

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RE: Evening whippings. - 9/3/2007 6:20:20 PM   
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ORIGINAL: nephandi
So what is wrong whit this? Why do so many pepole think such a evening ritual are stupid or meaning less?


i would put forth that anyone who would insult someone else's ritual as "stupid and meaningless" lacks an understanding of the nature of ritual... It mostly makes me think of people who have somehow learned "The One True Way of BDSM" without ever having been in a real-time power exchange relationship.

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There are several reasons to do this. One is that it is a little reminder of the position of slave, every evening. To us a whip is a powerful symbol and such a whipping makes sure the slave never forgets her place. Another inportant reason for us to do this is that it is a way to wash away all the little sins of the day, all the little flaws in this evening punishment and end the day whit a clean slate. A third reason is that it is a way to show tenderness for us.


That sounds wonderful

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