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If you released your Dominant. - 9/4/2007 8:11:36 AM   
RRafe


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Status: offline 		Was there drama?
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RE: If you released your Dominant. - 9/4/2007 8:18:21 AM   
toservez


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Status: offline 		I broke up with my former Master of seven years and I imagine and from what I have been told the breakup went down the same path as all other breakups in all types of relationships. It had drama, grief, guilt, exuberance, anger and the rest of the emotional rainbow for both of us.



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RE: If you released your Dominant. - 9/4/2007 8:19:52 AM   
RRafe


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ORIGINAL: toservez

I broke up with my former Master of seven years and I imagine and from what I have been told the breakup went down the same path as all other breakups in all types of relationships. It had drama, grief, guilt, exuberance, anger and the rest of the emotional rainbow for both of us.



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RE: If you released your Dominant. - 9/4/2007 8:29:49 AM   
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RE: If you released your Dominant. - 9/4/2007 8:54:44 AM   
utterlybutterfli


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Status: offline 		Nope, no drama. Its was a fairly 'dramatic' relationship, actually (which contributed hugely to its eventual demise)- but this was suprisingly quiet and amicable.
I like to believe it was because we cared enough about the other when I had to let go, for us to treat eachother kindly at a time which was awful for both of us.

Edited as per for terrible spelling and syntax



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RE: If you released your Dominant. - 9/4/2007 8:59:01 AM   
mmb1


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Status: offline 		Would you mind explaining this a little more?  You released him? 

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RE: If you released your Dominant. - 9/4/2007 9:02:20 AM   
utterlybutterfli


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ORIGINAL: mmb1

Would you mind explaining this a little more?  You released him? 

Sure.
If taking the question at face value - as others have - I let my Dominant go. I didn't have a collar to give him back, I wasn't his slave - I was his submissive. It was a difficult relationship but we loved eachother a great deal. I told him why I didn't want to see him any more.

If you don't understand the question, or the replies it has recieved, why don't you question the OP?

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RE: If you released your Dominant. - 9/4/2007 9:03:10 AM   
mysurrender


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Status: offline 		i was collared for nine years and married for five to my former Master. Although there was an immense sadness for both of us, there was no drama involved. i think each of us realized how difficult the decision was for the other and we tried to diminish each other’s burden. Though i screamed and cried, perhaps even threw things about my room... i did so privately. Keeping my grief private had two objectives... One, to keep Him from seeing the enormity of my suffering... two, to lessen the already overwhelming sorrow He was feeling. Release although exceedingly painful was in both of our best interests.

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RE: If you released your Dominant. - 9/4/2007 9:09:33 AM   
mmb1


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Status: offline 		The OP just says, "Was there drama"?  Would you mind explaining to me how this came about, if it's personal, i understand, but I am just curious?  And you can take that back, if you want, apologize...

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RE: If you released your Dominant. - 9/4/2007 9:11:33 AM   
mmb1


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Status: offline 		I am just trying to understand how releasement if you both love each other is in both's "best interest", rather than sticking it out, expecting that with any relationship, there are ups and downs?

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RE: If you released your Dominant. - 9/4/2007 9:14:26 AM   
utterlybutterfli


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Status: offline 		The question says

'If you released your Dominant.. (title)... was there Drama (post)?'
I perceived that as a clever two parter.

Do I want to discuss the awful bits of our relationship, the distance, the time we never managed to spend together, the times when he wasn't where he said he was? Frankly, not with you.

As for apologies, after some of the ways I've seen you respond to people who have written to your posts to support you recently when you've been having a tough time - I would suggest you don't wait too long for an apology about this from me




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RE: If you released your Dominant. - 9/4/2007 9:19:29 AM   
freyjasdottir


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Status: offline 		No, drama.  I keep things to myself so the closest I came to drama was telling my roommate I was leaving and just driving around for an hour, the neighbor asked if I was ok because I almost never leave by myself but that's the closet it came to being dramatic.

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RE: If you released your Dominant. - 9/4/2007 9:24:23 AM   
toservez


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Status: offline 		I will not get into the details of the drama but it was created by him not accepting it was over and me after repeating and begging him to address the issues I broke up for over a period that then measured in close to two years how I acted when he would offer up his fix all suggestions. I would not say it was major drama but we both did not act in a way that I can look at as always being on the high road.

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RE: If you released your Dominant. - 9/4/2007 9:25:31 AM   
BeingChewsie


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Status: offline 		I was in service to someone before my current relationship, I ended it. There was no drama, we still talk. It was not the right relationship for me. There was nothing to work out, or work through, he just was not what I was ultimately looking for. We treated each other kindly as well.

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RE: If you released your Dominant. - 9/4/2007 9:25:57 AM   
littlesarbonn


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RE: If you released your Dominant. - 9/4/2007 9:36:04 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: RRafe

Was there drama?


LMAO

OMG...sorry...that was just...well...too funny

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RE: If you released your Dominant. - 9/4/2007 9:52:49 AM   
mysurrender


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quote:

ORIGINAL: mmb1

I am just trying to understand how releasement if you both love each other is in both's "best interest", rather than sticking it out, expecting that with any relationship, there are ups and downs?


We did try to work through our differences but we each came to need and expect different things in life. When two people are no longer happy or fulfilled, it is in neither ones best interest to stay together. i do not love Him less because we are not together; in fact, it was our love for each other that allowed us to do the right thing.
Yes, i in fact did release my Master... i released him from obligations and promises that he felt guilty about not being able to fulfill. So yes, He was in that sense released...

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RE: If you released your Dominant. - 9/4/2007 9:54:51 AM   
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ORIGINAL: mmb1

I am just trying to understand how releasement if you both love each other is in both's "best interest", rather than sticking it out, expecting that with any relationship, there are ups and downs?


I know this question wasn't intended for me, but I feel an urge to respond to it anyway. Love isn't always enough to keep a relationship going. People have different views on what love is and if they don't mesh with their partner's views on love, it can create serious problems. It doesn't mean they don't love each other, each in their own way. This is just one example, there are many more. To blindly believe that love is the answer to every relationship problem is unrealistic.

>Edited because my typing skills suck. 

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RE: If you released your Dominant. - 9/4/2007 10:20:55 AM   
RRafe


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Status: offline 		Sometimes we need to take off the rose colored glasses, and realize we have reached an impasse. All we can do when we hit that wall is to ask the question.."Do you really think you can change-and do you see any need to?"

If the answer is no-the only real change you can make is to break it off-and love isn't going to help. I know this is not a very romantic view to take-but at least it's not a masochistic one.

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ORIGINAL: cautiousiasub

quote:

ORIGINAL: mmb1

I am just trying to understand how releasement if you both love each other is in both's "best interest", rather than sticking it out, expecting that with any relationship, there are ups and downs?


I know this question wasn't intended for me, but I feel an urge to respond to it anyway. Love isn't always enough to keep a relationship going. People have different views on what love is and if they don't mesh with their partner's views on love, it can create serious problems. It doesn't mean they don't love each other, each in their own way. This is just one example, there are many more. To blindly believe that love is the answer to every relationship problem is unrealistic.

>Edited because my typing skills suck. 

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RE: If you released your Dominant. - 9/4/2007 10:27:24 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: mmb1

Would you mind explaining this a little more?  You released him? 


Remember: " when you are under My control,  you have no right to choose--however, you always have the right to choose to be there"
 
So yes, slaves and submissives can let Dominants go.

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