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what would you do? - 9/8/2007 11:35:17 PM   
DaughterSlave


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Status: offline 		You  have a master and you love him to death. All of a sudden he want to have another female slave to join  your relationship. You  really don't wantto share him. What would you do?
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RE: what would you do? - 9/9/2007 10:31:58 AM   
slaverosebeauty


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Status: offline 		For MJ an I, that would not happen. We are monagumous and intend on staying that way. A female play partner on rare occassion might come into play some time down the road, right notgonnahappen. We are both very much in a 'one-on-one' mindset, where adding another would not be benifital to either of us or to our relationship. If He changed His mind and wanted another slave, I would be gone or she would. Its cut and dry. Me or her. Not both. MJ doesn't get His cake and eat it too, regardless if He IS a Master or not. Its not how our relationship works or what its built on. He knows my feelings on this, and He respects them and agrees with them.   

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RE: what would you do? - 9/9/2007 10:33:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		voice your concerns. be honest with him. If he does not respect your wishes ask for release. then leave

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RE: what would you do? - 9/9/2007 10:41:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		did you talk about this when originally negotiating your relationship?


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RE: what would you do? - 9/9/2007 10:54:48 AM   
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Status: offline 		I would leave if my needs/wishes were not respected, but than again, I'm a dominant and it looks really bad if I let someone shove an unpleasant alternative down my throat.  For yourself as a slave, you have no choice but to either accept it, and learn how to graciously deal with it, or ask for a release from the relationship.  Good luck,  M

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RE: what would you do? - 9/9/2007 12:04:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		As a slave your obligation is to express and explain your thoughts to your Master regarding this matter. He will make a decision whatever it is. 

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RE: what would you do? - 9/9/2007 1:14:58 PM   
Kelika


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Status: offline 		I would expect that there would be discussion on the situation as you are obligated as a slave to reveal all thoughts and emotions to him, for they belong to him.  If he still wants it, you honestly have very litle to do save for begging release or accepting it.  Interestingly enough, I would gather information about the statistics on relationships that fail that are "poly".  Usually what happens is the dominant man ends up loosing both.  Mind you, it usually lasts for a few years, but long term as in lifetime...I don't think I've met one yet personally.

I always say to anyone I am talking to...if you want an open relationship, that is fine, but then I want to be able to be with other men.  Women are just as if not more needy in needing to feel wanted then men are.  I usually don't get a good response...*chuckles*.


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RE: what would you do? - 9/9/2007 1:31:03 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: DaughterSlave

You  have a master and you love him to death. All of a sudden he want to have another female slave to join  your relationship. You  really don't wantto share him. What would you do?


Talk to Him, explain how i felt.
However for me i want Sir to be happy and if this was how He would be happy then i would be accepting of it. Thats just me though.

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RE: what would you do? - 9/9/2007 1:35:43 PM   
DomForce


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Status: offline 		Does he have any kinks you don't 'cater for'? What if he wants to see you with another girl? What if he wants a little variety? What if he wants to see you 'fighthing' for him?

Have you spoken to him about it?

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RE: what would you do? - 9/9/2007 4:06:39 PM   
Prinsexx


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Status: offline 		Your profile states you are bisexual....so wait for your master to establish the pecking order and then have some polyamorous fun

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RE: what would you do? - 9/9/2007 5:13:14 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: DaughterSlave

You  have a master and you love him to death. All of a sudden he want to have another female slave to join  your relationship. You  really don't wantto share him. What would you do?


I listened...to all he had to say about it..
when I was asked my feelings, I told him all of them..he listened to them all...
we talked about it together..at length...over the span of weeks ( when he wanted to bring it up )...he weighed all the pro's as well as the con's to each of us and to the relationship between he and I...  then he decided.... : )   and I opened my mind and my heart to the possibilities he desired...
 
I'm not suggesting this is how you "should" handle it...but only answering your question and telling you how I handled it...
 

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< Message edited by Cyntilating -- 9/9/2007 5:38:53 PM >

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RE: what would you do? - 9/9/2007 5:16:07 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: BoiJen

did you talk about this when originally negotiating your relationship?


Here's the crux of the issue, right here. If you're okay with it, go for it. If you're not okay with it, don't go for it. Either way it's going to require some serious communication on both of your parts.

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RE: what would you do? - 9/9/2007 5:18:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		Tell him how you are feeling and see how he reacts. If he insists in a way that leaves no room for discussion or your feelings and you know it's something that you cannot do, you'll have to decide if the relationship will continue to be a healthy one for you or not. If not, the best thing to do is to end it. If he is concerned about your feelings, but still wants to bring in other partners, it might be worth trying, if he's really interested in maintain a healthy relationship, i.e. going slow and really working to reassure you when, not if, you have jealousy and envy issues. No one can decide what to do for you.

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RE: what would you do? - 9/9/2007 5:20:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		That would have been one of the first things I'd have brought up for discussion in the early days.  I don't share, no way, no how. 

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RE: what would you do? - 9/9/2007 5:25:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		You can discuss it all you like, but it all comes down to one base thought. Do you love him enough to stay if he brings another into the relationship?

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RE: what would you do? - 9/9/2007 5:26:03 PM   
xoxi


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Status: offline 		I would cry. A lot.  I would lock myself in my apartment for a week resenting him and eating ice cream and crying into my pillow when I sleep and waking up after having nightmares about it.  And I would pray that he change his mind and realize he actually loves me enough to want to be with me.

But I have really bad coping skills.

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RE: what would you do? - 9/9/2007 5:30:17 PM   
LotusSong


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Status: offline 		I'd agree wholeheartedly and then seek another master to bring into the mix,  maybe he would even "get it on with him" for your amusement :)
 
All kidding aside, isn't this why most of the males get into the dom gig?

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RE: what would you do? - 9/9/2007 5:32:43 PM   
slaveluci


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quote:

ORIGINAL: xoxi
And I would pray that he change his mind and realize he actually loves me enough to want to be with me

But you see....in this situation he does love you enough to "want to be with" you (plus others now and then to add some variety).  Would that really be so horrible?  I'm not condemning, I'm seriously asking.............luci

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RE: what would you do? - 9/9/2007 5:33:04 PM   
xoxi


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Status: offline 		Being bisexual means you're attracted to both sexes.  It does not equate to an interest in open or polyamorous relationships.  That's pretty much like telling someone whose Master wants to share them with his friends "well you're straight...you like cock...what's the problem?"

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ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

Your profile states you are bisexual....so wait for your master to establish the pecking order and then have some polyamorous fun

Prinsexx xx


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RE: what would you do? - 9/9/2007 5:33:50 PM   
Kelika


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Status: offline 		Prinsexx,

I don't think just because you are bisexual that means you want a "poly" relationship.  I personally could handle an open relationship if it went both ways; but I don't want long term poly.  There is a HUGE difference between having a little fun in a play or sexual situation than going from a couple to a triad....at least in my opinion...*smiles*


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