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RE: I'm interested in your opinions - 9/13/2007 5:03:39 AM

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Used ice???? Ice is used when it becomes all water.

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RE: I'm interested in your opinions - 9/13/2007 8:49:55 AM

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I thought I was the only one! Even reading material was selected and censored for me. I did drive though, for errands to do for him. I hated driving, even if it were a hard limit, he would force it anyways. lol

nope you're not the only one. :) i feel fortunate tho that he has allowed me to keep reading, one of my lifetime's great passions, and he does not censor what i read for the most part. that and cooking/reipe-finding (outside of necessity) are probably my only hobbies to speak of. as far as driving, he has commented a few times how it would be convenient for me to be able to drive short distances (say within 3 or 4 miles) to run errands for him, but to him the risks...me having driving ability, a skill which theoretically could be used to leave him...unsupervised interaction out in the world...vulnerability to male strangers due to my submissiveness...these things far outweigh any potential benefit to driving.

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RE: I'm interested in your opinions - 9/13/2007 11:04:46 AM

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prop...your relationship is one that has taken me a long time to understand since I joined this forum..Im pretty sure I still dont understand all of it...but I am happy for you and your Master in that you have found a solution that works for you both. You are right in the fact that spending time outside of the house, working, being a mother, etc...distract...if thats even the right word...from my mindset towards him at times. It is very hard for me to "switch gears" in the middle of the day. And part of that is why I no longer work a 9-5 job. Now, 90% of the work I do is for his friends, all of my friends are people he has introduced me to, or people I have met though organizations he has introduced me to. It is very hard for me to continue that sub or slave or whatever you want to call it mindset, when I am having to concentrate on other things too. Sometimes I wish I didnt have to switch back and forth, that I could stay in that slave role constantly....but for Him, he needs me to be able to be other things during the day....he would rather realize that when he comes home, there is going to be a small amount of "Transistional" time for me...and deal with that, than not allow me to compleate other tasks during the day. He knows that I need adult interaction to keep depression away....so he scedules that for me...most of my adult interaction comes from either my family...or other people he has approved. I do run errands like taking the UMs to the doctor, and going to the grocery store, because he'd rather not have to deal with that sort of thing when he gets off work..he'd rather I have it all done and be able to concentrate on him alone once he gets home. He takes me out places, but I never go out to any "social" type activities without either him ot M...who is kinda like a surrogate Dom while he is stationed in Iraq or other places....

Anyway....I compleatly understand that all relationships are different...and sometimes it can be hard for some of us to understand the dynamics of others relationships, but I love getting to know more about others...because as you said, it leads to some great introspective thought about ourselves.

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RE: I'm interested in your opinions - 9/13/2007 12:10:05 PM

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I cannot be both. If I work hard and contribute via an outside life/occupation, I could NOT be a 100% slave to my man.

Wouldn't you be boring?
You can't hide behind him and you need a self to be. How could you be 100% if you are not you?
"Slave? Ohh slave... I don't see youuu?

But, of course, JMHO

I always thought a master set the bounds for the slave-not the other way round.

TY, RRafe. I should have been more clear. I mean to to each their own. One can be productive at home and still have interests. In fact, I do work from home and run my own small business. One reason I did make this choice - was the flexibility it provided that would allow that freedom - I stand in the center and can be of use - whatever bounds were needed - or priorities set by a master. I am happy, proud and lucky to be able to do so.

I meant that since it appears came4U is quite determined to not fall back into what was a negative pattern of discontent and confusion ( no offense came4U - gotta luv U!) in her marriage. So, for her - she wouldn't be her - she will best suit a master with compatible views in order to be a happy, pleasing slave.

But, obviously - she is a big girl and can speak for herself - I was only defending a friend.

Besides: no offense - but maybe it is your value judgement? Something to think about... ;)

( plus i joke around an awful lot...)

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RE: I'm interested in your opinions - 9/13/2007 12:28:27 PM

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i look at this way, that as a sub, its not up to me. i would be foolish not to expect to have to contribute in some way, if not by having a job, than in some other capacity. And i have to be ready to change if circumstances change. So much depends on how the Dom/me wants to do things. But i should be prepared to pull my weight no matter what.

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RE: I'm interested in your opinions - 9/13/2007 12:59:07 PM

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No offense, but isn't someone - Ghita? May I please use you as an example? - Someone with 4 ums and all that entails - doctors visits, school, care, love and time - and cares for a home, cleans, cooks, laundry, runs errands, and does things for her master ( as surely he is busy supporting the household) - now if THAT isn't someone pulling there own weight - well I just can't imagine.

And if came4U wants to be a rocket scientist and the master of her dreams has been scouring the earth searching for a rocket scientist to be his slave OR
if she WAS still with her ex - that Marine - and ironed and lovingly spit shined his boots to his satisfaction each evening after the tupperware party so what of it?

WHO ARE WE TO JUDGE?!

Please everyone - oh.. just arrrgggh!

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RE: I'm interested in your opinions - 9/13/2007 5:02:26 PM

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I can relate to what most people say here: my slave/husband has to bring in money, in our case he's the one that goes out working. I don't. But at that moment I'm on my own, and I have to get my drink myself. I'm not helpless, but sometimes I dream to be a wealthy Arab princess in her palace, looking out for interesting (well educated and good-looking) slaves. I have my haram of boys serving me when I want, and I have enough slaves for one to be attentive all the time while others clean and maintain the palace, prepare rooms, dinner... This could be reality. Some girls do have a lot of money.

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RE: I'm interested in your opinions - 9/14/2007 6:12:33 AM

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Used ice???? Ice is used when it becomes all water.

used ice is just that, same as if you go to a bar, wouldn't you consider them rinsing off ice from another customer as -used? I am still in that habit actually, for my son and company. A new glass and new ice for every refill. Either a new glass or I wash the other one. Once sipped from, yeah, the ice is 'used'. lol

and leatherette, don't assume I also didn't drive um's to doctor appointments, his errands, his technical paperwork, loading firewood (yes, even at 9 mos pregnant) plus bring home the some of the bacon later in marriage. My frist 3 ums were barely 11 months apart, I was usually pregnant before my 6 week post-natal checkups. It was like having triplets. He required sex even the morning after giving birth, yes, if not, it was a blow job before I left the hospital. uhhg. THESE are jobs in themselves, but all for HIM. Trust me, I pulled my own weight and then some. Sometimes you get so exhausted you forget if you are changing a diaper or fixing a bottle. Always maintenance of one 'end' or another of the um's lol.

I think people have missed my point that to ME, if (or when) I worked, I find it would be impossible to be a slave to full POTENTIAL because of the influence of the 'outside' is hard to turn off. If others think they can satisfy themselves and a Master by working outside the home, all the power to them. What I am saying is, I couldn't do both if so, 100% is not going towards my Master.

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