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Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I need t... - 9/11/2007 9:55:37 PM   
painlovingsub


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Status: offline 		Life sucks.  i have been crying for over an hour since i was officially "dumped" by my Dom. i will be 29 on Thursday and i have never been dumped in my life. Usually we part on agreeable terms or i just end this. This is my first real D/s relationship and i just have no faith anymore... none...        

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RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I ne... - 9/11/2007 10:02:17 PM   
chiaThePet


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Status: offline 		No, life doesn't suck, getting dumped sucks, life goes on.

You're entitled to a bout of self-pity, depression and ego swallowing.

Then pick yourself up and move on, that, or change your moniker.

chia* (the pet)

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RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I ne... - 9/11/2007 10:06:46 PM   
painlovingsub


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Status: offline 		It's not even self-pity at this point. Still in the crying phase... but i hope you're right.

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RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I ne... - 9/11/2007 10:14:14 PM   
chiaThePet


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Status: offline 		You'll be just fine.

And don't forget to put on your "My Dominant Was A ShitHead" tee shirt.

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< Message edited by chiaThePet -- 9/11/2007 10:20:59 PM >

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RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I ne... - 9/11/2007 10:15:42 PM   
lovingdomwanted


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Status: offline 		Im sorry you're hurting.......I find crying, then screaming helps.......

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RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I ne... - 9/12/2007 1:27:52 AM   
taintedgypsy


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Status: offline 		hmmm life sucks ... hell yeah and so do relationships, people, society ... oh what the hell ... the world sucks ... but occassionally we look up and smile cause it finally found the right part to suck on lol.

Cry, scream, throw a tantrum (sometimes helps), but if you need to punch something ... choose a pillow or something else that will not damage you ... I would give the "My Dominant Was A ShitHead" T-shirt a miss, bad for the rep and you may eventually decide to look for annother and it would be really misfortunate if he remembers you wearing it ....

Chin up and as my old Aunt says "it is ok to sit on the pity pot, just remember to flush well when you get off"

I wish you well and happy Birthday for Thutrsday (hmmm Monday Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday ....damn can I blame the keyboard please lol)

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RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I ne... - 9/12/2007 4:42:30 AM   
asubmissiveheart


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Status: offline 		I am sorry this happened to you around your birthday.
Be patient and the right one will come along.
Get out and have fun with your friends, and enjoy your birthday.

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RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I ne... - 9/12/2007 5:58:55 AM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		Being happy and moving on is the best revenge.

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RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I ne... - 9/12/2007 6:09:04 AM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		Don't take it personally. You just weren't long term compatible. You've told others this and didn't like it for them to take it personally, now you need to handle it from the other side.

This sounds harsh but that's because I couldn't find another way to say it. But honestly, did you want him to stay with you just because he didn't want to hurt your feelings? If we all did that, we'd all still be stuck with the first guy we ever dated, afraid of hurting their feelings and never being honest with them, or ever being happy with yourself.

Sad movies, chocolate, ice cream. Then get dressed up and paint the town.

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RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I ne... - 9/12/2007 6:14:13 AM   
chiaThePet


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quote:

ORIGINAL: taintedgypsy

Cry, scream, throw a tantrum (sometimes helps), but if you need to punch something ... choose a pillow or something else that will not damage you ... I would give the "My Dominant Was A ShitHead" T-shirt a miss, bad for the rep and you may eventually decide to look for annother and it would be really misfortunate if he remembers you wearing it ....



Nope, i'd skip the tantrum and wear the tee shirt.

If a Dominant judges you simply on a statement made
about a past relationship, they're probably a shithead.

i want my reputation to include the knowledge that i
will be honest, speak my mind "and" wear such on
my sleeve if i so desire.

We have nothing to fear but fear itself.
And maybe Diane's strap-on breaking off inside us.

chia* (the pet)

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RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I ne... - 9/12/2007 6:23:56 AM   
peterK50


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Status: offline 		It's his loss I'm sure.

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RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I ne... - 9/12/2007 6:24:24 AM   
painlovingsub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: chiaThePet

You'll be just fine.

And don't forget to put on your "My Dominant Was A ShitHead" tee shirt.

chia* (the pet)


Thank's for all the kind words... :) He wasn't a ShitHead though.

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RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I ne... - 9/12/2007 6:38:47 AM   
Msagain


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Status: offline 		Just pick yourself up and dust yourself down and start all over again

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RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I ne... - 9/12/2007 6:43:13 AM   
chiaThePet


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quote:

ORIGINAL: painlovingsub

quote:

ORIGINAL: chiaThePet

You'll be just fine.

And don't forget to put on your "My Dominant Was A ShitHead" tee shirt.

chia* (the pet)


Thank's for all the kind words... :) He wasn't a ShitHead though.


Ok, change it to "is" a shithead, after you've shed all those tears
and gotten back your faith.

chia* (the pet)

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RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I ne... - 9/12/2007 6:47:22 AM   
arayofsunshine55


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Status: offline 		I was dumped by a girl the day after my bday.  Sucked.  I kinda wished she;'d done it before.  All I could think was that she'd spent that whole day with me knowing she was leaving and not wanting to be with me.  Damned if she did or didn't really.  This is the first time you've been left.  You usually do the leaving or part amicably.  Sucks.  But at least this cherry will be behind you soon.  You will survive.  In time.  Even if it doesn't feel like it today.

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RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I ne... - 9/12/2007 6:54:07 AM   
SunNMoon


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Status: offline 		It hurts it really hurts, cry. Just let yourself cry.

Just to let you know, it does start to feel better at some point. You'll laugh at something and you'll be amazed that your happy. But right now, yeah it sucks.

Kat
Who was there not too long ago.

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RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I ne... - 9/12/2007 7:25:09 AM   
Babybass


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Status: offline 		Life's a b**ch - but you need to experience these things!! They make you stronger - and although you feel bad now you will come through and you will be fine! You need to believe in that. Cry if you need to and throw things (usually helps - nothing hard - pillows etc) and then start rebuilding!! I am sorry you are hurting!!

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RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I ne... - 9/12/2007 8:54:46 AM   
dvart


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Status: offline 		A birthday is a time when thoughts tend to turn to what one has achieved over the last year. But look nobody can take you pain away, but you probably had a really lucky escape. Dumping someone just before their birthday really sucks and on reflection I bet he won't seem such a knight in shining armour. A good sub. is very hard to find  and I'm sure once you have got over this Doms will be lining up to give you a good (bad) time. Try not to let this throw you off balance. This was only the first D/s relationship, it will certainly not be the last. You come over as a powerful person, it won't be long before you feel this again.

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RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I ne... - 9/12/2007 10:09:22 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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Status: offline 		hugs for you

i have been dumped (recently as a matter of fact) ...all of us have been dumped at one point or another ...yes it sucks however life will go on.  we all do kiss a lot of frogs before finding the right person for us.  give yourself some me time while you heal.

sorry this has happened to you

happy birthday



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RE: Life Sucks! Yes, this is a negative thread but I ne... - 9/12/2007 5:23:52 PM   
painlovingsub


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Status: offline 		Thanks everybody :) i think i am feeling better :)

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