Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

bi


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive >> bi Page: [1] 2 3   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
bi - 7/17/2005 6:53:11 PM   
slavedesires


Posts: 669
Joined: 3/2/2004
Status: offline 		I read alot of profiles........

I have found a remarkable trend....
ALOT of 18 to 27 yr olds say they are bi; but not as many sub/slaves 30 and up say so.

Is this something all younger girls are just learning to put in there profile or are they really bi-curious or bi?

Am I lost in the stone age?
(sorry had to add the last part am pretty silly tonight)

~~Shy

_____________________________

i speak only my personal opinion, sometimes O/ours.

"i am the keeper of fragile things and i have kept what is indisolvable."
....the greatest gift.....vulnerability
Profile   Post #: 1
RE: bi - 7/17/2005 6:57:27 PM   
pleasureforHim


Posts: 171
Joined: 7/2/2005
Status: offline
i have the same damned question. i am 51..and have never met a bi-sexual woman in real life. All my girlfriends are either lesbians or straight. Was there a revolution i missed?

pleasureforHim

(in reply to slavedesires)
Profile   Post #: 2
RE: bi - 7/17/2005 7:07:28 PM   
perfection20005


Posts: 419
Joined: 4/20/2005
Status: offline 		I think a lot of the women I know my age have been in a vanilla relationship, and have just recently gotten divorced. So they haven't really had the chance to experiment with bi. I think if I hadn't had my kids and gotten married when I was so young, I may have drifted that way. I still have my fantasies about it, but not sure if I can do it or not!!

perfection

(in reply to slavedesires)
Profile   Post #: 3
RE: bi - 7/17/2005 7:09:05 PM   
softandshy


Posts: 297
Joined: 5/10/2005
Status: offline 		Don't know if this is common or if it will help, but i'm bi and yet claim to be lesbian. Of the two genders i prefer women and due to past history it takes me much longer to be comfortable with any man even socially. The real reason i claim to be lesbian though is that i don't like dealing with the hassle from guys, especially if they believe they can "prove" something. Some of the really young women may not yet have that much opposition to being bothered in this way. Also, in the greater community i have found that it's more acceptable to be straight or homosexual than to be bi. Folks who are openly bi are challenged by people of both orientations surprisingly often. Or at least, that was my experience. Some of the very young women may not have encountered much of that yet.

_____________________________

Happy "Swamp Thing"

(in reply to pleasureforHim)
Profile   Post #: 4
RE: bi - 7/17/2005 7:10:21 PM   
slavedesires


Posts: 669
Joined: 3/2/2004
Status: offline 		..

< Message edited by slavedesires -- 8/20/2005 1:56:17 PM >

_____________________________

i speak only my personal opinion, sometimes O/ours.

"i am the keeper of fragile things and i have kept what is indisolvable."
....the greatest gift.....vulnerability

(in reply to pleasureforHim)
Profile   Post #: 5
RE: bi - 7/17/2005 7:17:18 PM   
pleasureforHim


Posts: 171
Joined: 7/2/2005
Status: offline
i was pretty busy sucking, ROFLMAO

pleasureforHim

(in reply to slavedesires)
Profile   Post #: 6
RE: bi - 7/17/2005 7:58:25 PM   
EmeraldSlave2


Posts: 3645
Joined: 1/1/2004
Status: offline 		Culture changed. Not only is bisexuality more open as with all alternative sexuality, but it's considered almost a "normal" part of one's growth as a female in the US to at least experiment with it.

It's a sexist idea, and it usually leads to bi's having less credibility with the homosexual community...but cultural values had a lot to do with it.

(in reply to slavedesires)
Profile   Post #: 7
RE: bi - 7/17/2005 8:00:11 PM   
babyland


Posts: 12
Status: offline 		Hi there, I'm 33 years old, male, bisexual, submissive type personality. I bet you would agree that most of us are curious about our sexuality. Except for Bill Clinton, he is now a little sissy slut. But that last part was just me being in a silly mood tonight ;)

(in reply to slavedesires)
Profile   Post #: 8
RE: bi - 7/17/2005 8:09:42 PM   
slavedesires


Posts: 669
Joined: 3/2/2004
Status: offline 		oh hell yes...i was curious when i was 21 and had a 2 yr long fling... fucking good while it lasted...but back in the stone age....not good to be any sex other than straight....LOLOL

Now do tell .....well Mr EXPresident, i hear you are a sissly slut...would you be so kind as to show us all?

Damn! and he denied a bj was sex! ROTFLMFAO

quote:

ORIGINAL: babyland

Hi there, I'm 33 years old, male, bisexual, submissive type personality. I bet you would agree that most of us are curious about our sexuality. Except for Bill Clinton, he is now a little sissy slut. But that last part was just me being in a silly mood tonight ;)



_____________________________

i speak only my personal opinion, sometimes O/ours.

"i am the keeper of fragile things and i have kept what is indisolvable."
....the greatest gift.....vulnerability

(in reply to babyland)
Profile   Post #: 9
RE: bi - 7/17/2005 11:12:05 PM   
proudsub


Posts: 6142
Joined: 1/31/2004
From: Washington
Status: offline
quote:

Is this something all younger girls are just learning to put in there profile or are they really bi-curious or bi?


I think being bi is much more accepted now than it was when us oldies were younger, so we never got the opportunity to experiment.

_____________________________

proudsub

"Without goals you become what you were. With goals you become what you wish." .

"You are entitled to your own opinions but not your own facts"--Alan Greenspan


(in reply to slavedesires)
Profile   Post #: 10
RE: bi - 7/18/2005 6:25:16 AM   
BlouLady


Posts: 170
Joined: 2/8/2005
Status: offline 		It may be a generation thing. Maybe an experience thing.

(in reply to slavedesires)
Profile   Post #: 11
RE: bi - 7/18/2005 11:16:57 AM   
fourpeas


Posts: 243
Joined: 5/6/2005
Status: offline 		I think it's just more accepted.

Don't forget that there are a lot of people out there too who don't even identify as being bisexual but will fool around with members of the same sex, etc... There are so many accepted definitions of sexuality now that I think that plays a big role in it.

I don't really like the word bisexual or the connotations it carries but for the strict definition of it, it somewhat suits me. So... I don't know. I like being free to experiement in my sexuality without totally putting a label on myself (as trite and played out as that sounds!!!!!)

(in reply to BlouLady)
Profile   Post #: 12
RE: bi - 7/18/2005 2:48:32 PM   
shyguyuk


Posts: 25
Joined: 5/3/2005
Status: offline 		well for me, im 21 and bi..for a lot of my life i thought i was gay prentending to be straight to please everyone else..however i had my first gay experiance not too long ago and as fun as it was i just cant stop enjoying the effect of woman in high heels, men just dont cut it in them lol

mike x

(in reply to fourpeas)
Profile   Post #: 13
RE: bi - 7/18/2005 6:12:56 PM   
littleone35


Posts: 2828
Joined: 2/17/2005
Status: offline 		I personally don't feel any desire or lust after woman. It has never been my thing. I really don't thinlk there is antything wrong woth woman who do. I have alos noticed the same thing as the others have.

Whatever floats you boat.

this is not meant to offend just my personal thoughts.

littleone

(in reply to slavedesires)
Profile   Post #: 14
RE: bi - 7/18/2005 6:19:46 PM   
luvdragonx


Posts: 388
Joined: 6/22/2005
Status: offline
quote:


Don't forget that there are a lot of people out there too who don't even identify as being bisexual but will fool around with members of the same sex, etc... There are so many accepted definitions of sexuality now that I think that plays a big role in it.

I don't really like the word bisexual or the connotations it carries but for the strict definition of it, it somewhat suits me. So... I don't know. I like being free to experiement in my sexuality without totally putting a label on myself (as trite and played out as that sounds!!!!!)


I think this hit the nail on the head for me. If we were all 'allowed' to be who we are from the get go, I think a lot more people, male and female alike would find themselves in the 'other' category. Even though it sounds like a cliche, it doesn't matter much to me what your gender/ethnicity/etc are, what matters is how we connect. Women, even if they call themselves straight, can appreciate the beauty of the female form and mind. Does that make them bi? Men can look at other men and appreciate physical and mental qualities that they admire. Does it make them bi too?

If bisexuality is defined solely on sexual relationships, then the next question should be why are we having sex in the first place. For those of us who choose intimacy over plain intercourse, the labe 'Bi' would seem insufficient. Any thoughts?

_____________________________

Never Without Love

(in reply to fourpeas)
Profile   Post #: 15
RE: bi - 7/18/2005 6:32:37 PM   
luvdragonx


Posts: 388
Joined: 6/22/2005
Status: offline
quote:

i have the same damned question. i am 51..and have never met a bi-sexual woman in real life. All my girlfriends are either lesbians or straight. Was there a revolution i missed?


It could be that no one really wants to admit it. From my own experiences, I've encountered a seeming prejudice against women who are bi. Of course your average guy thinks it's hot (he can just imagine the girl-on-girl action he'll partake in), but women, straight and lesbian are a bit more reserved. Possibly because of so many women who jump on the 'I like girlz!!' bandwagon without any thought to how their little experiment might affect people. A friend of mine who is a lesbian recalled her first love dumping her for a guy. Other lesbian have told me that 'with a bi woman, you never know when they're gonna switch teams again'. Personally, I tend to keep that nugget of information to myself because once announced, both lesbian and straight women immediately think 'She wants me!!!' lol. It's a lack of understanding, I would say. So long we've been conditioned to believe anything other than hetero is deviant, therefore, anyone who asssociates themselves in such a deviant fashion must be up to no good.

< Message edited by luvdragonx -- 7/18/2005 6:34:37 PM >

_____________________________

Never Without Love

(in reply to pleasureforHim)
Profile   Post #: 16
RE: bi - 7/18/2005 9:18:11 PM   
sabis


Posts: 136
Joined: 6/29/2005
From: Midwest, USA
Status: offline 		*raises hand* I'm above 30 (36, actually) and am bi....

First experience with another girl at age 16, back in high school - she did it as a dare and to torment her boyfriend with the thoughts, I did it because she was *yummy.* Followed it with a triad relationship that to this day, still makes me ache when i say her name. Put thoughts of such things out of my head for a reaaaaaaally long time. Master saw them in the way I'd glance around when i thought He wasn't looking, and has been coaxing them out and supporting them ever since we became a couple.

i also agree that it's largely a cultural thing: being bi doesn't have the stigma that it used to. Heck, it's mainstream, practically: Buffy the Vampire Slayer shows girls kissing on non-cable TV. Movies include lesbian shower scenes (anyone remember Gina Gershon & Jennifer Tilly in BOUND? MeOW!)

~ sabis

(in reply to luvdragonx)
Profile   Post #: 17
RE: bi - 7/19/2005 6:10:55 AM   
jeff3223


Posts: 1
Joined: 7/14/2005
Status: offline 		i am a 33 year old submissive man, extremely interested in trying bi... i would love to have a Domme tell me what to do, how to do it correctly... So, yes, there are bi-curious people out there over the age of 30... and some of us are men ;-)

(in reply to sabis)
Profile   Post #: 18
RE: bi - 7/19/2005 7:03:41 AM   
feline


Posts: 1101
Joined: 2/23/2004
From: CA
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: slavedesires

I read alot of profiles........

I have found a remarkable trend....
ALOT of 18 to 27 yr olds say they are bi; but not as many sub/slaves 30 and up say so.

Is this something all younger girls are just learning to put in there profile or are they really bi-curious or bi?

Am I lost in the stone age?
(sorry had to add the last part am pretty silly tonight)

~~Shy


They haven't learned the value of privacy yet. As for me, it's nobody's business but my own and those I wish to tell.






Attachment (1)

_____________________________

Variety is the soul of pleasure.
~Aphra Behn~

(in reply to slavedesires)
Profile   Post #: 19
RE: bi - 7/19/2005 7:10:31 AM   
EmeraldSlave2


Posts: 3645
Joined: 1/1/2004
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: feline
They haven't learned the value of privacy yet. As for me, it's nobody's business but my own and those I wish to tell.

I get told this a lot actually, that I have no sense of privacy or propriety because I talk about orgasms, sex, play and a lot of other things without restraint.

How I like to put it is that I'm an extremely private person, I'm just private about things most others aren't.

It's a values and priorities judgement, I don't think I haven't learned the value of privacy, I just value it differently than you do. It doesn't mean much to me if someone knows I am bisexual. If they know my nephews names, THAT'S special.

(in reply to feline)
Profile   Post #: 20
Page:   [1] 2 3   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive >> bi Page: [1] 2 3   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.094