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gentletigress -> RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? (9/21/2007 8:47:07 AM)

xoxi, Wow, i think that is a great idea, mayb i should do someting of the same sort?

As far as my feelings about the "hi" one liners, sometimes they say something that is not "hi" but still a one liner. i find it very very hard to respond to something like that, even if it states a small portion of their interests.

i recently had an encounter with someone who said "love to serve... looking for sis to serve with." i sat there for about 10 minutes trying to think of a responce, because in my mind if your a sub its obvious you love to serve.

i replied asking something to the extent of "how sare you interested in my profile." she responded back with "Master with sis, i hope to please you both." again i sat there struggling just to say anything to this person. that time i did not respond.

10 days later i got another messege from this person "im eager to be a sis." i messaged her to messege me on yahoo so we talked there for a bit, me trying to pry any info about her. Then all of a sudden she said "well its been nice gotta go bye" She never added me like i had with her.

To me someone needs to make more than a 3 line messege for me to really have something to go on when trying to respond. i respond to all messeges, even when they come to my bulk mail.



domiguy -> RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? (9/21/2007 8:58:13 AM)

I have calculated the type of message that gets the biggest response....It can be a simple "hi"....Or "perved your profile and you gotta a great pair of tits and cock sucking lips."   Other times I might shoot with "I think we already met but you were pretty wasted ...we made out."  All of these gems have and will continue to produce in the future....Good luck and good hunting.



MsSonnetMarwood -> RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? (9/21/2007 9:01:33 AM)

Most of the time I ignore one word emails or one liners.   Other times, depending on my mood, I'll make a game of replying to them, but with fewer words that they sent me.  Not surprisingly, that conversation gets no where fast LO:



obei -> RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? (9/21/2007 9:24:11 AM)

"Hi" is of course a means of beginning a dialogue I suppose, but then a communication with that one single word would leave me wondering why the person was interested in beginning a dialogue and more importantly why I would be interested in engaging in one with them.  A "Hi, welcome to the site" or a "Hi, I enjoyed reading your profile" would be much more likely to gain my interest as well as a response.  Just a one word note puts me in mind of an old cowboy
colloquialism; "We've said our howdies, but we've never shook." :) 



Missokyst -> RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? (9/21/2007 9:37:51 AM)

Very true.  That's why when I get one of those "Hi" emails I do the polite thing and nod back at the screen.
Kyst
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ORIGINAL: litleone8620

When someone comes up to you, they usually say some sort of greeting. Hi, Hello, How are you etc. They're probably not going to break out in some long drawn out speech about who they are, what they're looking for, their interests.





MistressSassy66 -> RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? (9/21/2007 10:53:12 AM)

I think the simple  hi  is all some of them can muster.
they have no idea what to say,a hi can at least break the ice,if the person writes back great if not then thats cool too.




MsLilac -> RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? (9/21/2007 11:18:22 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

Very true.  That's why when I get one of those "Hi" emails I do the polite thing and nod back at the screen.
Kyst
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ORIGINAL: litleone8620

When someone comes up to you, they usually say some sort of greeting. Hi, Hello, How are you etc. They're probably not going to break out in some long drawn out speech about who they are, what they're looking for, their interests.






LMAO!

I just spat my coffee all over my monitor after reading that!!!! Thanks! [;)]



goalie62 -> RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? (9/21/2007 11:29:59 AM)

I probably would respond to "Hi", but then again, I'm not getting a whole lot of mail so anything is good right now :)



Ponyboy7 -> RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? (9/21/2007 12:01:40 PM)

I respond to "hi" more often than not even though it involves spending significantly more time replying to emails; I do this mostly to be polite, but also because there are those who genuinely consdier this a reasonable way of starting a dialog on the web. There have been a fair number of these emails that have actually resulted in a meaningful dialog, and so I do not dismiss them out of hand. Conversely, the majority do turn out to be rather pointless, but I don't want to exclude those who may be attempting to be polite (by starting a dialog prior to sending a lengthier message) because of the actions of others. Ultimately, I do not wish to make presumtions regarding someone's motive(s) for sending a one line, or "hi" email. Nevertheless, a second laconic message will not receive any reply.



akisha -> RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? (9/21/2007 12:06:02 PM)

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ORIGINAL: laurell3

In the past week I've gotten five emails on cm merely saying only "hi" from different people....I ponder how to respond to this....how could "hi" be a proper introduction?  I am no longer looking and merely here to talk to friends and this is stated in my profile so the "hi" emails should realize this if they can read.

Any thoughts on an appropriate response to or reason behind the number of "hi"s?
l


Easy answer:

If you want to then yes, if you don't then no.



chiaThePet -> RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? (9/21/2007 12:36:58 PM)

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ORIGINAL: akisha

Easy answer:

If you want to then yes, if you don't then no.



Exactly! Bye [sm=hello.gif]

chia* (the pet) 



clearedc -> RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? (9/21/2007 1:29:55 PM)

I always reply back in the same manner. If they've taken the time to write 'hi' to me, i can take the time to write 'hi' back ;)

Plus as people have said previously here, its very difficult to start a conversation with a long message or paragraph. Human nature starts conversations with quick greetings.

If you dont want to be flooded with 'Hi' type messages, why not just put it in your profile what you want included in any messages to you? Surely that takes far less time then having to wade through all the 1-liner responses.




Pyrrsefanie -> RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? (9/21/2007 1:48:22 PM)

A "Hi" warrants a "Hi" back, and I see how the conversation progresses from there.  Usually it only progresses (using the term loosely) to an attempt to hook up despite the fact that my profile states I'm not interested in such things, but hey, I've got faith that somebody out there might actually want to be, you know, friends.  :D



SusanofO -> RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? (9/21/2007 1:56:29 PM)

I equate "hi" with chat, and I don't do chat. I will do more extensive e-mails, if and when I have time. I am here mostly for the forums (right now anyway) - and I say all of this in my profile, so I figure if I get people writing and saying nothing except one word - "hi" - that they haven't bothered to read my profile at all - and I figure if, even though they are maybe just trying to be friendly, that I don't "owe" them a response -and usually don't make one, I just delete their message, cold and heartless as that probably sounds).

- Susan



RumpusParable -> RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? (9/21/2007 2:05:41 PM)

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ORIGINAL: johnxinxscruz


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ORIGINAL: RumpusParable
If all they send me is "hi" it's not only likely that I won't respond, but also that I'll block them. If they can't even write a sentence they're not worth my time.


I would counter that if you're too rude to respond to a genuine hi, then you're not worth their time, either.




I know, it's tragic that making a bad first impression causes others to sometimes think poorly of one.  Sayng just "hi" puts the entire weight of coming up with conversation material on the receiver.  It's pure laziness and rudeness on the part of the sender. 

Since people want to compare this to real-life interactions, it's *not* the equivalent of saying hello to someone at a party.  It's the equivalent of walking up to someone at a party, saying "hi" and then staring at them, waiting for them to come up with something to talk about.

In real life we don't do that, we go up to someone and say "hi, (insert something about the person, event, a mutual friend, etc)" and open a conversation.  Just saying "hi" and nothing else is rude in person, it's rude online.



RumpusParable -> RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? (9/21/2007 2:16:21 PM)

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ORIGINAL: clearedc

I always reply back in the same manner. If they've taken the time to write 'hi' to me, i can take the time to write 'hi' back ;)


Haha!  I do this, too, most of the times I do respond.  I figure if they're going to start off like that I'll give them exactly that in return.  Then I get one of three responses, the last being most entertaining in an admittedly mean-spirited way:

1) They don't respond when I refuse to be made to open the conversation
2) They just straight to the perving with vulgar requests
3) They keep trying to make me take up the conversation with similar short and leading-nowhere responses as I pingpong them back with the same until I get bored.  Again, admittedly mean-spirited but it is fun watching them trying to make me produce wanking material for them or carry the whole conversation as they grow more frustrated with it.



clearedc -> RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? (9/21/2007 2:18:39 PM)

Haha! Thats great.

If ever i've sent a 'Hi' message, its because im sick of writing long messages to then not even have them read. Sometimes i send a 'Hi' to see if they are active and will respond and then take it from there. I'd lke to think however that im not trying to force them into generating the conversation ;)



kc692 -> RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? (9/21/2007 5:20:00 PM)

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ORIGINAL: RRafe

I dunno.

I think "hi, I like to be tied up and sodomized" would be more of an attention grabber.


Lol, no it really isn't, dommes get those all the time too, trust me.



DiurnalVampire -> RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? (9/21/2007 5:21:32 PM)

I get lots of "hi"
To which I respond "Evening" or "Morning" depending on when i get the message.
You get what you give


DV



kc692 -> RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? (9/21/2007 5:27:46 PM)

~~FR~~~

I have one certain thing in my profile, and that is to put a certain word in the email, anywhere, even if it is just that word...

Am I the only one that when I get a hi, I don't even bother to go read their profile??? Everyone here says they look at the profile, and I'm sorry if it makes me seem bitchy, but if I get "hi", or "how are you maam" or "I am sub with cam and would like to serve you" I dont bother  to go read that profile...ok, maybe I am missing a friggin 1% chance they are decent...

Disclaimer: That is when I dont recognize a name from the boards, dominant or submissive...if a regular poster writes me, or one that I recognize, I will answer AND look at the profile, but when the nick is "subwntsdommew14strapon" I dont bother to go look.



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