iammachine
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ORIGINAL: mrdpettigrew
so some one walks up to you on the street and says hi ouy just blow them off cause it is on you to think of a thing to say or cause it is to short why should not the same rules aply to heree as we use in the worded world.. some one said here taht it is walking up to some on at a party and saying hi and stareing at them.good point . so in public you walk away or ask waht it s about . and yes in punlic one worders are jsut as shuned as here try saying to some on on the street excuse me and watch you get iggied a lot . it is helpfull wehn treated like this if you need instructions or directions. hell if i read a profile and say hi to another why should it be my responcability to tell them all to gain their intrest . waht so they do not have to stoop so low as to click on my profile and see wahti am about . Hay we get told one liners show no respect ok fair enough what is not replyingto them showing the same leval of what
Whoa, slow down, tiger. Breathe, now think about punctuation, and proof reading. It helps a ton with getting a point across.
If someone walks up to me on the street, my initial response is to be suspicious (inner city). They say hi, I say hi, at that point - the ball is still in their court as to why they wanted to talk to me, to convey their agenda, and convince me that it's in my better interest to talk with them.
Two nights ago, some dude on the street stops as I'm walking past and asks me my name. I kept walking. A few weeks ago, some guy carrying flyers stops me on my way to the bus, and wants to talk to me about god. I politely decline and keep moving. A student on campus asks to bum a smoke from me. He makes small talk about school, and asks me some information about campus. I talk to the dude until I have to go to class.
There's a *lot* you have to go on in a face to face encounter to form an opinion on that isn't readily available online. Case one, I know that posture and line well. It was after dark, and I wasn't stopping, damnit. Case two, the street preacher got their point across, I wasn't interested. Case three, dude didn't give me the creeps, wasn't just blatantly trying to pick me up, and wanted to talk to me about things that I had something to say about. We ended up exchanging contact information.
So tell me, how is online so different from the real world when it comes to making an introduction? Either way, you have an impression to make. Online, you just have less readily available information about a person - so that person has to make up for it somewhere. The way I see it, my time is valuable. A person that is contacting me, in essence, has something to sell. Not in the literal sense, but "sell" in the I've got to be sold that investing valuable time into interacting with this person is going to be at lease equally as productive as any of the number of other things that I could or should be doing.
Lets say you go to a get flagged down by a cellular retailer at a mall kiosk. You don't need or want a new cell phone. You might even be in a contract with another carrier. The sales rep plops a handset down in front of you, and that's it. They don't tell you any information about their service, the performance of the handset, or how it might benefit you. In fact, they expect you to ask them for information. But... you weren't even interested in their service or products to begin with, and you don't even know where to begin in regards to asking questions!
How would you feel in a scenario like that? Would you be inclined to want to find out more about that service, or would you be kind of annoyed that some dude just wasted your time? Especially cause you just missed a chance to go make your own social faux pas with the hot red head that you had noticed before being so rudely interupted! 
I, for one, like to know what I'm getting into. I do market research about products that I may be looking into buying, just like I read people's profiles and look for forum posts and blogs. I hope that people at least *look* at mine (in fact, odds of me replying to someone that doesn't show up on my who's viewing me history is unlikely), as well. If I'm not given anything to form an opinion on whether or not someone is interesting to me, no, I don't think it's my responsibility to to pry it out of the person. Just like at the cellular kiosk, I'm not going to be interested in a new service without being shown why it's beneficial to me. I have a cell, and I like what I've got. I've got plenty of people that I talk to, and I'm happy with those people. Furthermore, these are all people, that at some point in time, have shown me why spending a little time on them is beneficial to me (smiling and laughing is a fabulous currency).
All the while, though. I could be doing calculus. So come on, I dare ya. Beat calculus!
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