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RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? - 9/23/2007 5:07:23 PM   
littlebitxxx


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Status: offline 		Whenever I see a "Hi" in the inbox, I just mail "Hi back :)".  Sorta takes the door off the latch but doesn't open it all the way.  If they are interested, they'll write again, hopefully with more words.  If they are just fishing, then the hell with them.

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RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? - 9/23/2007 5:10:35 PM   
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so some one  walks  up to you on the street and says  hi ouy  just blow them  off cause it is  on you to think of a thing to say  or  cause it is to short why should not the same  rules aply  to heree as  we use in the worded world..  some one said here taht it is walking up to some on  at a party and saying hi and stareing at them.good point . so in  public you walk away  or ask waht it s about . and yes in punlic one worders are  jsut as shuned as here  try saying to some on  on the street excuse me  and  watch you get iggied a lot . it is  helpfull wehn treated like  this  if you need  instructions or directions. hell  if  i read a profile and say  hi to  another why should it  be  my responcability to tell them all to gain their intrest  . waht so they do not  have to stoop  so low as to  click on my profile  and see wahti am about . Hay  we get told  one  liners show  no respect  ok fair enough what is  not replyingto them showing  the same  leval  of  what



I don't agree.  On the street you see the person, you know so much more about them immediately.  In addition saying "hi" in person to start a conversation takes some fortitude, saying "hi" online really does not.  I'm not saying I don't occasionally respond to the "hi"s, but alot of these "hi"-ers are the same ones that have one-line profiles that say "want to serve" or "looking for partner".

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RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? - 9/23/2007 5:12:14 PM   
laurell3


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Status: offline 		ROFL this would most definitely get a response from me domiguy.

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RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? - 9/26/2007 5:18:57 PM   
Pulpsmack


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Status: offline 		I used to be VERY sympathetic to those who expressed annoyance with "form letters and one-liners" given the fools I hear all these lovely stories about. That sentiment almost went full-circle when I had spotted some particularly insightful or enjoyable profile, and I spent a good 15 min writing a unique and personal reaction to the profile, only to find it deleted unread or stagnating in a bulk box due to parameters that were NOT broadcasted on the profile (i.e. no out of towners, etc). There is nothing more irritating than reading some profile of a person who seems starved for some intelligent exchange given her warnings and entreaties, only to find the hypocrite "mindlessly" trashed an IM without consideration among the other 35 of the day. These are the jerks on the other side... those who give a valid reason for the form letter or one-liner.

Today, I go by instinct. Sometimes I have a feeling that something substantial will be received and read, so I write that person the kind of message everybody wants to read. The others who seem proturbed by their inbox traffic send up the red flag, and I will write something short to see if the person is even paying attention and opening mail. If that is too short or insufficient for her arbitrary standard then it shows she is as mindless as those she criticizes (seeing how this very issue is addressed in my journal, and the explanation for my lack of a "Dickensesque" introduction is already in my profile.)

Basically, your profile is your first impression. If "hello", or a simple line is all the person is willing to go on without considering what you have taken the time to lay out, then (s)he has not bothered to look at you in the first place and that dismissiveness is a great way to ferret out the incompatable and undeserving without wasting words. All it takes is a "hi" back to show you are receptive to some sort of conversation and THEN the expectation of intelligence, wit, and substance can kick in.





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RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? - 9/26/2007 5:20:55 PM   
VeryMercurial


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Status: offline 		I often respond to "hi", with "hi".
Why would you feel the need to write more?

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RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? - 9/26/2007 5:22:06 PM   
bandit25


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I do the same.  Pretty much ends the  conversation.




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RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? - 9/26/2007 5:23:45 PM   
AMaster


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ORIGINAL: laurell3

In the past week I've gotten five emails on cm merely saying only "hi" from different people....I ponder how to respond to this....how could "hi" be a proper introduction?  I am no longer looking and merely here to talk to friends and this is stated in my profile so the "hi" emails should realize this if they can read.

Any thoughts on an appropriate response to or reason behind the number of "hi"s?
l


If the profile is interesting, I'll respond to "hi."

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RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? - 9/26/2007 5:39:21 PM   
RRafe


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quote:

ORIGINAL: laurell3

quote:

ORIGINAL: mrdpettigrew

so some one  walks  up to you on the street and says  hi ouy  just blow them  off cause it is  on you to think of a thing to say  or  cause it is to short why should not the same  rules aply  to heree as  we use in the worded world..  some one said here taht it is walking up to some on  at a party and saying hi and stareing at them.good point . so in  public you walk away  or ask waht it s about . and yes in punlic one worders are  jsut as shuned as here  try saying to some on  on the street excuse me  and  watch you get iggied a lot . it is  helpfull wehn treated like  this  if you need  instructions or directions. hell  if  i read a profile and say  hi to  another why should it  be  my responcability to tell them all to gain their intrest  . waht so they do not  have to stoop  so low as to  click on my profile  and see wahti am about . Hay  we get told  one  liners show  no respect  ok fair enough what is  not replyingto them showing  the same  leval  of  what



I don't agree.  On the street you see the person, you know so much more about them immediately.  In addition saying "hi" in person to start a conversation takes some fortitude, saying "hi" online really does not.  I'm not saying I don't occasionally respond to the "hi"s, but alot of these "hi"-ers are the same ones that have one-line profiles that say "want to serve" or "looking for partner".


Hi!

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RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? - 9/26/2007 6:10:31 PM   
SeanPony


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Status: offline 		It's still fun getting those Hi SLUT! messages.

Time to tell those fuckers to take a flying fuck at a rolling Rom.

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RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? - 9/26/2007 10:23:49 PM   
laurell3


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quote:

ORIGINAL: RRafe

quote:

ORIGINAL: laurell3

quote:

ORIGINAL: mrdpettigrew

so some one  walks  up to you on the street and says  hi ouy  just blow them  off cause it is  on you to think of a thing to say  or  cause it is to short why should not the same  rules aply  to heree as  we use in the worded world..  some one said here taht it is walking up to some on  at a party and saying hi and stareing at them.good point . so in  public you walk away  or ask waht it s about . and yes in punlic one worders are  jsut as shuned as here  try saying to some on  on the street excuse me  and  watch you get iggied a lot . it is  helpfull wehn treated like  this  if you need  instructions or directions. hell  if  i read a profile and say  hi to  another why should it  be  my responcability to tell them all to gain their intrest  . waht so they do not  have to stoop  so low as to  click on my profile  and see wahti am about . Hay  we get told  one  liners show  no respect  ok fair enough what is  not replyingto them showing  the same  leval  of  what



I don't agree.  On the street you see the person, you know so much more about them immediately.  In addition saying "hi" in person to start a conversation takes some fortitude, saying "hi" online really does not.  I'm not saying I don't occasionally respond to the "hi"s, but alot of these "hi"-ers are the same ones that have one-line profiles that say "want to serve" or "looking for partner".


Hi!


Hi RRafe

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RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? - 9/26/2007 10:37:14 PM   
RRafe


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quote:

ORIGINAL: laurell3

quote:

ORIGINAL: RRafe

quote:

ORIGINAL: laurell3

quote:

ORIGINAL: mrdpettigrew

so some one  walks  up to you on the street and says  hi ouy  just blow them  off cause it is  on you to think of a thing to say  or  cause it is to short why should not the same  rules aply  to heree as  we use in the worded world..  some one said here taht it is walking up to some on  at a party and saying hi and stareing at them.good point . so in  public you walk away  or ask waht it s about . and yes in punlic one worders are  jsut as shuned as here  try saying to some on  on the street excuse me  and  watch you get iggied a lot . it is  helpfull wehn treated like  this  if you need  instructions or directions. hell  if  i read a profile and say  hi to  another why should it  be  my responcability to tell them all to gain their intrest  . waht so they do not  have to stoop  so low as to  click on my profile  and see wahti am about . Hay  we get told  one  liners show  no respect  ok fair enough what is  not replyingto them showing  the same  leval  of  what



I don't agree.  On the street you see the person, you know so much more about them immediately.  In addition saying "hi" in person to start a conversation takes some fortitude, saying "hi" online really does not.  I'm not saying I don't occasionally respond to the "hi"s, but alot of these "hi"-ers are the same ones that have one-line profiles that say "want to serve" or "looking for partner".


Hi!


Hi RRafe


Did we learn anything?

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RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? - 9/26/2007 10:44:28 PM   
laurell3


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quote:

ORIGINAL: RRafe

quote:

ORIGINAL: laurell3

quote:

ORIGINAL: RRafe

quote:

ORIGINAL: laurell3

quote:

ORIGINAL: mrdpettigrew

so some one  walks  up to you on the street and says  hi ouy  just blow them  off cause it is  on you to think of a thing to say  or  cause it is to short why should not the same  rules aply  to heree as  we use in the worded world..  some one said here taht it is walking up to some on  at a party and saying hi and stareing at them.good point . so in  public you walk away  or ask waht it s about . and yes in punlic one worders are  jsut as shuned as here  try saying to some on  on the street excuse me  and  watch you get iggied a lot . it is  helpfull wehn treated like  this  if you need  instructions or directions. hell  if  i read a profile and say  hi to  another why should it  be  my responcability to tell them all to gain their intrest  . waht so they do not  have to stoop  so low as to  click on my profile  and see wahti am about . Hay  we get told  one  liners show  no respect  ok fair enough what is  not replyingto them showing  the same  leval  of  what



I don't agree.  On the street you see the person, you know so much more about them immediately.  In addition saying "hi" in person to start a conversation takes some fortitude, saying "hi" online really does not.  I'm not saying I don't occasionally respond to the "hi"s, but alot of these "hi"-ers are the same ones that have one-line profiles that say "want to serve" or "looking for partner".


Hi!


Hi RRafe


Did we learn anything?


yes we did, there were actually some good reasons stated for only using "hi" as an opener, so I guess I will respond to them in the future and give the "hi"-er the benefit of the doubt until proven otherwise.
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RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? - 9/26/2007 11:08:14 PM   
RRafe


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quote:

ORIGINAL: laurell3

quote:

ORIGINAL: RRafe

quote:

ORIGINAL: laurell3

quote:

ORIGINAL: RRafe

quote:

ORIGINAL: laurell3

quote:

ORIGINAL: mrdpettigrew

so some one  walks  up to you on the street and says  hi ouy  just blow them  off cause it is  on you to think of a thing to say  or  cause it is to short why should not the same  rules aply  to heree as  we use in the worded world..  some one said here taht it is walking up to some on  at a party and saying hi and stareing at them.good point . so in  public you walk away  or ask waht it s about . and yes in punlic one worders are  jsut as shuned as here  try saying to some on  on the street excuse me  and  watch you get iggied a lot . it is  helpfull wehn treated like  this  if you need  instructions or directions. hell  if  i read a profile and say  hi to  another why should it  be  my responcability to tell them all to gain their intrest  . waht so they do not  have to stoop  so low as to  click on my profile  and see wahti am about . Hay  we get told  one  liners show  no respect  ok fair enough what is  not replyingto them showing  the same  leval  of  what



I don't agree.  On the street you see the person, you know so much more about them immediately.  In addition saying "hi" in person to start a conversation takes some fortitude, saying "hi" online really does not.  I'm not saying I don't occasionally respond to the "hi"s, but alot of these "hi"-ers are the same ones that have one-line profiles that say "want to serve" or "looking for partner".


Hi!


Hi RRafe


Did we learn anything?


yes we did, there were actually some good reasons stated for only using "hi" as an opener, so I guess I will respond to them in the future and give the "hi"-er the benefit of the doubt until proven otherwise.
l


Me too.

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