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displeased owner - 9/21/2007 7:13:35 PM

dyangirl

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I have displeased my owner, he has released me. I wish his forgiveness. He is punishing me with his silence. How may I regain his attention and love.. He questioned my loyalty when I was merely dissapointed.

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RE: displeased owner - 9/21/2007 7:19:21 PM

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He must have been a bit more than "displeased" to release you. None of us know what the situation is, but it sounds as if it was something fairly drastic you did to warrant dismissal. It might just have been to much for him to forgive.

I know in my own case, a dismissal is absolutely final.

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RE: displeased owner - 9/21/2007 7:24:09 PM

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Releasing someone is a pretty final statement in and of itself. I can honestly say I have never had anything further from someone I've released in the past. Not that it's a great many--all of two people--but it's a matter of principle. If someone is going that far, it's not a punishment and they are not punishing you. They have already moved on from you.

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RE: displeased owner - 9/21/2007 7:26:43 PM

mnottertail

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Yo Come On Move This

Shake That Body
Shake That Body

People dont you know, dont you know
its about time
cant you hear the jam is pumpin
while you taste the piece of mine
many different flavours
and the bass is strong
get into the hot stuff
let me pour a little on

Baby let me show you how to do dis
you ve gotta move this
youre doing fine
theres nothing to it
you gotta move this
come on and move this
shake that body for

People dont you know....

Can you feel the mellow crawling fast
drum oh baby
rhythms blast
pump it pump it pump it up
bet you cant make this once stop

youve gotta move this
youve gotta move this

shake that body ah
shake that body cool

People dont...

Pump It taken
Fingers snappin
hands club and Mamas Rappin
Talkin about cold loughin
shut up and you the one
use what you got show me
your on the floor so let me see
dont say nothing less i saw
and remember i like it raw

Baby let me show...

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RE: displeased owner - 9/21/2007 7:27:07 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia

He must have been a bit more than "displeased" to release you. None of us know what the situation is, but it sounds as if it was something fairly drastic you did to warrant dismissal. It might just have been to much for him to forgive.

I know in my own case, a dismissal is absolutely final.

I'm the same way, and I state deal breakers up front. These being things that will be considered as absolutes, that will forever lose my trust and respect if one is foolish enough to breach them.. I have learned that trying to go back after this is quite futile............did you know the consequences of your actions as you broke his valuation of you ?

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RE: displeased owner - 9/21/2007 7:28:26 PM

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thank you for your reply , please let me tell you of our last convesation. He told me he needed to work through it that He feels hollow and associates that wth me right now..what happened was we had not been together in a very long while ...He travels, we finally were to be together and he brought another sub, I was hurt and showed my dissappointment which I truly regret and he told me I was being a brat.. I asked to leave. later he told me it was a test of committement .. I only wanted his attention for myself. I know I should have not and should have put his desire before my own.. It was a huge mistake..He has told me that He will talk to me again soon. But has not and two weeks have passed. We are on another site and I write him .. he does not delete my messages as though he saves for later or clings to my words.. Does that sound like absolute. Or another test of my willingness to please him and to control my me inside the babygirl..

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RE: displeased owner - 9/21/2007 7:29:18 PM

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ok....after reading your last post, sounds like he is playing games with you and i would blow off this looser for someone who would be upfront about what he will put me through...your profile gives no indication to wether you are poly or not, but by your reaction i would venture to guess that it was a total suprise and an unwelcome one at that....and even for someone that is as poly oriented as i am, that would not be cool....speaking of profiles....are you still looking or are you owned? because your profile would indicate that you are still looking and it was created a little over a week ago......

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RE: displeased owner - 9/21/2007 7:32:12 PM

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Umm... he brought someone else to play, and you expressed your feelings? And now he is pouting? That's what it sounds like. I'd let him either get past it or move on.

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RE: displeased owner - 9/21/2007 7:33:34 PM

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how big are your tits?

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RE: displeased owner - 9/21/2007 7:34:44 PM

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a-cup if even

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RE: displeased owner - 9/21/2007 7:34:46 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: dyangirl

thank you for your reply , please let me tell you of our last convesation. He told me he needed to work through it that He feels hollow and associates that wth me right now..what happened was we had not been together in a very long while ...He travels, we finally were to be together and he brought another sub, I was hurt and showed my dissappointment which I truly regret and he told me I was being a brat.. I asked to leave. later he told me it was a test of committement .. I only wanted his attention for myself. I know I should have not and should have put his desire before my own.. It was a huge mistake..He has told me that He will talk to me again soon. But has not and two weeks have passed. We are on another site and I write him .. he does not delete my messages as though he saves for later or clings to my words.. Does that sound like absolute. Or another test of my willingness to please him and to control my me inside the babygirl..

This gives more information. I'm not a tester. I dislike surprises,and I don't give unpleasant ones. He pulled a fast one on you-and you had a knee jerk reaction. Let me give you a tip here-he has security issues if he did this. His fantasy backfired, and there was a mess-and now he is too chicken to admit he made a mistake. If I had been idiot enough to pull crap like this-my consequence would have been to eat crow over it.

A man admits a mistake and corrects it-a boy sulks.

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RE: displeased owner - 9/21/2007 7:37:08 PM

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dyan or yours? cause you know I love you no matter what, but here comes the girl with the wish--------so all of us should pause.............or not give a fuck, (which is what I advocate)

Merry Christmas one and all.

TT

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RE: displeased owner - 9/21/2007 7:42:30 PM

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Santa...can i have a pony for christmas?

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RE: displeased owner - 9/21/2007 7:43:02 PM

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once again thank you for your reply's. I too feel as though a game was played, I did not mind the other sub. I enjoy it, but, he doted on her and waited on her. I did not know how to feel or react to this.. So I thought best to leave.
and then later told me she had belonged to another owner and was on loan to test me. Because He thought I was the one and wanted declaration of a bond already set. And told me that I should have been willing to just be there and not be pleased or touched .. so confused..

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RE: displeased owner - 9/21/2007 7:43:22 PM

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Hmmm...was there an agreement that he was monogamous and would be exclusive to you? Those areas should have been communicated right from the start of the relationship. Sometimes, you might have a sub who desires to be with a monogamous dom but instead is with a polydom, which can be a potential train wreck waiting to happen.

Communication is very important between a dom and sub. I also feel that he should have been upfront with you about bringing another sub into play, which he failed to do and I can definitely understand why you are hurt. I think it takes time to establish a primary relationship before bringing another party into the bedroom as there has to be security and trust.

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RE: displeased owner - 9/21/2007 7:44:29 PM

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Ass up and head down, santa will give you special presents..........

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RE: displeased owner - 9/21/2007 7:46:22 PM

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Hmmm, well in that case..................................he's playing stupid head games with you, get out now and forget him. He doesn't "cling to your words", he's just getting an ego rub and wasting your time.

Hello Ron, ya sexy old smoothy *smooch*

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RE: displeased owner - 9/21/2007 7:46:47 PM

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I believe I should be searching..I have no owner . If he has moved on so shall I ..
38DD

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RE: displeased owner - 9/21/2007 7:48:04 PM

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GAZZAMBAS!!!! Those could feed a small third world nation, maybe even me!

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RE: displeased owner - 9/21/2007 7:48:53 PM

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how long should I wait

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