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NoCalOwner -> RE: 18 years old (8/14/2004 7:27:56 PM)
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I can think of so many possible answers to this question, almost all of which could be right or wrong depending on context. The first thing that springs to mind for me is: "What are you looking for?"
Whenever I'm involved in a discussion with the BDSM community at large, I am reminded of how diverse we really are. Sure, we have a lot in common compared to how much we have in common with your average schmoe on the street, but... that only counts for so much. Some of us want pain all day long, others have no interest in S&M whatsoever. Some don't think of D/s as the least bit sexual, others enjoy it exclusively in a sexual context. And so on.
Does it matter whether X person, of whatever age, can handle a whip without taking out your eye? Only if you want to be whipped. Does it matter whether they have the skills and background to pay all of the bills and run a household? It all depends on what you want. I acquired my slave when she was 18, albeit an extremely mature 18. She was easy to work with, and never required or wanted significant pain. She did need someone with more worldly experience, a relatively high degree of maturity, and the ability to provide for her. For people in my situation, I think that the best thing a Dom/me can be is wise. This has nothing to do with technical skills, and not even necessarily with experience in the lifestyle. Giving ownership of yourself to someone else requires SUCH complete trust -- putting your life utterly and permanently under the control of someone else -- I don't see how it could be otherwise. If I do not live up to that trust, and in some way let anything go amiss, I am NOT living up to my standards for myself as a master. I seriously doubt that any 18 year old could have fulfilled the needs that I did, both because my age and background gave her (rightfully or not) confidence in my ability to lead, but also because it's almost impossible for 18 year olds to earn enough to singlehandedly support a household in a very expensive urban setting.
But what if this is almost the exact opposite of your circumstances? Maybe you want an occasional play partner who will humiliate you and make you lick her boots, and maybe you have a thing for younger females. If so, she might be just your type, and you wouldn't be risking much by finding out. You probably wouldn't want to put yourself in a position where you could be seriously injured, but I would hope that the same applies to any new play partner, whatever their age or claimed experience.
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