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to new and "unlucky" doms, hang in there. - 9/24/2007 11:03:07 AM

Perplex

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First rule: This Life is NOT the dating scene, your one size all approch won't work, and pretending to be something you are not will work even less.

Second Rule: If you think "subs" are somehow easier than vanilla girls/boys, get over it now, you will be doing 5x the work to maintain the relationship, seuxal and otherwise, than you would in anything off the rack unless you hit on the perfect fit *see rule three below*

Third Rule: There is somebody for everybody, keep looking until you find your match, don't settle on close enough, and if that means knocking on a thousand doors buy gloves, you'll be lookign awhile.

Understand some stuff. a submissive woman is one who has looked into her own sexuality and come up with the answer (and the balls) to come unto a site like this from her vanilla upbringing, has dared put out a profile and has already started exploring what is she is lookign for. that takes a lot of brass if you think about it.

I am going to speak on submissive women, since my understanding of submissive men is limited...and this only a broad generalization, and like anytime you say 'always and never', there are more exceptions than perfect examples....so your milage may vary.

so you come in expecting the women to fall to thier knees in worship cuz you're calling yourself a dom right?...that's how the math works..right? No Jethro it don't. Women who have come this far exploring thier own sexual truths are by and large more self involved and more plain brown wrapper selfish and feel more *empowered* than the women you'll find on the street, why? cuz they have taken some sembalance of control of thier own lives...and are not going to bow down to the first swinging dick who claims he can do anything. LIke always your ability to do best be better than your ability to talk about it first. If you say you can use a quirt to take a cigarette out of her mouth, you best never hit her nose by mistake....if you say you can give her a screaming orgasm, the neigbors better damned well have called the cops to complain about the noise, cuz you arent' going to get a 2nd shot.

so you keep sending out notes, and keep getting ignored, when the right one comes around you'll know it, and more important she'll know it, then you have that runnign shot at her falling to her knees. Ya don't need to get ugly to em, or ptu forth your expectation of what you believe a sub should be and if they don't live up to that they are somehow a failure. It won't work, you can't bully women who call themselves subs, cuz in the end until you establish your power with them as a man, they still have the power of the pussy and will always walk away from someone who doesn't seem to fit thier needs.