BitaTruble
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ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress
all i am saying is it sets a tone and a context when newbees are condesended to.
I agree to a point. He did give some encouragment to 'hang in there' and that's a plus.
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everything the OP wrote was great stuff,
With that, I disagree. I didn't read anything 'great'. I read a One True Way 'rule' book for dominants with a smattering of common sense and some pretty whack ideas about vanilla women and submissive women in general.
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but based on every ones responces...i am alone in this.
No, you're not. I just hadn't read the post until now.
Re: The OP
There are plenty of woman who will fall to their knees to that command from a perfect stranger. It rocks their world and if that's who they are, and that's the sort of dominant they seek, then the 'rules' would be bad for them. Being yourself, even if that means 99% of the submissives won't respond to your style, still means you're going to get the handful who do. When you are who you are, the like-minded will respond to that and your odds are greatly increased for some longevity over trying to be who you are not. The mask will, eventually, slip away then you're in a relationship with someone who isn't compatible. Those 'rules' work for 'you.' That's great. They won't work for everyone, however.
This 'life' is absolutely a dating scene for plenty of people. Should those people be left out in the cold because they don't want to follow your way? Or should they be left alone to do things their own way and perhaps find exactly what they seek in a partner? I'd vote for the latter over the former.
The second 'rule' suggests that vanilla women are one size fits all as opposed to submissive women. I don't know what exposure you've had to vanilla women, but they are as complex, as self-aware and as knowledge as submissive women in who and what they are and what they want. They are no more 'off' the rack as anyone else. Being in a D/s relationship is not 'more work'. It is what it is to the parties involved.
The best part of the OP, to me, was the third 'rule'. That was encouraging. You're letting others know there is someone out there if they just keep looking and don't settle. It seems to contradict the first 'rule' though.
The bit about knocking a cig outta the mouth with a quirt.. well, many can probably do that, but that doesn't mean someone should expect perfection. Everyone makes mistakes.. being aware of what can happen is a good start then you can assess whether or not you want to take the risk. Also, someone may very well be able to bring a submissive to a screaming orgasm. If the criteria for success is disturbing the neighbors in a non-consensual manner, perhaps better advice would be .. if you are capable of doing this task, then use the tools necessary to minimize the risk of engaging people who don't wish to be engaged. In other words, gag your submissive and then the neighbors won't be disturbed.
The rest seems to be fairly common sense albeit a bit crude for my taste, but, to each their own. If you believe it's the power of the pussy which means more than the power of a brain, that's your thing, but it's certainly not everyone elses.
Celeste
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