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slave2behis -> RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience (9/24/2007 5:56:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: feastie quote: ORIGINAL: slave2behis.....if some of you here have had the same experience? A whole three months? Wow, longtimer. Lots of patience there. I'm beyond impressed. Now that I got that out of the way ... You might check some profiles of people that have been searching for YEARS, honeychild. YEARS. Three months, my ass. I guess perhaps I am overly anxious but I have always gotten what I wanted and needed and usually without waiting too long. Finished school early, have a good career, a good Master who was understanding and I had tried younger guys. I have noticed people who have been looking for years. I knew at an early age what I was and what I needed too.

Pyrrsefanie -> RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience (9/24/2007 6:03:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slave2behis I know I wrote a lot to go through and that is explained in my ad and journals. Evidently the people involved here don't understand what a "profound masochistic slave" is. Photos would have shown them. But you are right perhaps I didn't go about it in the right way. BTW, it was not a hissy-fit just wanted to find out if I was alone. Your derision is bouncing off of me like raindrops, sweetheart. You're dealing with the mistress of snark here. You've gone through a lot, huh? How about the people who have been searching for years, finally thought that they've found the right Master or Mistress and ended up with their heart broken? The people who have been taken in, used, and left to pick up the pieces on their own? No, I'm sorry. You can't possibly have experienced all of that in three months. The reason I'm unsympathetic is because you come across as stuck-up, spoiled and selfish, all curious personality traits for a sub or a slave. I have not seen one bit of humility from you, nor have I seen you take responsibility for a single one of your choices or actions -- it's all been blamed on other people. On CollarMe for not letting you express yourself, on the people on this website for not giving you the attention you want. And that's what it boils down to; when people weren't fawning all over you, you got your feelings hurt, and lashed out in one big sulk-fest. Reading across the rest of the responses, I'm clearly not the only one who's gotten this impression from you. This indicates that something is amiss here.

slave2behis -> RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience (9/24/2007 6:10:21 PM)
Dear Mistress of Snark; You are right. I do value myself highly and I don't submit on line and only when there is that peculiar connection. You just joined here, and you have a mate so I don't see that you would have had all of the experiences I have had. One reason I avoided posting for most of my time here is that so many don't offer real advice but seem to practice a level of being mean that is probably only matched by some of the so called reality shows that depend upon people liking to see others humiliated and degraded for their entertainment.

slaveluci -> RE: My Personal Collarme Experience (9/24/2007 6:16:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire Well, Luci, that is your opinion and you are welcome to it Yes I am. As you are yours. Nowhere did I say that you were not welcome to it or that you are wrong. quote: I stated several times that what I wrote was MINE Indeed you did. As I stated that what I wrote was simply seeing the other side of the coin, so to speak. quote: And any of the subs that cme to me know ahead of time that that will be the way things are. And for ME it works just fine Wonderful. Just pointing out that, though it may work wonderfully for you, seeing it differently doesn't necessarily make someone "pathetic" or wrong. quote: I dont doubt it wouldnt work for anyone else. But I can have my opinion and judge someone as I see fit. If my opinion bothers them, or you, then feel free to ignore it Your opinion does not bother me in the least but, apparently, mine bothered you. Sorry. It was certainly not intended to. I thought I was quite clear that I was only trying to point out another viewpoint. I hate that you took it differently..........luci Edited to add: I asked you a sincere question which you chose not to respond to as well as pointed out some issues you did not address. Apparently, all you saw was that I didn't "ditto" you and that made me judgmental? Nowhere did I say you were wrong in your style. I sincerely wondered about it. But, if this is all you choose to say, I'm sorry. I'm really surprised at such a sharp response.............luci

Pyrrsefanie -> RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience (9/24/2007 6:18:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slave2behis Dear Mistress of Snark; You are right. I do value myself highly and I don't submit on line and only when there is that peculiar connection. You just joined here, and you have a mate so I don't see that you would have had all of the experiences I have had. One reason I avoided posting for most of my time here is that so many don't offer real advice but seem to practice a level of being mean that is probably only matched by some of the so called reality shows that depend upon people liking to see others humiliated and degraded for their entertainment. There's a difference between "submitting" online and using proper etiquette in a group of people. I don't want your submission (especially after this thread). I'm not a full-time domme. And I've had five years worth of experience in the lifestyle prior to joining CollarMe. I only found my FIANCE (not mate, thank you) after those years, not months, of searching and going through the bad to get to the good. This is not a pissing match over who's the more experienced "lifer," so to speak, so stick to the topic at hand. As for people being mean, that's life, princess. Some people are sweethearts, others are assholes. I only swing to the latter when provoked. Sitting in a corner and whining that all of the big bad people are big bad meanie pooheads is not going to win you any points. You were being a tough girl a couple of pages back, don't start trying to sniffle your way out of it now.

sweetnurseBBW -> RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience (9/24/2007 6:30:09 PM)
Umm its called the internet and yes not everyone is for real. It took me a year to find Master. I hope your former knows he is just a back up. Gee I wonder why you had trouble finding someone. [sm=boohoo.gif]

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience (9/24/2007 6:45:05 PM)
boo hoo ...the mean kinksters are mean to me with their advice - oh please, you're not the first whiny spoiled brat to post a thread like this and you certainly won't be the last one either. you've only been a member here for 3 solid months and all you have to show for your short time here is a "bitchin', whinin' and moanin' goodbye i'm leaving here because i couldn't find anyone" post. oh please, honey, you think because of your adorable looks and tit pics that men are going to fall at your feet in a hearbeat? your looks will carry you so far however most Doms here are looking for substance, class, intelligence and quality which is something you definitely appear to be lacking right now. and if i was your former master, i wouldn't take someone like you back after publicly insulting me in a forum. you have lots to learn, young lady. someone needs to school you on having manners and social graces in which make any master proud to own you instead of feeling like the elderly man you described him to be.

kc692 -> RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience (9/24/2007 6:49:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: missturbation So you left your Master, couldn't find anything better so are returning to him? Bet he feels good!! Well I'll continue here for a bit more but one day if I don't hitch up soon I'll just be gone. Not quite given up then? I feel a little sorry for your master if you're returning to him as you cant find anything better, butttttttttt if something better does show up .......... ?????????? short memories here.....

RRafe -> RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience (9/24/2007 6:52:09 PM)
Some people are never happy-no matter what you do.[:)]

sweetnurseBBW -> RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience (9/24/2007 6:54:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl boo hoo ...the mean kinksters are mean to me with their advice - oh please, you're not the first whiny spoiled brat to post a thread like this and you certainly won't be the last one either. you've only been a member here for 3 solid months and all you have to show for your short time here is a "bitchin', whinin' and moanin' goodbye i'm leaving here because i couldn't find anyone" post. oh please, honey, you think because of your adorable looks and tit pics that men are going to fall at your feet in a hearbeat? your looks will carry you so far however most Doms here are looking for substance, class, intelligence and quality which is something you definitely appear to be lacking right now. and if i was your former master, i wouldn't take someone like you back after publicly insulting me in a forum. you have lots to learn, young lady. someone needs to school you on having manners and social graces in which make any master proud to own you instead of feeling like the elderly man you described him to be. LOL, I almost fell off my chair laughing so hard. About time some told it like it was!![:D]

Pyrrsefanie -> RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience (9/24/2007 6:56:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl boo hoo ...the mean kinksters are mean to me with their advice - oh please, you're not the first whiny spoiled brat to post a thread like this and you certainly won't be the last one either. you've only been a member here for 3 solid months and all you have to show for your short time here is a "bitchin', whinin' and moanin' goodbye i'm leaving here because i couldn't find anyone" post. oh please, honey, you think because of your adorable looks and tit pics that men are going to fall at your feet in a hearbeat? your looks will carry you so far however most Doms here are looking for substance, class, intelligence and quality which is something you definitely appear to be lacking right now. and if i was your former master, i wouldn't take someone like you back after publicly insulting me in a forum. you have lots to learn, young lady. someone needs to school you on having manners and social graces in which make any master proud to own you instead of feeling like the elderly man you described him to be. I think I love you a little now after that!

kc692 -> RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience (9/24/2007 7:09:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slave2behis Dear Mistress of Snark; You are right. I do value myself highly and I don't submit on line and only when there is that peculiar connection. You just joined here, and you have a mate so I don't see that you would have had all of the experiences I have had. One reason I avoided posting for most of my time here is that so many don't offer real advice but seem to practice a level of being mean that is probably only matched by some of the so called reality shows that depend upon people liking to see others humiliated and degraded for their entertainment. I have a question.....how do you feel about your master's other slave who is closer to his age?????? As an aside, noone has stopped you from sending pictures to anyone personally...there are just rules so you can't subject us ALL to it....I'm sure if you would have learned the attach pics buttons, there were some you mailed that would have enjoyed masochistic pics, I for one am glad the rules are there. But I digress......how do you feel about not being the only other slave there? Maybe that is why he didn't care so much if you hauled ass for a bit...but then, is also purty cool that a 67 year old man can put you on his arm (yanno since you are a hot dancer and all) and yet you leave and he spends time alone with the other,.,..purty good arrangement, he is wise for his years.....[:)]

kc692 -> RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience (9/24/2007 7:25:51 PM)
slave2behis, you not answering??? I see you on... I wonder why you aren't answering.........[sm=confused.gif] edited:typo

feastie -> RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience (9/24/2007 7:31:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slave2behis quote: ORIGINAL: feastie quote: ORIGINAL: slave2behis.....if some of you here have had the same experience? A whole three months? Wow, longtimer. Lots of patience there. I'm beyond impressed. Now that I got that out of the way ... You might check some profiles of people that have been searching for YEARS, honeychild. YEARS. Three months, my ass. I guess perhaps I am overly anxious but I have always gotten what I wanted and needed and usually without waiting too long. Finished school early, have a good career, a good Master who was understanding and I had tried younger guys. I have noticed people who have been looking for years. I knew at an early age what I was and what I needed too. Well, I guess it's time that you grow up and accept that the world doesn't revolve on its axis for you and that instant gratification is never gratifying. Things that are worthwhile require time, patience and hard work.

SusanofO -> RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience (9/24/2007 7:47:11 PM)
Do you know exactly (or mostly) what kind of Master you are seeking? IMO, being able to pinpoint some major criteria, and decide how you'll be able to tell when someone looks like they might meet those cirteria, can be very helpful in a search. I am not saying you didn't do this - but you didn't mention what exactly you were seeking in a Master while you were searching, in this post, or how you filtered people out - or anything. Just wondering how many potentials you actually met in person, or what went down, when you did. I am not saying that you still could not have been disappointed, but - If this is a "problem-solving" thread you meant to start, then maybe that part would be pertinent information to cover. If not, then I maybe should not have mentioned it might be important. But it sounds to me, like you may have little or no idea what you really want - and that, my dear, is gonna get you into trouble, and-or leave you disappointed a lot. Unless, IMO, by some miraculous turn of events, you just happen to be incredibly lucky. - Susan

sundownhawk -> RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience (9/24/2007 7:47:25 PM)
Sorry you have had a bad experience here, you got me curious so I had a look at your profile. You complain that the site rejected your photos and then no one would be able to see who and what you are. A photo may be worth a thousand words but will still never replace them. You stated in your profile that you "purposefully did not specify what I (you) want" did you then expect to get specifically what it is you did want? I expect you did hear from every kook out there. Even my profile is a bit more sparse than I like but it is a work in progress and I will change it as time goes on. I like taking the time to chat/email and get to know someone. I have made a few good friends here in a short period of time. Throwing in the towel after only 3 months, maybe you should just slow down a bit and display some patience. Then again I suppose a site like collarme is not for everyone, you could always try a classified ad. Good luck to you either way.

exogenous -> RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience (9/24/2007 8:05:04 PM)
Reviewing your profile, some of your journal, and reading your posts, here, I get this image of an life-inexperienced person, standing with shoulders back, arms defiantly crossed over your chest, foot stomping down, and demanding, "I will get what I want...I will, I will!" Perhaps it makes you feel mature because a much older man showed an interest in you. Who knows. You note in your profile about your intelligence and you get what you want, etc. You may be intelligent (book smart?) yet you come across as rather petulant. Perhaps you never really intended to leave your D/s relationship but wanted some playtime (leaning toward poly, due to your odd request in your profile of "If you want to write to me be sure to include a photo of your current or former slave"?), or that you could ride that bicycle of self-importance without the benefit of training wheels and "look, Sir, no hands!" type of attitude. While I can understand being flattered and uplifted by a much older man (been there, done that), I don't believe there is anything wrong with exploring various experiences, in which a person hopefully gains maturity. Yet, not at the expense of a current relationship and taking your Master for granted, as if he was a bowl of week-old leftovers that one settles for because one is too lazy or discouraged to develop a better recipe without "fall back" of the leftovers. If your Master is all that you say he is, and gave you so much in various ways, why would you disrespect him, and your relationship, by playing the field...ever looking for a "better" situation. Sure, he said, ok, you're not satisfied with this, then go play at that for a while, like a benevolent parent to a hyper-active child. And that's what comes across...your childish attitude. I cannot imagine a Master who would put up with that. But, certainly everyone is different, in regards to what they tolerate, need, and expect.

laurell3 -> RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience (9/24/2007 8:08:47 PM)
Holy Christ, have you guys actually read her profile? Hon, with all due respect, you SO do not paint the picture of a submissive. What you do paint is that you are demanding, rude, immature and despite your self-possessed success, unintelligent. You have more conditions that are completely ignorant on your profile than any wannabe Dom I've ever seen...in fact maybe the reason all you found is wannabes is because you paint the picture of one yourself. People chat because they want to get a feel for who the other person is before giving out personal information, your restriction of not chatting pretty much just ruled out most sane players right there. Even if you decide not to develop a relationship, many people provide helpful insight into yourself and others, something you won't get because you refuse to actually talk to anyone that won't play by your rules. They also may help you with pointers on a more balanced profile and share their frustations in their search and give pointers, again something you won't get, you're too important to chat. They won't give you pictures of their former slaves, most people adhere to a rule to protect each other's identity at all costs, this is an issue of trust...trust...a thing you don't seem to get. Anyone that read that profile and responded in the positive...I'd run the hell away from honestly, they seek a victim, someone that doesn't have any idea what they are about, someone that thinks d/s is about tits and I hope you don't find that. Submission is not just about having someone beat your ass, which from your profile seems to be all you are interested in, it's about serving, giving up that which is your desire for another's. You CLEARLY seem to be demanding to everyone that you are all that and no one else is. Life is not about demanding, it's about compromise and seeing other people's sides even if you don't agree with them. Compassion, caring, sympathy, empathy, friendship, giving, forgiving...these are what life is about, not 65K a year, which by the way is not really all that successful if you are judging yourself in such a superficial manner. I wish you the best, however, I would recommend that you give your "former Master" a break and continue your education, as clearly you have decided this relationship is not what you desire and continuing in it is not likely to yield positive results other than your "submission" of being beaten. Yes, people here can be "mean" but you should read your opening post and recognize it screams FLAME ME ALL TO HELL AND BACK PLEASE! You asked, they gave, and honestly given your posts and profile, they were pretty tame, lol. l

SusanofO -> RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience (9/24/2007 8:21:13 PM)
I wouldn't call it a profile. I read it also. It's...it's...well, I am not sure what it is - but it's not really a profile, IMO. That's why I said she doesn't seem to know what she is looking for. Therefore, how can she really claim to be "surprised" she isn't finding it? My advice: She should read a lot of other female submissive's profiles. There are some truly great ones out there. That will give her a better idea of how a really informative and thoughtful one is constructed. That could be very helpful. Also, IMO, 3 months isn't enough time for anyone to do a thorough partner search. I've seen people get lucky and find someone they consider truly compatible that early on, but IMO if they do (and I'd consider it a rare occurrence), I attribute that to luck. IMO, she needs to decide what she wants, be able to get that across, write a decent profile, and be more patient. -Susan

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: My Personal Collarme Exprerience (9/24/2007 8:25:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slaveluci quote: ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire It is not wisdom to alow your slave to look. To prove how perfect you are because she cant find someone else is rather pathetic in my eyes. But thats my opinion. The moment a slave of mine expresses a interest in leaving to look and see if they can find something mising, they are released Immediately? Or is there any discussion? quote: They are NOT welcomed back and I sure as hell wouldnt allow myself to be considered a safe haven and a fall back plan for them. Thats insulting. My pets serve me because they want to, and becasue in their eyes I am the perfect owner for them. The second they questioned that devotion, they would be released to go find what they wanted I guess this answers my question above. "The second they question" they are gone. Ok. Hello DV, Playing devil's advocate here, I can see the other side. I'm not dominant so I'll never have to make such decisions, but I can see at least some merit in the fact that her master allowed her to look elsewhere. To me, that shows quite a bit of security and self-confidence. If he is sure that he is a wonderful master for her, what does he stand to lose by letting her go see if the grass really is greener on the other side? Perhaps he thinks that by letting her do so, she'll see that it really isn't and then she'll be more assured that with him is where she is meant to be. Just a thought. Calling his decison "pathetic" or saying he's trying to prove how "perfect" he is is a bit harsh, I think. He hasn't spoken here. Only she has and perhaps she's not presenting the fairest picture around. I don't know. I can just see the other side here. If she did express a thought that maybe she felt something was missing, I don't think the wisest thing he could do would be to ignore that and force her to stay, knowing she wasn't fulfilled in their relationship. Or to immediately cast her out as having insulted him and not worthy of any further discussion. To me, the wisest thing would be to try to find out what she felt was missing and improve upon it. But, if he felt allowing her the freedom to go looking would show her that their relationship really was best for her, at least he's making an effort. I don't judge him quite so harshly. Just my opinion too.............luci Luci, I had the same thought process...and to the OP, I wish you a wonderful life...~wanders off thinking,am I getting too mellow in my old age?~..[:D] Tempting

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