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RE: Any advice for a lady considering a much younger sub? - 9/29/2007 12:35:12 PM

SubJordanTyler

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Thanks everyone, great to hear your perspectives. Go slow definitley seems wise - this is in the most preliminary of stages, we've really only just started talking. My fear about him getting too attached comes more from remembering my emotional state at that age than from anything he's said so far.

If I had more experience, it would be easier, because then I would feel like I had some learning to impart to him. Since he's the more experienced one in this case, it could make for an interesting dynamic.

I would just take it slow, as it's been said. Having one partner with experience and one without can be a good thing. For me, it allowed her to mold, shape and train me to Her desires. I learned so much and found myself able to do things I never thought I would - including many of them in front of others.

I grew a lot because of all that. So even if the sub is more experienced than you, you can still learn from him. I know she learned a few things from me, even with her experience over me. It's a lot of give and take and sharing, even if one is in control over the other.

I say just take it slow and learn from each other and see what happens!!

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RE: Any advice for a lady considering a much younger sub? - 9/29/2007 2:21:19 PM

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Yup, to me, the age difference makes it feel even more natural for me to submit. And besides, older ladies are just better at being sexy! :)

That's because we've had lots of practice and have it down to a fine art.

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I've always gone for younger men... until I met my hubby, but he's only a few years older then me. Not that you can tell it.

I've seriously considered opening my search to include younger men but the thing I have problems with would be that my youngest child is 25... or is that 26? Honestly.... my kids don't have a problem with it, that's all on me, I just don't see what a young man would see in me.

Jewel

Yanno Jewel, I used think exactly the same things. I was so hung up on my age versus some of the girls that were interested in me. Especially being a mother at a very young age and having children older than most women my age have.

We won't even get into the whole body image thing. Let's face it those 20something girls have wayyyyyyyyyyy better looking bodies than I do. Yet....they still thought I was sexy. It really took me awhile to get past all of that.

Some people harp on and on about similar interests etc. For me, I consider myself an open minded person. I can find some shared interest with most people. Just as in meeting someone from another culture, I am going to learn something from them and visa versa. I find it enriching. I also like the youthful enthusiasm for life and hunger to learn. I refuse to become stuck in one era of life experiences, and unable or unwilling to find something to appreciate in the moment.

I guess I would just want to encourage you to give some of the young guys a chance, you may find a treasure who will thank you in ways you never imagined.

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RE: Any advice for a lady considering a much younger sub? - 9/29/2007 2:46:19 PM

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Older women are very sexy.

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RE: Any advice for a lady considering a much younger sub? - 9/29/2007 4:09:38 PM

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I've most often dated younger, both vanilla and sub in the last 4 years, a few as young as 21, but nothing serious has developed as yet. My ex was younger as well. I expect I'll find a younger sub, or a sub my age who keeps me humming (smiles). Patience. I have to keep telling myself that. Sigh.

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RE: Any advice for a lady considering a much younger sub? - 9/29/2007 5:19:06 PM

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I was 30 when I got Fox -- he was 19.

Now I'm 38 and he's 27.

While we didn't start off where you are we have grown together and I think that's important to realize. Whatever your age the odds are you will keep changing and growing, life will keep throwing stuff at you, and you will have to adapt to survive and thrive.

I made sure Fox and I had a lot of mundane and vanilla interests in common but we founded our relationship on Ds. That for us keeps us grounded and lessens I think a lot of differences we might encounter because of age. After all, it's always going to be what mistress wants first and foremost that fact that I'm caring and loving is plus to that but there is no vanilla struggle in our dynamic based on age or gender or sex or other issues.

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RE: Any advice for a lady considering a much younger sub? - 9/29/2007 5:45:16 PM

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You're absolutely right! I don't have any problems find things in common with younger people... I do have problems with older ones though...lol

Thank you.

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RE: Any advice for a lady considering a much younger sub? - 9/29/2007 9:34:49 PM

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25 is hardly a childlike age of innocence... at 25, many own houses, are married, have children, and are settled in careers... others are still in a state of youthful extended adolescence.

Generalizing by age is about as useful as arming a labrador retriever with a shotgun.

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RE: Any advice for a lady considering a much younger sub? - 9/29/2007 11:36:53 PM

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I like old farts They're old school and can keep a conversation going...even though it IS through his leather hood.
I like 'em old.

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RE: Any advice for a lady considering a much younger sub? - 9/30/2007 6:07:08 AM

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ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel

You're absolutely right! I don't have any problems find things in common with younger people... I do have problems with older ones though...lol

Thank you.

Jewel

I was thinking about this just now and I have come to the conclusion that a younger guy might be PERFECT for you Jewel. They will, as a general rule, POSSIBLY be......less opinionated about the "one true way", be more open to your uniquely wonderful household, imagine the fun 2x could have tormenting the fellow if given permission.....wicked chuckle at that thought, AND be more relocatable with less baggage holding him down.

Voila'!!!!

(I should go back to sales...)

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RE: Any advice for a lady considering a much younger sub? - 9/30/2007 12:35:54 PM

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If any of you dommes do have a thing for much younger subs......I'd love to hear from you......

I find it hard to strike up a convo with anyone on here, as i'm sure they take one look at the age and click off my profile. At 22, i ain't a kid no more, i'm a mature 22 year old who's looking to get involved in the scene (and finding it hard to do so.....!)

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