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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 12:59:22 PM   
AquaticSub


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ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

Why are they calling things things they see fit about me? This thread wasn't even about me. It was about unattached bbw subs in general. What's going to happen when I do select someone? How will they twist every thread I post into "poor me" then?


Since you asked: Many of your threads and posts revolve around being either unable to find someone or how hard it is for older, bigger women to find someone and double standards. Some of us are confused as to why you see yourself as older at all since you are only 34. While the question may have been about been unattached bbw subs in general, there is a pattern. I don't actually think anyone is trying to mean for meanness sake. Just trying to let you know there is a pattern that people who are outside your situation are seeing and that maybe you should be concerned about it.

Of course, just my take on the issue.

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 1:00:24 PM   
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ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

Why are they calling things things they see fit about me? This thread wasn't even about me. It was about unattached bbw subs in general. What's going to happen when I do select someone? How will they twist every thread I post into "poor me" then?


If ego-driven people were intellect-driven, they'd stop being ego-driven.

As they managed to twist this thread, so too they will manage to twist any thread.

They simply gang up, jump on, fluff and smother.

But they certainly make it easier to tell who has a clue and who does not.

Just read my sig

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 1:01:06 PM   
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How will they twist every thread I post into "poor me" then?


prolly.

Hope I am seen as a bitch that doesn't give a crap about total stranger's opinions and cannot be bossed or intimidated by some weenies that claim to be in relationships 24/7 but spend over half of that time on a computer being miserable towards anyone who isn't in their eyes 'cool'.

I don't feel any pity for ya.  I answered the question and thought it would move on to someone actually moving on from there. But, what good is a tagteam without aid from more followers? lol

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 1:02:15 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Bobkgin

Just read my sig


Which is also heckling. Just trying to be aloof about it.

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 1:06:54 PM   
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See what I mean?

I'm sorry Bobby, did I steal your thunder?  I know how much you like to be the one to drop the old dead wife and kid penny into the pity pond.  I just figured I would get it out of the way before this one got to page 20.

So how about it, does DBG turn your crank?  Let's make this relationship happen, you krazy kidz!

~stef


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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 1:07:30 PM   
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Maybe you and Bobby boy should consider hooking up.  His saviour complex and your trainload of baggage might actually make a good match.  He could spend his golden years "fixing" you and you could replace his dead wife and squat out a replacement for his dead kid.

Sounds like a match made in heaven!

~stef



Holy shit that was cruel.

Erase the part about insulting the deceased though and I'm all for it.

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 1:08:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		So... Xoxi... did you get that milkshake you were talking about in another thread?

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 1:09:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm not insulting the dead.  I have more pity for them than you could ever possibly imagine.

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 1:11:38 PM   
xoxi


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Status: offline 		Oh I so did Aqua 

Not some mcshakemix either...a Baskin Robbins French Vanilla milkshake (with real milk!)

It's totally all gone though...the bad part about milkshakes is I always make myself buy a small...just to get the taste of it without the 800 calories

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 1:12:30 PM   
came4U


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Status: offline 		well, it only gets more cruel as the roll-over of the crew come over from elsewhere.  Some people are just strange like that. Ya take the good with the evil.  The smart with the stupid.  Just hard to find good, smart stable people in one place at one particular time.

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 1:16:48 PM   
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ORIGINAL: came4U
Her ass breaks regular chairs..what do you call that? teleasskenises?


i would call that cheap crappy chairs...i know weight limitations of "regular" chair...i don't fucking sit in them!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

so...ummm while i was eating lunch apparently the calvalry came in to save the maiden in distress...i would say blowing his bugle, but it was probably a kazoo...

and just to throw a little religious wrench into the post...i celibrate for those that die...for they are returning to God's side...(i also mourn when a baby is born, for they are being seperated from God...but it is only temporary...) the mourning and death rituals we do here on earth are for those that are left behind...

anywho....milkshake? i want a milkshake? jamocha from arby's....


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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 1:17:51 PM   
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DBG, some people just don't have the mental equipment, or the environment, or the support needed to grow up.

I have found, from those I've helped, that those with low self-esteem do much better when they realize this simple truth:

Most of the world is never going to "grow up".

They realize that their problems are the result of listening to and believing the ego-driven.

When they stop doing that, they blossom.




I refuse to believe the ego driven. That must be why they're getting so upset and increasing the level of their insults. Sooner or later, I will make a selection. It may be tomorrow, it may be a few months from now. When I do, I'll make sure to post a thread. It will be fun to sit back and watch them turn it into "poor unattached me" that no man wants because I'm so pathetic. When they've dug themselves into a deep enough hole, I'll drop the bomb.

< Message edited by defiantbadgirl -- 10/2/2007 1:18:41 PM >

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 1:18:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		No offense came4U, but I've seen you answer some threads with a bit of a bite too. 

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 1:21:43 PM   
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One bottle of tranquilizers
One bottle of Jack Daniels (or whatever floats your boat)
One soft pillow for banging your head on
One barf bucket
One loaded handgun (because I would lay odds that you can't make it halfway through before you just want to put yourself out of your misery)
and
The phone number for a qualified therapist(because if you do make it through it you are going to need help with that PTSD)



I need all this NOW after reading this entire thread...my brain hurts...

edited to fix the quote-ie thingie

< Message edited by lighthearted -- 10/2/2007 1:23:21 PM >

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 1:21:54 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Ok.  I read the thread.  The whole thing.  (Maybe there's a little maso in Me after all.  Doubt it though.)
 
My first question is, why would someone change who they really are, just to think they would attract someone else?  This part isn't about the physical appearance.  I'm talking about the switching sides part.  Kind of sounds like someone who is straight thinking of changing orientations to attract a partner.  Doesn't make a lot of sense, does it?
 
My second question is, why would the thread be started to help people (the OP or others) with their SELF-esteem?  Doesn't the very definition of the word imply that is something that has to be built within the self?  Just in My personal opinion, the fishing for anyone to expound how wonderful a person is doesn't hold a candle to those comments made without such proding.  I'd rather hear something from the heart.
 
My third and final question is, in the seven pages that this has gone to, has anyone learned anything?

< Message edited by LadyPact -- 10/2/2007 1:23:50 PM >

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 1:22:24 PM   
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ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

I refuse to believe the ego driven. That must be why they're getting so upset and increasing the level of their insults. Sooner or later, I will make a selection. It may be tomorrow, it may be a few months from now. When I do, I'll make sure to post a thread. It will be fun to sit back and watch them turn it into "poor unattached me" that no man wants because I'm so pathetic. When they've dug themselves into a deep enough hole, I'll drop the bomb.


Hey, when you post a thread saying that you found a great guy and you are happy, I'm going to be happy for you. But posting a thread just to deceive people and then "dropping a bomb" seems pretty high school to me.

You aren't pathetic. But sometimes it seems like you think you are because of the things that you post about the groups that you belong to. Like I said, if you think that is way off base, just ignore it. You might want to think about it and if you are possibly projecting that.

< Message edited by AquaticSub -- 10/2/2007 1:29:10 PM >

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 1:22:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		I find it really ironic that as soon as anyone here responds to someone in a less than fluffy fashion, there comes along some wonderfully "mature" person to call them "immature, judgemental flamers". The most ironic part of it is that they never seem to see that in doing so....they have just done exactly what they so vehemently oppose.

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 1:24:17 PM   
came4U


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Status: offline 		Bite vs cruel,sadistic and personal is not my virtue. Too bad I have little tolerance for some that ask the stupidest questions of simple common sense, makes me wonder how some know how to unscrew their own toothpaste cap. 

It ain't personal, to me anyways. It is life of being a forum user as said previously.

btw. (for example purposes only) There are things Bob says that got on my nerves, I said it (directly to him-THEN AND THERE) at the time and arena it took place.  Why re-hash it here? I am not going to apologize to Bob for it, nor mention even specifics.  It is moot. 

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 1:28:08 PM   
AquaticSub


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ORIGINAL: xoxi

Oh I so did Aqua 

Not some mcshakemix either...a Baskin Robbins French Vanilla milkshake (with real milk!)

It's totally all gone though...the bad part about milkshakes is I always make myself buy a small...just to get the taste of it without the 800 calories



Sounds yummy. I haven't had a mikshake in forever. I got spoiled growing up near a fanastic small ice cream place and no one else makes them quite right.

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RE: Difficulty finding a Dom? - 10/2/2007 1:32:04 PM   
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ORIGINAL: came4U

Bite vs cruel,sadistic and personal is not my virtue. Too bad I have little tolerance for some that ask the stupidest questions of simple common sense, makes me wonder how some know how to unscrew their own toothpaste cap. 

It ain't personal, to me anyways. It is life of being a forum user as said previously.

btw. (for example purposes only) There are things Bob says that got on my nerves, I said it (directly to him-THEN AND THERE) at the time and arena it took place.  Why re-hash it here? I am not going to apologize to Bob for it, nor mention even specifics.  It is moot. 


I'm mistaken in my interpretation of your posts here in this thread then.  I was under the impression you were being critical of those who were saying  non-fluffy things to dbg.  I just thought I'd point out that I've seen you critical of others in the past and found your stanc here ironic. 

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