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YourhandMyAss -> RE: This is very important to new users (4/10/2008 1:12:54 PM)
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Please tell me, what your credentials and qualifications are to speak for every one on what is and isn't? who crowned you king of it all, and what was their qualifications to be telling others who're not your submissive how to do it and what works, what is and isn't allowed what is and isn't bdsm, what slaves are and are not? And what are your qualifications to speak for others on the core basis of what they're saying?
BDSM is an umbrella term, it means Bondage Domination SAdo Masichisim, or that is the typically accepted understanding of what BDSM means. So, unless you're speaking for yourself ALONE how do you know those things, like anal sex and power struggles don;t make for good bdsm.
Again that's YOUR definition of what a slave is, it's not universal. Every one's idea of what a slave is varies.
Lastly you haveno right to tell people to leave the site if they want kinky sex every now and then but have no interest in being kinky the entire time. It's a free site and every one of legal age to be here, and not inviolations of the TS have the right to be here. Just ignore the profiles of those you don't feel are "true" and doing it the "right way"quote:
ORIGINAL: stpaulslaveuser
At the core of the idea you are basically saying "I am yours to do to whatever you wish, whenever you wish, or nothing at all, with no regard to my opinion of weather or not I like it."
I don't think you have to automatically submit. There can and sometimes is a power struggle. The loser of this struggle usually submits.
If you like to be in situations where you have no control, but don't want to freely give it ever. That's not submission. It's an entirely different fetish, where as you become bound to fulfill your captors wishes either through being bound, or the inability to fight back as a result of pain, or fear. This is called BDSM.
Learn the damn difference.
Liking rough sex doesn't automatically make you submissive.
It doesn't make for good BDSM either.
Neither does getting it up the ass.
Or sucking cock,
or liking it when some one spanks you. These are only fetishes.
You ALL will have much more fun at these things of you know the basic differences. And you won't find yourselves in situations where you don't want to be.
Yes, being a sub means you usually have more than one fetish.
Yes you can be into BDSM and be a sub at the same time. Yes All of these things can and do mix.
Everyone thinks it's easy being a DOM.
I am here to say it's NOT! It's the lead role in role playing or real life and it's very hard!
Every time you find someone new you have to find out what they need, because almost none of them know what they want, or even like. They just think they do.
Also "Slaves" are something entirely different. A slave is someone who embraces the idea of ownership. Someone who thinks of themselves as an object. Either through fear, brainwashing, or who just thinks that way.
A slaves purpose is to reflect the fetishes of whoever claims ownership.
I think wearing a collar reflects this kind of scenario far more than someone just wanting to be handcuffed and spanked by their new lover so they can call themselves kinky or submissive.
Don't come to a kinky website and post a profile and claim you know what your doing unless you do. You will just look stupid. If all you want 9 out of 10 times is to get a sperm reload in your kid popper. And then be mildly kinky the other 1 out of 10 times you get naked in the dark. Go back an post your profile on yahoo personals or friendfinder or something and leave the rest of us harmless professional perverts alone.
stpaulslaveuser
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