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RE: What would you do if... - 10/6/2007 9:21:48 AM

xoxi

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First of all, I don't start fights with my SO in public. No matter what. I might tell them "we are leaving now" so we can fight in the car...but I do NOT fight in public. It just seems so wrong.

Second of all, as the owner/Dominant in question, I would presume it was your responsibility to set guidelines for how to behave in public. If you *didn't* do that, then you can't quite punish for it...not everyone has the same social standards as you do and until you teach them what you expect, don't automatically expect it. You're setting BOTH of you up for dissappointment then.

If however you *did* set clear guidelines on how to act in public then by all means find a way to enforce it

And the whole not fighting in public thing is just a personal quirk of mine. Other people might feel that if someone offends the public theyshould be reprimanded in front of the public. But regardless unless you set specific expectations of behavior, you can't quite blame someone for being themselves.

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RE: What would you do if... - 10/6/2007 10:38:03 AM

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If I KNEW they had done this sort of thing in the past, I would not allow them out in public until I felt confident they were trained well enough to be allowed that privilege.

If they actually did it in public without my having any idea of knowing they would do so, they would immediately be stopped, told to apologize, and we would leave immediately.

And THEN they would not be allowed out in public until I felt confident they were trained well enough to be allowed that privilege.

However, the likelihood that I'd want a relationship with someone so ignorant and immature is pretty darn unlikely anyway.

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RE: What would you do if... - 10/6/2007 12:05:24 PM

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I agree. I can't imagine this would ever occur in the people we associate with. If it did it would indicate we needed to find a better class of people to socialize with.

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I wouldn't associate with someone who was so socially inept as to intentionally create scenes because they couldn't control their own distaste for another human simply based on their orientation. On-line, I block such characters, in person, I leave them.

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RE: What would you do if... - 10/6/2007 12:43:31 PM

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I see the behaviour the OP is describing, totally inappropriate no matter what the orientation of the people are. If I were the domme in question I would take the side of the sub male, and after I made her apologise to him I'd send her on her way home. If she isn't capable of being civil to other attendees I see no reason for her to be there and I see no reason for her to be a representative of mine.

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RE: What would you do if... - 10/6/2007 1:01:12 PM

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Kill them....Leave their head on a spike as a warning to others that this type of behavior will never be tolerated.

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RE: What would you do if... - 10/6/2007 1:15:22 PM

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Well, I would not have put myself in that position. I have sceened live with my slave and pretty much know what he will do and will not do.
That being said, I think the key here is knowing your subs limits are. If she feels that way towards males she is probably true lesbian.
Male subs and Doms exisit within our community. There is a movement with some women who will not serve a male period.
I was trained to serve both as a sub, and my slave will also.
It comes from knowing your sub's limits. You cannot change how she feels towards men even if you beat her within an inch of her life. She still has free will.

I would not allow rudeness from my sub/slave either, but they would know that before we went to the event.

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RE: What would you do if... - 10/6/2007 1:23:06 PM

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Your a Dom/me and you take your sub/slave to a play party. Your sub/slave has an intense dislike for submales, it is so bad in fact that she purposely singles them out to start arguments with. Mind you others at the party are watching what is happening. The submale may have a Dom/me at the party who isn't at their side at the moment. He (the submale) may decide he isn't going to allow your sub to treat him badly.

What do you as her Dom/me do? Let her continue because you also view all submales as worthless worms who gave up their "natural" dominance to grovel at someones feet? Do you yank her back into line and force her to apologize plus enforce some form of discipline? or do you stand by and do nothing? Do you step up to the plate if he (the submale) decides he isn't going to take anymore of her lip and verbally blasts her? Just what would YOU do in this instance?

Disclaimer: I in NO way consider submales weak, worthless or worms. Most are some of the strongest men I've ever met. The language just seemed to fit the scenario.

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have you ever tried prozac or zoloft I think they can really help here lol

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RE: What would you do if... - 10/6/2007 2:55:38 PM

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I don't need them but the female sub in question probably does.

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RE: What would you do if... - 10/6/2007 3:01:54 PM

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I want to thank everyone for your insightful answers. The scenario I gave you actually happened at a play party I attended. My very first play party to be exact. A M/s couple who are friends of mine have a lovely home on the eastern shore so I thought I would finally go and give it a try. I must say most people were nice and very understanding about different lifestyles. This femsub in question, to me it just seemed she wanted attention, regardless if it was good or bad. Finally her behavior got so bad that someone spoke to the Host and he pulled her Dom aside and within minutes they both left. The host was left to apologize to all the guests for what had occurred since her Dom did nothing. The host explained to me that this is very unusual at gatherings and not to let it dim my view or discourage me from attending future gatherings.

It did put a bit of a damper on the party but after that everyone went on with business as usual. I met some very nice people and hopefully have struck up some new friendships within the community. I was just curious as to what others here would have thought/done had they been at that party and saw such a scene occur.

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RE: What would you do if... - 10/6/2007 7:09:45 PM

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ORIGINAL: Lashra

Your a Dom/me and you take your sub/slave to a play party. Your sub/slave has an intense dislike for submales, it is so bad in fact that she purposely singles them out to start arguments with.

~Lashra.

Hmmmmmm...the Dom/me knows the sub has a major attitude problem. The Dom/me deliberately takes the sub to places where this will result in a tantrum. As expected, the tantrum takes place.

As bad as this make the sub look, it makes the Dom/me look worse.

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RE: What would you do if... - 10/6/2007 7:11:33 PM

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Kill them....Leave their head on a spike as a warning to others that this type of behavior will never be tolerated.

Best to do that only in winter; it attracts flies otherwise.

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RE: What would you do if... - 10/6/2007 7:37:36 PM

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As everyone else has said, this is totally unacceptable. Such a sub wouldn't have got past first base with Me ... I am open-minded and tolerant of different views on most "hot potatoes" such as religion, politics, status, gender etc ... someone so bigoted wouldn't BE My sub. In fact I was careful to be sure that My new fem sub ISN'T a man-hater though she identifies as lesbian as that wouldn't sit well with Me, let alone with Master! And My sub will know how to behave at a party before W/we attend one.

At the party, if she was in some way attached to Me (perhaps as a guest) I would have stepped in immediately and shut her mouth, physically if necessary. In My deadly quiet tone I would have spoken into her ear that I would release her mouth only for her to offer an apology to the male sub and to his Dominant if they have arrived on the scene. Then she would have been propelled over to the Hosts to make another apology and ushered out the door to the car to sit and wait with no keys, music, air con etc.

If I was the Host and overheard this, I'd step up and say "There's no need to be rude, where's your Dominant?" and then fetch Him/Her to deal with it further, explaining this sort of behaviour isn't tolerated.

If I was the Domme of the submale, I'd not be too mad if he defended himself verbally as long as he wasn't rude ... I'd be stepping in though and reminding them both of their manners and removing him from the situation. If he was rude back I would quietly say I was disappointed that he stooped to her level, despite the provocation and remind him that in future, the best course of action would simply be to turn and walk away and come to Me.

All in all, an unpleasant situation and I'm sorry You had to experience that Lashra. Most play parties are very congenial affairs, so I hope that doesn't put You off. I can imagine how upset the Hosts were!

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