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RE: how important are appearances.....really? - 8/4/2005 12:42:02 AM

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their not skirts fastlane, their scottish kilts and part of the look.

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RE: how important are appearances.....really? - 8/4/2005 7:31:36 AM

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First let me say "Beauty is more than skin deep" and "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder".

With that said, let me share my views on the subject.

For myself personally I'm an athletic and physically active male, and I require the same in my partner / slave / submissive. Call it shallow if you want, but being physically fit and athletic is an important part of my life and it's a big deal in my world.

Another thing is that soceity has this preconcieved notion of what "attractive" is. As far as I'm concerned if I find you attractive to my eye, what diference does it make what soceity thinks. Also what I may find attractive to me, someone else my consider it butt ugly, so looks and appearances are subjective depending on the persons involved.

One last point as far as looks are concerned, while there does have to be some kind of physical attraction it's not everthing and can't be everything or your both going to be in a very shallow and vain relationship. Which if you as me is doomed for failure. However, as you get closer to someone and build a relationship, you begin to see them differently and in a different light, and they do become more physically attractive to you, even though they have changed or done nothing in a physical sense. That's why said eariler "Beauty is more than skin deep".

These are my thoughts and views, add them to the gene pool.

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RE: how important are appearances.....really? - 8/4/2005 7:41:27 AM

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-Very- interesting question. Looks matter to most people. Including Me, I by the way am quite...shall we say...conventionally unattrative-Im in a wheelchair and Im short because of My disability. I feel -imencely- unattractive most of the time, (A) Because I know how uncomfortable disability makes people feel. Even found research on it and (B) because Im not the "usual" size or shape.

I look at profiles sometimes and think wow! she looks amazing lol. That makes Me shallow yes,because Im judging on looks.It makes Me a -massive- hypocrite because Im judging people based on looks despite hating when people do it to Me. But it makes Me normal as well because most people do it ,I think because we all have things we want from other people-I like very tall women for example. There may not be any rhyme or reason for this kind of behavior but I think it's just human nature.

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P.S I love long dark hair as well.

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RE: how important are appearances.....really? - 8/4/2005 8:10:11 AM

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Okay, I'll admit it, maybe I am a little shallow. It's not so much looks that draw my eye, it's posture, body language that does it. Of course I've seen a hunk of a man or a gorgeous woman and just went blankly stupid while I admired them lol. I have a thing for eyes, I love to look in a persons eyes, whether I'm talking to them or just passing them in the mall. I've felt that zingggggg before and never spoke to the person, just kept walking. I think chemistry is important too, I love being around the person that just make something inside go "click". I'm a touchy feely kind of woman to begin with, and when I meet with someone like that it's hard for me to keep my hands to myself, I have this urge to stroke their hair, or touch their arm lol
I think attitude has a lot to do with attraction as well. My former girl friend was a BBW, 6' tall, about 300 pounds and dayam she was HOT!! Her attitude and personality made up for what people thought she lacked in looks. To me she was the most beautiful thing I'd ever seen.
It comes down to this with me, as long as you take care of yourself, are clean and neat, looks come secondary to personality...and of course eyes

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RE: how important are appearances.....really? - 8/4/2005 9:48:19 AM

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i agree Kindred2Evil (nice nick by the way.) i to am atracted to pepole becouse of looks, or peronality, but posture and atitude have alot to do whit it to. But when i say i am atracted to apperance, so do not nessesary that mean that apperance that is presented in fashion magasines, i mean i am a big girl, aboute the same sice as the girl you describe, so i definitly dont discriminate againt big pepole.

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RE: how important are appearances.....really? - 8/4/2005 8:35:31 PM

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Too bad ya live so far away nella *wicked winks flirt flirt flirt* lol

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RE: how important are appearances.....really? - 8/4/2005 9:14:16 PM

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for me appearances matters to a point... I suspect that it matter to most people. thou the degree appearance matters over other aspects of the person such as beliefs, attitudes, values, personality, interestes etc. Well there is much that goes into that cocktail that brings us that deep seeded attraction to another. each of us will have our own priorities in what will generate an attraction for us.... Now attraction matters and that variable changes to some degree depending on the make up of a person.. would I be particularly interested in a beautiful feline body that has very dull and plain sexual interests as compared to the reasonable attractive woman with intense sexual interests... mmm the latter is always a preference to me. We find what works.. different people bring different things to the table... appearance being just one thing to consider.

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RE: how important are appearances.....really? - 8/4/2005 9:46:24 PM

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This reminds me of the bbw threads, its just another excuse to flame people.

Ive grown up around female models so ofcourse I dont want people that are big.
By big I mean very over-weight.

Like in the bbw threads its personnal opinion. You have to be attracted to someone for their looks aswell as personality etc but if you cant stand the apperance of them then you will not have sex with them.

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RE: how important are appearances.....really? - 8/5/2005 6:55:07 AM

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In my opinion, everyone has thier own personal likes and tastes. The old expression "one man's drink is another man's poison" comes to mind. Just because person A doesn't find person "B" attractive, it doesn't mean person "C" won't find person "B" drop dead gorgeous. Everyone is different and because of that, what one thinks is attractive is no better, or any less valid that what another thinks. So in my book accept everyone for who they are as they are, and respect other peoples feelings when you graciously say to them, that you are not attracted to them.

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RE: how important are appearances.....really? - 8/5/2005 7:23:00 AM

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I've found that people who say looks don't matter are usually not being truthful.If you observe them,you'll see that looks are important.
We all have our likes and preferences and I find the eyes to be the sexiest parts.<smile>

First impressions are tricky....remember it took the beauty a long,long time to warm up to the beast.

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RE: how important are appearances.....really? - 8/5/2005 10:10:14 AM

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Like it or not, we live in a sighted world. We are visual creatures. Attractive has so much to do with attitude and internal affirmation - one of the sexiest women I ever saw was a BBW, just lush and gorgeous and she carried herself like an empress. Clean is de rigeur. A good self-image helps immeasurably. I am a believer that you CAN sometimes judge books by their covers.

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RE: how important are appearances.....really? - 8/5/2005 12:58:44 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: imtempting
This reminds me of the bbw threads, its just another excuse to flame people.

Ive grown up around female models so ofcourse I dont want people that are big.
By big I mean very over-weight.

I don't agree in this case; I think it's an honest question about how much looks (whatever your choice) matter when you're looking for a mate.
I don't suppose you mean plus size models, because I was invited to check it out at one point.
Looks matter to most of us I think (on some level), but of course it's much more than just looks. M

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RE: how important are appearances.....really? - 8/5/2005 2:07:07 PM

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I just posted now so u can see my pic and look at my profile which is linked to my site which has pics of me in Bondage and being a puppy etc. Have a look!
Oh I forgot the links not there, heres the link

http://www.submissive.moonfruit.com/

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RE: how important are appearances.....really? - 8/5/2005 2:10:05 PM

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Too bad ya live so far away nella *wicked winks flirt flirt flirt* lol

Indeed *Flirst back.* Thanks you made my day better.

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RE: how important are appearances.....really? - 8/5/2005 2:16:52 PM

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If all you're interested in someone who looks hot, where will you be in you're old saggy ass, might not be able to get it up and you're balding or going grey or getting arthritus.

Or if you love someone who looks hot now but when she's old lost a lil of the oomph, are you going to leave the person you loved at one point just cause they're old, what if someone no longer wants you cause you're old.

There has to be something more than looks. Looks are fleeting, no mater how much someone tries or how much they do they will start to look old eventually, short of tons of cosmetic work.

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