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dcnovice -> RE: Abortion (10/7/2007 4:43:06 PM)

Somehow I posted the same message twice. Correct version below.




KatyLied -> RE: Abortion (10/7/2007 4:45:34 PM)

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Do you think that experiencing pregnancy would be likely to make someone pro-choice or go the other way?


I've always been pro-choice.  Having two pregnancies did not change how I feel about women's reproductive rights and choices.




dcnovice -> RE: Abortion (10/7/2007 4:46:03 PM)

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ORIGINAL: dcnovice


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ORIGINAL: CuriousLord

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ORIGINAL: dcnovice

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And, hey, what's different about killing a toddler and a fetus?


The toddler lives independently of his or her mother's body. The fetus does not.


There's three problems with this.
1.  You're claiming that the ability to live independently validates or invalidates one's right to life.


I read your question too fast and didn't give the word killing due weight.

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2.  A toddler can no more live without help than a fetus.


True, but the toddler is not tethered to the mother's body. Someone else can take care of it.

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3.  Many late-term aborted fetuses are capable of being taken out via C-section and still living.

They're still alive.  Being depedent on the parents for substainance and protection doesn't negate this, whether it's from inside of or outside of the womb.


In that case why don't they give the baby to one of the countless pro-lifers lined up at medical centers around the country to adopt unwanted babies?




dcnovice -> RE: Abortion (10/7/2007 4:49:20 PM)

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I'm regretful to have this portion of the debate as I detest using personal examples.


I can imagine. It's much easier to call people murderers when you haven't heard their stories.




MySweetSubmssive -> RE: Abortion (10/7/2007 4:50:29 PM)

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

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Do you think that experiencing pregnancy would be likely to make someone pro-choice or go the other way?


I've always been pro-choice.  Having two pregnancies did not change how I feel about women's reproductive rights and choices.



This was aimed at the previous poster, who had asked a questions about this.  I was trying to draw her out.

MSS




KatyLied -> RE: Abortion (10/7/2007 4:51:44 PM)

Too bad, I'm not taking back my response...




julietsierra -> RE: Abortion (10/7/2007 4:53:18 PM)

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ORIGINAL: hermione83

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It's none of their business. My view is that people who feel abortion is wrong should definitely not have abortions. They should not have the right to force their opinion...and that's all it is, an opinion...on those who believe differently.


I think it's less thinking out of the box to assume that "a bunch of cells" isn't human. People can easily shut their eyes to a crime. You could hear the woman next door getting beaten day after day, and do nothing. Or you could do something to stop it. I'm sorry, is someone being arrested and taken out of society for murder, having their rights taken away by someone? Yes, and that's how it should be. They just took the right to live away from the person they killed. The law apparently takes upon itself to force people to wear seatbelts to force people to take care of themselves, and yet it's wrong to try to force someone to not hurt *someone else*? The latter is where personal rights and freedoms should always stop. It’s the essence and point of law and governments, IMHO. And even if you for some reason can't see it as "human" - why is *that* the standard? People once thought people of other skin colors weren't human. They are, but I think what makes us "human" is the ability to look at other species, etc, and take care of them. We have this intelligence to be the caretakers of this planet, and all in it. That is why we are lucky enough to be at the top of the food chain. Compassion and love, should be first, and should be extended to all, no matter what its name or type.

One more thing, the living outside it's mother argument disgusts me. You mean the fact that my dog couldn't survive in the wild by itself (or, say, a 5 year old, or a disabled 30 year old living with his mom forever...) means I have the right to do what I want to with it? Kill it? Or that doctors should be able to do experimentations on someone in a vegetative state, thinking that they can't feel it and their dignity doesn't matter? Humanity means you take care of those WEAKER THAN YOU, and you don't value the strong above that of the weak.


Ah well, Most of what I valued were the lives of the children already entrusted to my care. I figured then and figure now that I made the right decision at the time - even if it was difficult to make. And frankly, while this is a really lame argument and I know it, if you haven't walked a mile in my shoes, when it comes to the decision making proces and the time to make that decision, I don't particularly care what your opinion is.

So, IF you ever find yourself living in the situation I was in, (and I pray you won't, but then, I really never thought I would either), and you are forced to consider the safety of others beyond yourself, regardless of what your belief system advocates, I hope that instead of making generalized proclamations against those who simply do not believe as you do, you will learn a bit of that compassion you speak so highly of. 

By the way, at 24, I believed the same things you do now. At 38 when my life and the lives of my children were at stake, I came to understand what people had been telling me all along. And I saw how egotistical I'd been for accusing them of being murders and unthinking and all the stuff you've said here. So I do understand your point of view.

juliet








MySweetSubmssive -> RE: Abortion (10/7/2007 4:53:28 PM)

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ORIGINAL: dcnovice

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I'm regretful to have this portion of the debate as I detest using personal examples.


I can imagine. It's much easier to call people murderers when you haven't heard their stories.


I agree with this.  Many of these posts have felt gratuitous and like grand-standing.  It's harder to rationalize these statements when you have to say it directly to a person that you had been anonymously lambasting.

MSS




CuriousLord -> RE: Abortion (10/7/2007 4:54:21 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MySweetSubmssive

It's part of a human.

I'm pushing your argument to a logical, if absurd, conclusion.


But it's not a human; my argument doesn't apply to parts of a human, since it contends that the fetus is human.

It's a neat debating tactic, if you can make it work.  Let's see where it goes.

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ORIGINAL: MySweetSubmssive
You said that be alive was the criteria and that a fetus and a toddler were equivalent.


Oh, no.  I never stated that they were equivalent; I was contradicting the argument by a method similar to the one that you're trying to employ.  You argued that they must be indepedent to matter, correct?  My point was that a toddler isn't indepedent, so it's life is therefore worthless.  (An absurd conclusion.)

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ORIGINAL: MySweetSubmssive
These are not the same.  A toddler can be taken care of by someone other than it's mother.  A first trimester baby cannot exist outside of it's mother.


I'd like to point out here that, now, you're only arguing for abortion in the first trimester; the argument stands for the majority, or the middle and end of a pregnancy, despite this.

If an injured man can't live without extensive medical devices hooked to him, but he'll eventually pull through and be able to make it on his own, is his life moot?  Could you kill him then and be done with it?

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ORIGINAL: MySweetSubmssive
A toddler is human, but a first trimester baby is ... I agree that it is alive, but I don't believe that human applies yet.


With human DNA and the obviousness that it will become something that we can all agree is human without being interefered with (i.e., a coat hanger gouging it apart), I'd ask you better define why you see it as non-human for this assumption to work.

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ORIGINAL: MySweetSubmssive
I don't believe that humanity is present just because a sperm and an egg have come together.  I don't know where I believe the line to be, but ... again ... there are distinctions between a fetus and a viable, independently functioning person.


I'd suggest an existential approach.  If you were frozen, at this point in time- your body now inanimate, never to move again, would you be human?  To me, I'd say no.  We're not the active formation, but the potential for it.  In the same way, I'd argue that one in a temporary coma is also alive.

At some point, we must recongize that "alive" isn't black and white.  I'll give you that a fetus may not be as alive as you nor I; regardless, must one not concede that it carries the same potential for life that we define as being alive?  Is it not a self-working system that can sustain itself in an appropriate environment?  Granted, it's quite young and fragile, and exactly what this environment is far more constrained than what it could be for an adult, though we also have quite extraordinary requirements of our environment (being a large reason humans are found nearly exclusively on Earth, to the best of our knowledge).

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ORIGINAL: MySweetSubmssive
If you truly believed that anything after conception was a human, you would be mourning continuously, as one third of abortions end in miscarriage, most before a woman even knows she is pregnant.


I also know that children constantly starve to death in Africa.  I'm used to the lives being lost, even if I don't welcome it.  It's my hope that future society, almost certainly with the help of greater technology, will be able to fix much of this.  Still, we accept life, or try to; for me, it's those shots at making it better that contribute greatly to the value of living.




dcnovice -> RE: Abortion (10/7/2007 4:55:01 PM)

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"I brought you into this world I can take you out!" how many times have we heard that?


Never, actually. I think I'll go send my folks flowers now.




hermione83 -> RE: Abortion (10/7/2007 4:56:15 PM)

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well, where are the bleeding hearts now that this poor, nearly murdered baby is in foster care and possibly being abused? granted, these are the same bleeding hearts who say that teaching kids about birthcontrol is wrong and giving them ideas about having sex...well...how strange it is INDEED that a good chunk of girls who get pregnant live in areas where birth control isnt readily available or discussed. strange indeed.


When I have money or time to give, I do. And I'm all for teaching and distributing birth control as much as possible. And I will say, this bleeding heart does not, and has not, even when she was young and stupid, put herself in a sitation where she could get pregnant. So I will say I do indeed practice what I preach.




CuriousLord -> RE: Abortion (10/7/2007 4:56:28 PM)

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ORIGINAL: dcnovice
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I'm regretful to have this portion of the debate as I detest using personal examples.


I can imagine. It's much easier to call people murderers when you haven't heard their stories.


In this case, it's harder to call someone I'm fimilar with a murderer.

If one of your family members killed a random stranger, would you not have a hard time calling them a murderer?  You'd be no less accurate, you just don't like having to be mean.

My emotional discomfort is no mark against my accuracy.




hermione83 -> RE: Abortion (10/7/2007 4:58:30 PM)

Juliet, I have no idea how to make it say its replying to the one I'm replying to, I just hit reply at the end of the thread - nothing I said was geared to you. From what you've said, you didn't have any choices, and looks pretty extreme. I've been talking about abortion in general. I'm sorry for your heartache. Hugs!




SeeksOnlyOne -> RE: Abortion (10/7/2007 4:59:39 PM)

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ORIGINAL: CuriousLord

I'm a bit confused.  Are you responding to me?  If so.. well, I didn't make those quotes..

So, you've killed a set of babies because you didn't want to be their mother.  Yeah, I think that's wrong.  And, yeah, I don't like having to say that to you directly, but, hey, I do think it's messed up.


that may be the most ignorant thing i have yet to see on this forum.....just because you choose to decide when sperm penetrates egg, it is a life,  does not make it fact.....

and until you have sat up all night, crying, agonizing over the decision to terminate a pregnancy, screaming against the gods that you took the birth control, deciding that the best you can do is care for the child who sleeps in the bedroom next to yours....., how dare you say that to a woman who had to make that decision....

when life begins is something we all decide for our selves........your opinion does not make it fact.....

your absolute determination to push your holier than thou beliefs on someone, when you do not have a womb and never will have one......is sickening to me

i sincerely hope you practice abstinance or have been neutered.  if not, no matter how much birth control you use, you risk the chance of an unintended pregnancy..........if you do have sex, i hope you inform all your partners that, in the event of something going wrong, and a pregnancy happening, you will demand they carry the baby to term, and then you will be more than happy to take it and raise it with no help from them at all, unless they choose to offer it.  if you are not doing these things, you are, imho, a hypocrite above all other hypocrites.

to say to her she has killed 2 "babies" is ridiculous........but im old enough to know some day some how, it will come back to bite you in the ass......so please enjoy waiting for the time someone manages to say something to you that is that callous and cruel......




julietsierra -> RE: Abortion (10/7/2007 5:02:01 PM)

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ORIGINAL: missturbation

No they weren't directed at you.
You are entitled to your opinion and i even respect it.
However i will question the selfishness of having a baby that you are informed will have no quality of life? Would you really bring a life into the world that would have no life?
Edited to add - if you read my post again you will see i clearly did want the second child so please refrain from stating untruths.
 


Well, as the mother of a child born with disabilities, I question the whole "quality of life" argument, but in the end, again, that was a decision you made with the best possible information you could get at the time. I don't know what I would have done had I known ahead of time about my child's disability - and it WAS something they'd have found out with a simple amniocentcis. I just know that we were told the exact same thing after she was born.

Funny thing though...people may argue about her quality of life. All I know is what she adds to MY quality of life. But even that is no reason for me to impose my beliefs on you. Nor is it any reason for anyone at all to impose their beliefs on you.

juliet




MySweetSubmssive -> RE: Abortion (10/7/2007 5:03:01 PM)

I don't think there is an abortion "in general," though.  I think there is a human face for each woman's decision whether to have an abortion or not.  Juliet has shown that she made a well-reasoned decision.  Why assume that others haven't?

I am not pointing a finger at you, but I do see pro-life folks making a lot of assumptions about people and their bad motives.

MSS




dcnovice -> RE: Abortion (10/7/2007 5:03:14 PM)

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Using an abortion as a form of post coital contraception is not a good reason.


In general, I agree with you, but the issue of contraception brought to mind an interesting observation by Barbara Ehrenreich:

Yet, as every party to the abortion debate should know, those methods of contraception that are truly safe are not absolutely reliable no matter how reliably they are used. Many women, like myself, have felt free to choose the safest methods because legal abortion is available as a backup to contraception. Anyone who finds that a thoughtless, immoral choice should speak to the orphans of women whose wombs were perforated by Dalkon shields or whose strokes were brought on by high-estrogen birth-control pills.

Barbara Ehrenreich, "Their Dilemma and Mine" in The Worst Years of Our Lives: Irreverent Notes From a Decade of Greed (HarperPerennial, 1991)





pogo4pres -> RE: Abortion (10/7/2007 5:03:51 PM)

I am of the sarcastic opinion that until the kid starts paying board, abortion is not off the table  [;)]




susie -> RE: Abortion (10/7/2007 5:04:22 PM)

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ORIGINAL: SeeksOnlyOne

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ORIGINAL: CuriousLord

I'm a bit confused.  Are you responding to me?  If so.. well, I didn't make those quotes..

So, you've killed a set of babies because you didn't want to be their mother.  Yeah, I think that's wrong.  And, yeah, I don't like having to say that to you directly, but, hey, I do think it's messed up.


that may be the most ignorant thing i have yet to see on this forum.....just because you choose to decide when sperm penetrates egg, it is a life,  does not make it fact.....

and until you have sat up all night, crying, agonizing over the decision to terminate a pregnancy, screaming against the gods that you took the birth control, deciding that the best you can do is care for the child who sleeps in the bedroom next to yours....., how dare you say that to a woman who had to make that decision....

when life begins is something we all decide for our selves........your opinion does not make it fact.....

your absolute determination to push your holier than thou beliefs on someone, when you do not have a womb and never will have one......is sickening to me

i sincerely hope you practice abstinance or have been neutered.  if not, no matter how much birth control you use, you risk the chance of an unintended pregnancy..........if you do have sex, i hope you inform all your partners that, in the event of something going wrong, and a pregnancy happening, you will demand they carry the baby to term, and then you will be more than happy to take it and raise it with no help from them at all, unless they choose to offer it.  if you are not doing these things, you are, imho, a hypocrite above all other hypocrites.

to say to her she has killed 2 "babies" is ridiculous........but im old enough to know some day some how, it will come back to bite you in the ass......so please enjoy waiting for the time someone manages to say something to you that is that callous and cruel......


Thank you Seeks. I thought I was the only one that found that statement totally ignorant and uncalled for. I have been called arrogant for suggesting this. Well if that is the case I would far rather be seen as arrogant that some totally ignorant of others feelings.




dcnovice -> RE: Abortion (10/7/2007 5:07:28 PM)

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If one of your family members killed a random stranger, would you not have a hard time calling them a murderer?  You'd be no less accurate, you just don't like having to be mean.


This analogy rests on the assumption that someone who's had an abortion is a murderer, and I don't buy that assumption.




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