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Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 10/7/2007 8:22:59 AM   
sammiebabygirl


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Status: offline 		How do you feel about a sub who is experienced, strong, very open and sexually adventurous? Would she be a fantasy come true or intimidating?
 
Just curious.
 
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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 10/7/2007 8:28:46 AM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		I am clearly not a male Dom, but feel like answering. I think it depends on the man. Some men might feel it is a dream come true, but others do find it intimidating. Many find it threatening if a woman has any experience, more experience than they do and especially, if the submissive woman expresses her own needs sexually, some men actually say that the sub is trying to "top from the bottom".

In other cases, some Doms want to be the "first" instead of realizing that every encounter with someone is new and a first. No matter how experienced both parties are or are not, there is growing and exploring together.

I find that any man who finds a woman's sexuality threatening, to be insecure and not much of a Dom.

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 10/7/2007 8:31:06 AM   
master218711


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Status: offline 		as long as she is willing to submitt to me completely I have no problem with her being strong, experienced, very open and sexually adventurous.  Matter of fact, I prefer those in a slave/sub.  The experienced part might have me having to retrain her in some ways to the ways I like, and the strong part is fine as long as she does not try to use it to resist me in other then a playful type way, but other then that the very open and sexually adventurous is a big PLUS!

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 10/7/2007 10:13:05 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		For some she would be fabulous, for some she would be bad.

This is true for ANY question you could begin with "Do doms like...?"  Some do, some don't.

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 10/7/2007 11:40:52 AM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		The Man was very happy that I hadn't been in a d/s relationship before because he had met a string of women who all said "my ex master didn't do it like that". That made him feel as if they weren't seeing him, and were just interested in a replacement for their exes. Dom or sub or switch, male or female or trans, nobody wants to feel as though they are in bed with a person and his/hers ex.

How you present yourself is more important. Besides, you are who you are, lying about your level of experience will come out eventually. You won't be happy with someone who thinks they need to take six months to get you used to a medium hard spanking. Most importantly, it doesn't matter if a thousand doms aren't compatible with you because you aren't looking for a thousand different ones, just for one who is compatible.

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 10/7/2007 1:22:06 PM   
FangsNfeet


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Status: offline 		Experience or lack there of is not a big deal to me. Rather than being a fantasy, being strong, open, and sexually adventurous is a requirment. Needless to say, I do not find these traits to be intimmidating at all. My sub is to only be submissive to me and be strong enough to tell everyone else to fuck off when needed.  

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 10/7/2007 1:24:34 PM   
Lordandmaster


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ORIGINAL: sammiebabygirl

How do you feel about a sub who is experienced, strong, very open and sexually adventurous? Would she be a fantasy come true or intimidating?

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 10/7/2007 1:52:15 PM   
SirDraco7


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ORIGINAL: sammiebabygirl

How do you feel about a sub who is experienced, strong, very open and sexually adventurous? Would she be a fantasy come true or intimidating?
 
Just curious.
 
jen


Neither really.  And it all depends on what "strong" defines, but for the most part the above would not scare me away, nor is it someting I seek and need, though being open and adventurous is a plus in my book.

Just my thoughts...

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 10/7/2007 3:26:45 PM   
Focus50


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Status: offline 		For me - neither!
 
It's all irrelevant if we don't have mutual attraction and rapport. 
 
That's not to say I wouldn't be a customer if they ever do invent a "sub-dispenser" where you pre-program your desired qualities in a partner.  But I probably expect too much from technology. 
 
Hmmmm, but it did work in that old movie "Weird Science"....  lol
 
Focus.

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 10/11/2007 3:03:13 AM   
tulitukka


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Status: offline 		To that kind of statement (my ex didn't do it like that) I would have a very simple answer: I would tell them there are polite and considerate ways and of communicating (and choosing the timing of communicating) your desires and comparing me to your ex is not one of them, especially when we are in a middle of having sex or a scene. Should you do that again, I will be forced to punish you. If you need assistance in figuring out polite ways of expressing your needs, I will glad to help you. As an example, you may beg me to do something, and being content and happy with what ever decision I make. In addition, often it may be better to approach these things when we are not having a scene. If you have concerns or question, you may bring them up now.

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 10/11/2007 3:06:07 AM   
SixFootMaster


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ORIGINAL: Focus50
Hmmmm, but it did work in that old movie "Weird Science"....  lol

Focus.



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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 10/11/2007 3:10:21 AM   
obis


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Status: offline 		I'm with FNF on this one. Most of those are bare minimum requirements for me, plus I need intelligence, chemistry, personal rapport and similar life goals, etc. I'll be happy to sign up for the sub dispenser if someone is taking orders

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 10/11/2007 3:20:30 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sammiebabygirl

How do you feel about a sub who is experienced, strong, very open and sexually adventurous? Would she be a fantasy come true or intimidating?
 
Just curious.
 
jen


That's fine, as long as she does what she's told, when she's told it.

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 10/11/2007 10:46:22 AM   
Lucylastic


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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

It all depends on how well she can deep-throat a curved penis.



Why am I getting a visual of practising  slurping on a boomerang????
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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 10/11/2007 1:37:02 PM   
DarkDaddyZ


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ORIGINAL: sammiebabygirl

How do you feel about a sub who is experienced, strong, very open and sexually adventurous? Would she be a fantasy come true or intimidating?
 
Just curious.
 
jen

I couldn't have a weak sub.  Strong, very open and sexually adventurous is a perk.  I love experienced subs as well. However I would consider a novice sub if she is strong, very open and sexually adventurous.

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 10/11/2007 1:40:11 PM   
daytimeaffair69


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Status: offline 		I guess for me it is more about the overall personality, whether there is sexual chemistry between the two people.  I don't really have a preference, so long as everyone has communicated and understands their roles and limits.  But, to each their own.

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 10/11/2007 2:02:41 PM   
hejira92


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< Message edited by hejira92 -- 10/11/2007 2:04:50 PM >

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 10/11/2007 2:51:34 PM   
Faramir


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ORIGINAL: sammiebabygirl

How do you feel about a sub who is experienced, strong, very open and sexually adventurous? Would she be a fantasy come true or intimidating?
 
Just curious.
 
jen


Uhh, yea, sure.  Like anyone is going to say "It would scare the piss out of me and make me run like a child."  Or be like, "NO WAY JOSE!  I need a newb, ya know, weak, closed off and afraid, totally unwilling to take a step outside the lines."

The self-serving "Hmm, what could I post that might possibly convince a woman to let me touch her boobs?" posts were very entertaining, thankyouverymuchthough.

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 10/11/2007 2:59:33 PM   
MadRabbit


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ORIGINAL: Faramir

"NO WAY JOSE!  I need a newb, ya know, weak, closed off and afraid, totally unwilling to take a step outside the lines."



Thats what I go for.

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RE: Question for male Doms seeking female subs - 10/11/2007 3:17:22 PM   
InkedMaster


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ORIGINAL: sammiebabygirl

How do you feel about a sub who is experienced, strong, very open and sexually adventurous? Would she be a fantasy come true or intimidating?

Well my slave came to me with experience, she is a very strong individual and very open. Sexually adventurous? Ohh FUCK YES she is! and to me, she is my wildest fantasy come true!

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